Saw the ex's wedding photos- I feel strangely relieved!

[katiebour]

So the ex posted on his website that he had proposed to his g/f of one year. Put pics up, the proposal, the whole nine yards. I had to read it as a sort of litmus- "When it doesn't hurt me anymore then I know I'm completely over this part of my life."

 

There was still some aches from time to time- it's hard to get over the loss of someone you love, even several years down the line.

 

I knew they were getting married in Sept.- I was bored and online last night and it popped into my head to check the g/f's myspace for pics- she has a lot of them up.

 

Sure enough, there were the wedding pics, and the first thing that popped into my head was "Oh, they look happy!" and I felt a warm and cuddly "Yay, the ex is happy" kind of feeling. Then there was the "Oh, they're such a cute couple" thought that ran through. After the first few pics I'd seen enough and shut it down.

 

I feel like I finally turned the last page on that relationship. He's now officially bound in marriage to another woman... That was the knife I needed to cut that last heartstring.

 

I'm happy that he's happy. And I'm happy that although he still crosses my mind every so often, my focus is now completely on me and my current relationship.

 

Bah! I'm so slow! It took me almost 3 years to get here?!

 

But I still feel like something changed in my head, and it was good.

[quankanne]

in the larger scheme of things, it's never too "slow" a time to get to a point where you can be happy for the one who hurt you ... even unintentionally. The main thing is that you CAN be happy for that person. And it's a damned good feeling not carrying around that hurt or pain or hate ...

 

well done, KB.