carolinaboy Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 I'm gonna bet I get the obvious what a stupid question response to this...cos obviously it seems as if it is a horrible idea to contact an ex after NC if you are under the influence of anything. i should probably wait and see if i feel the same when i wake up tomorrow. my ex that i dated for 2 1/2 years and i broke up 3 mos. ago. her name has just been coming up a lot lately and it only hurts half as much to hear it thesedays....i also realize even though she broke up with me and i am hurt, i want to have her as a friend once i've healed. i guess the hardest part of losing someone you truly loved is the friendship....i might not be ready yet....but my lubricated mind is thinkin it'd be nice to make peace. i also am looking to get over social exile to the places we once went and not have to worry about being around her in social situations. she still wants to be friends, but i cant tell if that is a genuine response or a consolation. she's also been hard to read at least to me, which i can see is a facet of why we didnt work out. i wanted to be able to read her, and understand her. we may not have been meant as lovers, but she was a great friend before our romance/relationship started and ended. i'll just wait til tomorrow to figure it out.
wowIlose Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 It sounds to me like you still have to many strong feelings to be friends. Stay strong, stay with NC. She'll still be there in 6 months. If she pressures you just tell her you can't be friends because your in the process of moving on and being friends is not beneficial to either of you right now. Stay strong!
Krytie TV Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 NEVER DRUNK DIAL!!! You ALWAYS wake up regretting it.
Author carolinaboy Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 no, i wasnt gonna call....i was going to think of an articulate email....either way, i suppose the sentiment while tipsy is not the way to go. minor crisis averted! thanks
Krytie TV Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Whew... we saved the world from one more pathetic drunk gesture. You're very welcome.
joekurtz Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 NEVER DRUNK DIAL!!! You ALWAYS wake up regretting it. But ... what about those of us who are never sober? Just kidding. Honest. But,yeah, the drunk dial is never a good idea. No matter what you're feeling at the time, mad, sad, lonely or even glad, when you call up pissed ( as in drunk, not angry ) you almost always make things worse somehow. And believe me, I say this from much personal experience. Plus, there's always the distinct possibility that you won't recall a thing you said the next morning, which will inevitably lead to a panic attack. 'Cause you'll remember calling, but not a work you said. Although you may've been left with a foggy recollection of screaming. Or crying. Or both. Not good. So, NO drunk dials ( or e-mails either! ). Peace.
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