mouse52 Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 I was looking for something on my bf's desk, and started digging through a stack of papers that I thought it might be in... in this stack of papers (that i don't think has been there until this week) there are pictures of his ex and postcards from her. i really don't know how to feel about this. why would he be digging this stuff out and looking at it? i know that they dated around 02-04, then they were friends after, then around 06 they had sex. i have never heard him mention this girl, but all of these things are building up and i don't know what to think. he likes to upload pictures to facebook, and two weeks before we started dating, there are all these pictures of her. i am really confused and i don't know what to do. i just feel sick, like he still loves this girl and that i will never be good enough as her. opinions???
tomwiz Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Get out of your head so much, you debatebly snooped, found pictures of an old gf (im sure you have some of your old fling). Its not a big deal unless there are other signs
LakesideDream Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 A person who looks for trouble, usually finds it. Why are you concerned about something that is 18 months old and happened before your current relationship?
stace79 Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Having been in a similar situation, if I knew a year and a half ago what I know now, I would NOT get involved with a guy who still has feelings for an ex. If I were you, I would be honest that you found those pictures and that you are concerned about whether or not his still has feelings for the ex. If he does, RUN in the opposite direction. Granted, the guy I got involved with who was still dealing with feelings for an ex is now my live-in bf, but my case seems to be extraordinary, and he and I still have a ton of issues we are working on. Be honest, though. If he cares enough, he will talk to you about it openly and hopefully you won't have to have that discussion again. If he doesn't care enough to make you feel secure, he's not worth the effort.
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