sanyy Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Hi there.. Please help me.. I had put a post on other thread as well but no one replied. Again posting this one with some hope that one out there wld help me in this break up and coping.. have been posting on this site on my problem and to tell u its gr8 help always. To just recap, I wasinvolved with this MM and I am too married. My husband n me we dont love each other. No sex at all frm past three years. But due to some family prbs we stay together. I fell in love with MM 2 years back and we had EA for 9 months. He broke up then saying it was tough for him to handle as it was going emotional, no physical though. He went NC and he really maintained to highest degree. loved him crazily. I cldnt take the pain, I brike the NC many times and sent him texts, mails, offline IMs.. but he never replied. I wished him on his b'day over text, he replied only thank you. But just a week later my b'day was there n he dint wish me. This made me go crazy.. I was so upset, I was just asking GOD to give me some strength to deal with this break up... as its clear now, he has moved on. I too wanted to move on. I know I love him like anything , but just keep on thinking abt past moments and wishing him to come back was becoming to much to handle.. And just 5 days back I landed up doing this crap.. am having sex chat ( or just normal chat also) with this stranger with changing my identity.. we talk a lot.. sometime the whole night.. and slowly I am thinking abt this new guy more than my MM. I knw its selfish to play with this chat frnd like this.. but it is helping me in coming out of the break up wound. I still gt tears in my eyes when I thought os my MM. And then finally thought of asking u all abt this.. Am I taking a wrong method of healing.. Actually I have tried everything, taking some hobby to exercise to taking care of me physically and every possible things mentioned in many coping techniques.. but nothing helped.. I was never able to take my MM for even a while and then finally used to land up bugging him up with my text or mails.. But this new technique of chatting with stranger with some unknown identity of mine is working.. I am slowly started to think less of him.. Is this wrong.. Please help. But even this chatting with this new guy is not really helping that much.. I still love my MM a lot. Oh my God its so complicated.. Why do I still hope he would come back even after 1 year.. Its asd. But this new way of chatting with a new person also not working out. I feel helpless now..
TogetherForever Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Will you be divorcing your husband any time in the near future? TF
child_of_isis Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 You need to turn that focus on your H and marriage.
whichwayisup Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Go to marriage counselling and fix your marriage. Chasing other men, married or not is NOT making things better for you. Adding another person to the mix will only create more drama.
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 This is like the 5th or 6th time this poster has posted the SAME drivel on these boards - over the last 2 or 3 months. She obviously doesn't LIKE what people keep telling her - that she's a stalker and the xMM wants NOTHING TO DO WITH HER and she needs serious therapy. She doesn't like those answers so she posts the same question over and over again. And I'll give her the same answer over and over again (don't worry, she doesn't usually come back to reply to those who take the time to post to her). HERE'S YOUR ANSWER: Get therapy! Leave the xMM alone - he's NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.
Author sanyy Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 Hey thnx for ur time.. but dont u think it was bit rude.. I guess the forum is people like me who needs help.. anyway thanks for being so kind and reading my earlier post and remembering them as well. I am glad somone out there atleast reads them and takes the pain to reply. Thank again. To ur point, I have already left him. Long ago. Its just that my post were different question. One was in dilema whether to wish him on b'day, another one was also related.. and now it about me.. and how to deal with the wound. This is a question about the new turn that has come into. I am not a stalker. I dont do any such behaviour. And plz as an establish member, dont be harsh to ppl like us in need of ur help. It hurts.. your tough language. Its a request.
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