kmccall Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 So i would consider myself a good catch...I'm attractive, smart (I go to a UC), independent, and have my own interests and life apart from the "dating scene." A month ago I meet a friend of a friend at a party, we hit it off immediately, talked all night and he asked for my number as he walked me home. He called the next day, and the day after that, and so on as it goes when you start seeing someone. We hung out every chance we got, the chemistry was amazing. This lasted for about a month and then....poof that was it. One weekend he said he was going out of town to visit his family and friends, which he was, he wasn't lieing about that, but we talked the thurs before he left friday and on the phone he says ok so i'll see you sunday. Well, sunday is long gone and so is monday, tuesday, and wednesday...it's been a week since he's contacted me. I've been strong and not reached out to make contact with him but damn it hurts to be blown off.....should i give up i mean is this what guys do?
sunshinegirl Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Wow, I'm sorry. It sucks to be blown off like that. I've been there, so I sympathize. My advice? Assume it's over. And, if you want to 'call' him on the rudeness of him blowing you off, you could send a gently worded email along the lines of "hey, haven't heard from you in awhile so assume you have moved on to other things. it was great to meet you; had fun; at same time, felt like there was a bit of a connection...enough so that I would have appreciated a call or note about what happened at your end. Nonetheless, best wishes..." I sent a very similarly worded note to a guy who blew me off after 4-5 dates. He immediately wrote back, very apologetically, but indeed to confirm that he had started dating someone else - an old friend. That was fine (I got over it in a couple of days); what I cared about was that he was appropriately shamed.
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