A good day!

[Saxis]

Today is going so well (aside from the weather being crappy), even after this!

 

hey, how are you? I know you don't want to hear this but I miss talking to you and really miss being around you

 

I still think of you as one of my best friends I know that must be hard to believe but it is true

 

I do love you

 

It's like she can't stand the fact that I'm getting along great without her, and actually have a life now! Unfortunately, I can't just have NC with her, because of our daughter, but does she really have to say this crap, even when she KNOWS I don't want to hear it?

 

I'm actually quite surprised this didn't affect my mood at all. The healing process continues to move right along, and I'm a lot less bitter about it. When she first messaged me it was about a bill that came to my address for her, and when we were done discussing that, it turned into this. What is everyone's thoughts about what she said? What could be her motivation for it?

[Crestfallen_KH]

Honestly, I wouldn't waste a second thinking about her motivation.

 

I would completely and totally ignore it. Just pretend she didn't say a thing. Any reaction that you give, could either be taken in the wrong way or could add fuel to the fire. And that's the last thing folks like us in the "STBX" situation want.

 

I would continue to chat with her, when needed, about your daughter and remain chipper but I wouldn't say a word about this - just pretend it never happened.

 

I know that's not what you asked, but that's my advice.

[Saxis]

That's pretty much what I did. I didn't respond at all to the "I miss you", "I want to be friends" and "I love you" BS. I told her I was doing great, and that I was keeping myself so busy doing blah blah....that I was hardly at home anymore (which is true). She then replied that "It's nice you're keeping busy doing blah blah... I wish I could get into doing more of blah blah blah..."

 

Then I just said "Bye, give [our daughter] a big hug for me!"