I keep forgetting my reasons

[starlite]

I keep thinking to myself "was is that bad" "Should I call him and try to work things out?" Etc... So i need to write the reasons why we broke up as well as things i didnt like all that much:

 

-He lied about anything that had to do with other girls. (8-10 lies in 2.5 years, significant right?)

-He spent 3 hours in a parking lot with his friends ex at 1am...lied about it (well, lied about timing), and did not answer his phone when I called at 2am. (he came home at 3:30am). Hmmmm

-Whenever he lied, he blamed me...saying he knew i would get mad and if he wasnt scared of my reaction he wouldnt do it.

-Promised he'd stop and didnt.

-Stayed out until 3 am almost everytime he went out, which was at least once during the week, plus his band practice, plus after some gigs on the weekend.

-He was a wicked slacker when it came to work. He didnt have a direct supervisor (in sales) so he would just sleep late, stay home some days, and lie to his boss about where he was. (and it was usually after staying out late).

-We were fighting A LOT!!!!! Like every other week we would get in a blow out..usually over things that didnt need to be a blow out, he just wouldnt let me walk away, take a breather...his idea of walking away was leaving, going to a bar and not coming home until like 2 or 3 or 4.

 

Something that has always bothered me...I had a heart procedure and I couldnt drive for one weekend after it. It was a minor procedure. SO he was great to me Thursday when I had it done, and stayed with me Friday. But Saturday hit and he went to a friends at 6pm and didnt come home until 4 am! I was still scared, my heart was having crazy palpitations...it was one weekend, but he couldnt stay in with me. He didnt even call to check on me.

 

And also, i had improved HUGE. I was insecure...I didnt trust his words (due to lies) but when I realized I could lose him I turned it around. I no longer got super pissed when he came home late. I didnt give him the silent treatment when he came home, or the 3rd degree about what he did. I relaxed on it.....all i asked of him like 4 times was to PLEASE just be honest with me, let me react...and although he would be ok for a few months, something else would happen and he would lie.

 

These are all legit reasons to not get back together right???

[starlite]

I would love some responses!!!!!

[Spinderella]

Of course they are legitimate reasons. You would not have broken up with him, if you had no reasons. I know this one. I have done it myself. Especially if you are having a bad time with something else at the moment, then its easy to think, "was that so bad?"

Of course it was bad, or you would have been happy.

[Amy22]

I am in the same situation you are in. My boyfriend also lied about little things but they still matter and no one deserves that. You have to believe in yourself that you made the right decision. It is hard when your heart hurts though. Stay strong. You deserve the best.