Ponzoli Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 So yesterday in work, the file room girl is walking around our office, handing out files we had requested. Now we are not friends, we have probably spoken to one another once or twice, just running into each other around the office, for like 30 secs here, 30 secs, there, etc. You know, nothing major or anything. Well the other day, she comes by my desk, hands me the files,and I thank her as always. She says you're welcome, (as always) turns her back to me to and begins to walk away, and then all of a sudden she turns back toward me, makes eye contact, and has a big smile on her face. Now in the intervening time between when she handed me the file and turned back around I hadn't said anything, no jokes, hadn't called her name, nothing, I was mum. I was checking her out as she walked away, so I suppose that she could have caught me doing that when she abruptly turned to face me. Should I read any interest at all on her part? I mean I was just surprised at the abrupt turnaround for no reason in combination with the big smile and the eye contact. Anything there or am I just dreaming again? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks ladies.
Sweetcheripie Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Ponzoli!!! Go to the bathroom right now - look in the mirror. Take a good look. Now, smile at yourself. Give yourself one of those "how you doing?" looks. Now say to yourself smiling in the mirror "Hello, would you like to go to lunch with me?" Try it again. Smile and say it again. Say it until it rolls off your tongue. What is the WORST thing that could happen if this girl from work, or the girl from school say NO. What is the worst thing that could happen if one of them says YES! Just ask them!!! How in the heck could we know what she was smiling about? Maybe she thinks you are adorable, hot, and she is dying to have your baby or maybe you have a milk mustache and she was trying to find the right words to tell you without cracking up. If you are interested... ask. Please just ask one of them out - we will all be so happy to hear about it! You have been given great advice by soooo many caring, wise people on here now please use it!!!! Sorry to sound a little cranky - I just really want to see you ask one of these girls out and have some fun.
Lunar Sonata Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Ponzoli I read alot of your posts and you seem inexperienced about not just how women work but people in general. Yes, you're reading too much into this. More often than not, if you have to question if chemistry or 'spark' happened, it probably didn't. You're the best judge, after all. Also I'm reluctant to post in your threads because half the thread's replies is you profusely thanking us or asking for someone's reply when they've left the internet for 45 goshdamn minutes. "Your one vice, is you're too nice." - The Offspring
Author Ponzoli Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 Ponzoli I read alot of your posts and you seem inexperienced about not just how women work but people in general.-Indeed Lunar Sonata. I appreciate your in depth Psychological insight. I am quite misanthropic in "my way", detached, if you will from the rest of mankind. Also I'm reluctant to post in your threads because half the thread's replies is you profusely thanking us or asking for someone's reply when they've left the internet for 45 goshdamn minutes. I can understand your "reluctance" to post in my threads, and while it profoundly pains me on an emotional level, I must say that I would completely understand if you were to boycott all of my future posts. As I said, I am not sure I could recover from the loss of your riveting insight, but that just may be my cross to bear. I also, apologize in advance for thanking you for your reply to this particular thread. If it is to serve as your final response to a thread of mine, I must admit that you have managed to go out "on top" for your above post was truly Lunar Sonata at his finest, as sardonically witty and scathingly insightful as ever! Thanks Buddy! oh and PS-I believe it was 37 "goshdamn" minutes, not quote 45 "goshdamn" minutes, althought I do admire your restraint in refusing to taint my thread with profanity. Once again, I applaud you, sir. Well done!
Author Ponzoli Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 I just wanted to say that you didn't sound cranky at all, and I can understand your frustration. I have indeed been given a lot of good advice from the people on this board, and I do need to act. Thanks for reminding me of that fact. P.S. Lunar, I apologize for replying to "thank" SweetCheriePie, I know how all of this thanking causes you discomfort and all, but here, since she is a friend, I thought it was warranted. Thanks!
plainoldjared Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Firstly, the energy and thought you put behind your reply to lunar is the type of energy you should be carrying over into your everyday activities, maybe then you'd be more comfortable with asking a girl out, instead of passive aggressively attacking someone for pointing out your bad habits (ie thanking internet folk instead of acting on the advice). Dont be offended by my comment though bud, just understand that you dont need to come off so needy, its unattractive. This is a good place to start practicing... This file clerk lady of yours, if she gave you a nice big smile (and youre interested in her and not just thankful that someone is paying attention to you) then you should most definitely ask her out... like everyone else has pointed out whats the worst that could happen?
Author Ponzoli Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 I understand what you are saying. I am not upset with you in the least for your honest response and opinion, just as I did not consider SweetCheriePie's response to be "cranky", or however it was that she classified it. You are definitely right that I need to redirect my energy. Also, excellent point on the passive aggressiveness of my response. If I had to describe myself, "passive aggressive" would certainly be at the top of the list, right alongside "petty", and "vindictive." However, just to be clear, my response to Lunar Sona, PhD did not require all that much forethought our preparation at all. It just kind of came naturally and "flowed" from my fingertips if you will (and I'm not even all that great a typer-folks!) Personally, it was all in good jest, and I am sure that Lunar, with his adroit sense of humor and keen insight into the human condition, realizes this. Hell, I am just humbled that he still reads my threads.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 18, 2007 Author Posted October 18, 2007 Jared, I also just saw your other thread, sorry that I didn't post in it man. I wish you the best of luck on that situation however it turns out. Good luck, bro!
Lunar Sonata Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Heh, as I expected. You're a faker, Ponzoli. I'm not falling for your schtick and this is the last time I reply to your silliness. I knew you weren't as inept as you seemed, and in my own little way I called you out on it. Thanks for showing your true colors. Bye!
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