rayray29 Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 ok, i met this guy through a friend, he is into the same work that im going to school for. With this said, i sent him a message asking for some friendly info about his job in regards to my interest in the field. He then offered to meet for a drink that night instead of typing it out for me. We had only really met once before this. I go for the drink and everything seems friendly nothing more. not a date. Then he leaves for work for a week. I get the nerve to txt him and ask how work is going. He then askes me if he can take me out when he gets back on sunday. i say yes and he calls like he said on sunday. Now sunday rolls around, he picks me up, we go for the drink. There are no sparks, but things seem ok. We go and get some movies, go back to his place and after the first movie he casually puts his arm around me and we cuddle for the second movie. He is his resting his head on mine, and is very, very cuddly. Its time for me to go, and he drives me home. When i get to my house, he doesn't try to kiss me! im leaving and im wanting one... so i look back in the vehicle and say this is the akward part of the night, and im going to kiss you.. he looked taken aback and said "ok" so i did, then i left. He said before this he will call on his next days off.. this was sunday, its now tuesday. Was my move too much for him? I have often been told that im very intimadating and with my attractiveness it makes guys more nervous.. is there reasons he didnt want to try to kiss me? and do you think after all this rambling he will call? he seemed interested.. but the sparks were not enough to start some blazing fire, but there is potential. And he seems to be nervous or shy too.. hmm joys of dating!!
gfto Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Every guy on here should read your post, because it illustrates a few important points that are lost on most men: (1) At the end of the first date, for crying out loud, KISS HER; If she likes you, she'll want you to. If she doesn't like you, she'll turn her head, signaling that you should not bother asking for another date. (2) waiting a few days to call for a second date is perfectly ok. It does not cause her to lose interest. Lots of women claim that waiting a little while to call for a second date is "playing games" and will just cause her to forget about you. But, as we see here, if the woman likes you, she'll be wondering, "Is he going to call?" As for your question, from what you've told us, it sounds like he is just shy and inexperienced. It does indeed sound like it was an awkward date. Putting his arm around you (on the first date, no less) during the movie was his awkward way of showing that he's interested. But, he's shy, so he was surprised that you kissed him. I don't think you did anything wrong though.
Lizzie60 Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Was my move too much for him? I have often been told that im very intimadating and with my attractiveness it makes guys more nervous.. is there reasons he didnt want to try to kiss me? and do you think after all this rambling he will call? he seemed interested.. but the sparks were not enough to start some blazing fire, but there is potential. And he seems to be nervous or shy too.. hmm joys of dating!! Not at all.. I think you did just fine.. Just wait, maybe he got busy with something.. maybe he just wants to make you wait a little bit.. he doesn't want to look too 'desperate' LOL Just take it slow and if he's interested, you'll hear from him.. don't worry... and if you don't... well it's his loss.
Pentula77 Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Every guy on here should read your post, because it illustrates a few important points that are lost on most men: (1) At the end of the first date, for crying out loud, KISS HER; If she likes you, she'll want you to. If she doesn't like you, she'll turn her head, signaling that you should not bother asking for another date. (2) waiting a few days to call for a second date is perfectly ok. It does not cause her to lose interest. Lots of women claim that waiting a little while to call for a second date is "playing games" and will just cause her to forget about you. But, as we see here, if the woman likes you, she'll be wondering, "Is he going to call?" As for your question, from what you've told us, it sounds like he is just shy and inexperienced. It does indeed sound like it was an awkward date. Putting his arm around you (on the first date, no less) during the movie was his awkward way of showing that he's interested. But, he's shy, so he was surprised that you kissed him. I don't think you did anything wrong though. on the money...
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