TheRock Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 My girlfriend of over a year is acting STRANGE! She's 30, I'm 36. I recently got an apartment. She's been all lovey dovey and really into me lately. Over the past 7 days she's made me an Apple Pie, surprised me with stopping in to say hi, had great sex and have been having a great time overall. Her bro is getting married in 3 weeks. She and he had a blowout last week(supposedly) and he said he didn't want her there. She broke down crying the other night when we talked about it. She stopped by my apartment on Friday afterwork, hung for a bit, then we went to dinner. She said she had to be home by 730 cause she allegedly was going to patch things up w\her bro at 8pm. I asked her to let me know how it went. I didn't hear from her. Saturday, I still didn't hear from her, except for a texted Smiley face from her at 530pm. I didn't hear from her at all and called her Sunday at 6pm. She was miserable and said she didn't feel well and was going to bed. She said she went out with her friends and supposedly had a bad nite on Sat. She said she'd call me Monday around 6pm and hung up. It's 930 and i still haven't heard from her. I'm trying to figure out what's up... She's been depressed lately. Do I wait for her to call me or do I act concerned n call her? I want to be a challenge and not suffocate her, but I also care for her and want to know what's up. Thx.
Lizzie60 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 I say leave her alone... She might not be that into you and it's her way of telling you..or she has someone else..and she's not sure what to do... My advice... move on... forget about her. Don't call, be independant. If she wants to see you again, she will call.
Author TheRock Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 It's just weird that she would bake me a pie and be all over me if she wasn't into me. I'm supposed to go to the wedding with her, but now I don't know what's going on...
Lizzie60 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 It's just weird that she would bake me a pie and be all over me if she wasn't into me. I'm supposed to go to the wedding with her, but now I don't know what's going on... I didn't realize when I answered that you were dating for over a year...sorry.. I thought she was a new girl... In that case, I would say that she definitely has something on her mind.. just let her sort out her stuff... just wait... not much you can do.. I suppose you'll hear from her soon... if not, I would try to have a serious talk with her and ask her to be honest about you.
woodsfield Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 i think the fact that her brother doesn't want her at the wedding and the bad night on saturday have her flustered, nothing more. i am an optimist, tho. lizzie could be right but i think she just needs some space right now...she'll call when she is ready.
brothermartin Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Call her. Go to her place. Get first hand info for yourself. You deserve answers man. If she's hiding something you should be the first person to know about it. Trust me, you DO NOT want to be the last person to find out whats up.
Author TheRock Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 Apparently my name came up and her bro asked how she and I were doing. She told him about my apartment and he asked if she was moving in. She is a "good" girl and reserved...doesn't sleep around etc, so she's taking her time. He then asked her if she is with me because she truly loves me or just a way to get out of the house and away from her parents. That blew her mind and now she's questioning "us"... What the heck do I do?
brothermartin Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Is she still living with her parents? She's 30 years old and still living with her parents!?
Author TheRock Posted October 18, 2007 Author Posted October 18, 2007 She still lives at home. Where we live it is VERY expensive to buy a condo or rent. She's looking for a place of her own. Needs to be out on her own before moving in w\me or anyone, to learn how to do it all herself first. We went to dinner last nite and talked. I brought up that we had 3 options. 1- Continue to Date Esclusively 2- Date Casual and see other people 3- End it and move on. She got choked up at #2 and said she doesn't want to date others, then cried and said she doesn't want to break up either. She's confused and doesn't know what she wants. She's just overwhelmed with work, weddings, family stuff, etc. I know she is, but am having difficulty deciding if she's just overwhelmed or purposely distancing herself. She still intiates going out w\me, calling etc but it's not as frequent as it used to be.
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