katie82 Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 hello all! so i just needed to vent and ask for some advice. i would say i have a pretty large social circle- i have 2 roommates that i am close with and still am close with friends from high school, college and grad school. at this point, i am feeling a bit overwhelmed by trying to keep everyone happy, returning phonecalls, emails, making plans, etc. the thing is, i am beginning to notice some problems/issues with some of my friends. ive noticed that some of my friends can be so selfish sometimes. when we get together, all they do is talk about themselves. sometimes they make me feel uncool, like i dont measure up. they'll make me feel guilty if i have to study and they want to go out somewhere. sometimes they are just plain rude- they dont mean to be but they can be spacey. like, have you ever been talking to someone and then realized that they havent been listening for the past 5 minutes? it just happened AGAIN tonight and i am at my wits end dont get me wrong- i do have my really true best friends that i love to death no matter what. and i do really care about all of my friends MOST of the time. but im at the point where i feel like i need to distance myself from certain people. i am just so busy and worn out by all of this that i have a really low tolerance for peoples rudeness and selfishness is this a normal thing to go through in your 20s? am i just a really negative person? i am just tired of putting in time/effort for friendships and in turn having people be flakey, spacey, and selfish.... i know im being a bit dramatic. can anyone relate to this? maybe its a girl thing.... thanks! katie
KenzieAbsolutely Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 i just "dropped" a friend myself. sometimes, as you grow and change, you realize that certain people are in your life for a reason, but then that reason starts to fade. you start to see that you hold less in common, and their place in your life is no longer necessary or wanted. it's only natural. don't feel bad. people in our lives come and go, and if there are people making you feel bad about yourself, you're better of without them; they're not real friends anyway.
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