Slowly we grow ... an update on 'wish me luck thread'

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For those of you that want a little background you can refer to http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t132240/

 

I have been very excited about my financial windfall and have been dying to tell ML (my love). I needed to be smart on how I approached letting him know as this is a critical time for us. I keep reminding myself that I had said this is a time for personal growth and for him to work through his confusion. I had emailed him on Monday to let him know something significant had happened in my life over the weekend and that I wanted to share the news the next time we met. Since things were in his court as to when that would be and I am bouncing off walls with excitement I had to take things into my own hands. I sent him an email today asking if he was available to meet for a coffee/drink because I saught his advice. I knew he was probably going to see the kids tonight so I suggested later in the evening as I too had an appointment. He called just before 8 and suggested he just come to my place.

 

Wow - my place and his suggestion. In the past when things were 'hands off' the prospect of going to our respective residence was not an option because when we're alone ... well you get the picture.

 

So he came over - I was all set to share a 'story' and build up to my windfall but he wanted it straight out. So that is what I did, told him that I was given this substantial monetary gift and though I have already spoken to my banker and will be meeting with my financial planner next week I wanted his opinion and advice. I listened very attentively with pen and paper in hand and took notes. I asked questions and will take heed to his advice. He told me that after I meet with my planner he would be happy to look over the proposals.

 

I had already made the decision that nothing was going to happen until he files for divorce and I am going to stand by that. I have to tell you that when I walked him to the door we couldn't help but embrace and kiss with the same passion as we always have. He couldn't help 'groping me' and I in turn had to do the same - it was kinda funny, like the ice had been broken. We were able to say good night, each of us with a smile on our faces.

 

And so I continue ... one day at a time ...