Trialbyfire Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 you'll end up bitter and feeling inferior. I find this to be a defeatist attitude. If you want to succeed, you believe in your ability to do so. Only you limit yourself, by being unwilling to give up sufficient other aspects of your life to accomplish your goal, or through personal insecurities. Pick one, it's yours to keep.
Darkzen Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 I find this to be a defeatist attitude. If you want to succeed, you believe in your ability to do so. Only you limit yourself, by being unwilling to give up sufficient other aspects of your life to accomplish your goal, or through personal insecurities. Pick one, it's yours to keep. Let's be realistic for a minute... "the skies the limit" isn't true for the vast majority of people in the world. Why set yourself up for failure, by focusing on the goal? Try enjoying the journey. Society has unrealistic views on success, once you buy into them, you're pretty much assured failure. This leads to bitterness and a feeling of inferiority. We must find out what fulfills us and work towards it IMHO. It doesn't matter if you roll a Ferrari or a Pinto, have a mansion or a shack, 100 million or 100 dollars in the bank... it won't give you a feeling of fulfillment. That is unless you got all that by doing something that is fulfilling to you. Some of us didn't have the opportunities to do what is fulfilling. Let me rephrase, some of us didn't have equal opportunities to do what is fulfilling. Life isn't fair though, so we do what we can. I'm currently going to school for 3D animation, this opportunity was given to me by my brother. If not for him, I'd still be working jobs that didn't come close to fulfilling me. I could make more money as a police officer, but who cares if I have a little extra cash if I'm feeling unfulfilled. It took a long time for me to find a field that I kind of enjoy... it's not my dream job or anything, but I never had the opportunity to do what I'm truly passionate about. At least with 3D animation, I can be somewhat creative. So I ask you, what are you willing to give up to be successful in the eyes of society? Because I'm not willing to give up feeling fulfilled, just to roll a bit nicer car or have a bit bigger home. I believe that you must enjoy the journey or what's the point of the destination? You may not even get there, then what? What would you have to show for your life, if you failed to reach your goals? Trust me, I didn't realize this until my break-up... I basically lost nine years of my life, because I was too focused on the goal and didn't care about the journey. Here, take a look at some of my 3D animation projects and tell me it's not better than writing reports/tickets... http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y193/Darkzen2484/BFV_occlusion.jpg http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y193/Darkzen2484/scenepic2.jpg http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y193/Darkzen2484/scenepic3.jpg
Ponzoli Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 You are a great girl and your boyfriend is lucky to have you. I am sure that ya'll make a great/extremely cute couple, and you have nothing but better days and a life filled to the brim with happiness ahead of you. Buck up!
Replicant Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 I understand your feelings of despair at your job, but need to ask why you applied there in the first place. Also, your characterization of your fellow employees is not only judgemental, but mean. Some people don't have opportunities (immigrants), some a trying to make the best of a bad situation (former addiction), etc. Sounds like you're projecting your bad feelings about yourself on the people around you. That's sure to make whatever time you spend there even more miserable. Try if you can to find some humor in your situation, try to learn something from those around you rather than just seething (boyfriend included). I agree with this, people in glass houses should not throw stones. I think i read you were into drug use, and basically came off sounding quite troubled in other posts. Definitely not one to judge here especially not having ever worked. In the most basic aspect i can at least say these people are working a job and not deadbeats drawing from society. Maybe they are in the same boat as you doing that and upgrading themselves in the meantime? getting over problems or even still they are actually happy. To each their own surely, but comparing the whole thing to your boyfriend or an ivy league crowd kinda killed your argument. I would say by your age most people have worked part time jobs and then understand what they want as a career. Given something to work towards. Where as quoting say your boyfriend or ivy league crowd they are more people of entitlement. So if those very same people were cast into a more realistic situation for a student.. such as working in a job like you have now to earn money and having to pay off debt. The reactions to that would likely be comparable to that of a young child.
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