Beckylynne Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Hi Everyone... So I'm in a LDR right now and things have been really tough. I'm trying to get used to living in Asia while my loved one is doing an intense MBA back in North America. At first it wasn't so bad. I didn't have much access to the internet or to a phone. I missed him but I knew he missed me too. Now that I'm getting settled... I have a phone and internet access. When I first got the phone he would send me text messages once and a while and well he would sometimes respond to my emails. I know he's super busy with school but lately I feel like he's not responding at all. Obviously I jumped to conclusions that maybe he didn't love me anymore, that maybe he regretted proposing to me (he did it right before we went our seperate ways.) I thought I was being foolish so decided to ask him about it. He went on about time and said that he just didn't have any time whatsover. He also said he wasn't going to reassure me that he loved me because it's something I should know. The last time we talked on the phone he started going on about time... and how the MBA was really tough. He even mentioned that 3 guys in his class that were in LDRs had already broken up. (It's been 3 months) I said yeah.. but were they engaged? And he told me two of them were. Thinking he was hinting that he wanted to break up I asked... "Well... Do you wanna call it quits?" He laughed as though I had come up with this out of the blue. He said he wanted to since I obviously wanted to. I said I didn't. He asked what I would do if we did. I said "likely die". ( I really feel like I may be relieved cuz I won't be worrying all the time anymore.. I'll know he doesn't love me and it'll be over) When I asked him he said "nothing... I would just continue with my insanely busy life". He asked if I would still be his friend if we broke up. I said no. Then he said "what if we take a break?" I said I didn't want to. He said well if we did I wouldn't even have time to date anyone. I didn't like that answer... I would have liked I wouldn't want to date anyone else anyway. I've decided not to do anything drastic until we at least see each other again. Which will be in a couple months. I just don't really understand what to do. I feel like I"m annoying him if I call, text message him, instant message him... he sometimes answers but doesn't really respond to what I'm saying. He just goes on about not having any time. Basically I feel like I'm always bothering him. I'm trying to figure out if it's me being totally insane but I can't help but feel he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore. I know I love him... I know I want to be with him forever. And I know if we were living in the same city none of this would be happening. Should I back off? And see how things are when we see each other next? Or if I do that will he think I don't care anymore? I just don't know what to do anymore.... Any comments would be great...
ahah2322 Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 oh dear, this sounds awful. like Pentula77 commented, it sure doesn't sound like he loves you at all. i suggest that you back off for a while and if he does not make any significant attempt to ''get back'' into the relationship, then i would suppose you will be better off without him. take care and be strong, babygirl.
Author Beckylynne Posted October 19, 2007 Author Posted October 19, 2007 I guess that's what I've been afraid of hearing. I have backed off... I guess we'll see what happens.
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