Oregon Blackberry Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 If a guy seems like a nice guy, I'll go out with him whether I think he's dating material (i.e. I feel any attraction) or not. I feel that even if I know right off I am not interested, I am always interested in a new, interesting friend. So...I will date a guy I find unattractive for one or two dates (no kiss or sex, of course), but then I will tell him I don't feel a spark the same way he does for me, but I would enjoy hanging out and spending time together as friends (if this is the truth. if I have no desire to hang out with him again after one or two dates, I'm obviously not going to tell him that I want to hang out with him again.) So the answer to your question is yes, I will date a man I'm not attracted to, but not beyond one or two dates, and there will be no kiss or sex.
Yamaha Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 So...I will date a guy I find unattractive for one or two dates (no kiss or sex, of course), but then I will tell him I don't feel a spark the same way he does for me, but I would enjoy hanging out and spending time together as friends But you know as soon as you find the guy that does give you sparks you will not be hanging out with this "friend" often and the friendship will die. Being nice is not always "being nice".
MikeChurdh Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 But you know as soon as you find the guy that does give you sparks you will not be hanging out with this "friend" often and the friendship will die. Being nice is not always "being nice". Yamaha, raises an excellent point for both the men and the ladies of this board to consider. Sometimes it is cruel to be kind.
Oregon Blackberry Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 that can go with any friend, though, male or female. Plus the friend knows upfront that I see him as a friend, and that means I will be dating, and he should, also. I just see it, if a guy asks me out, and I'm single (and he also), I don't see what's wrong with going out with him. He gets the pleasure of spending at least one or two dates with me, and we both possibly make a new friend. I guess I just like experiencing people, not just romantic interests.
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