Hulme Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Boyfriend gave me the "love you but not IN love with you speech" not too long ago. We didn't quite end things, but didn't decide what we actually were to each other anymore. Thing is, I still love the guy (I know, I know...but we've all been there, right?). So, on a friend's advice, I did something I normally NEVER do. I played games. Layed low, didn't always take his calls or kept them short cause there was somewhere I needed to be, etc. I HATE to say this, but it seemed to work like a charm. He started calling, texting, emailing and IMing more, always wanting to know how I was and what I was doing. So, since we never defined things after "the talk", if I sleep with him now will he see me as FWB? How long should I hold out? Believe me, flamers, I KNOW how dumb this sounds, but I really want to hold on to this guy. So those of you who'll only chime in to say "let him go"--I appreciate the thought, but I ain't gonna listen
Krytie TV Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Believe me, flamers, I KNOW how dumb this sounds, but I really want to hold on to this guy. So those of you who'll only chime in to say "let him go"--I appreciate the thought, but I ain't gonna listen I'm not sure you do. Having sex with him will not "hang onto him". Were you having sex before the "not in love with you" comment? If so, how effective was sex in hanging onto him then?
Author Hulme Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 Not thinking the sex will hold onto him--more thinking how good it was for ME. . Was more wondering if sleeping with him would get in the way of getting him back. Guess you're right though, I shouldn't go there unless he openly declares he's changed his mind. Thanks!
jcster Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Believe me, flamers, I KNOW how dumb this sounds, but I really want to hold on to this guy. So those of you who'll only chime in to say "let him go"--I appreciate the thought, but I ain't gonna listen Ok...gotta say - it sounds pretty damn dumb. Why in HELL do you want to hold on to this guy? If you refuse to listen, I ain't gonna preach...but I need to say this... "Don't come crying when you get your ass kicked because you asked for it!!!!" Oh, wait...is it love yet?????
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