gonetildecember Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 I have a really great boyfriend. We've been together for about 3.5-4 months.. and have really great chemistry and passion for each other. I can say this is th happiest I've been with someone in a long time, if not ever. At first he was always the persuer, the one scheduling the dates, getting excited and verbally expressing it about seeing me, inviting me over (we are about an hour and a half apart by car.. both go to school and work full time.. plus friends and study time) so we usually see each other every weekend of every other weekend. We spent the first half of the relationship together. So there was some adjustment (communication, missing each other during the week, etc) but everything seems to have worked out.. 2+ phone calls a day, chatting online, visits on weekends for the whole weekend. What I started noticing in the last two weeks is I feel like he takes our time for granted and isn't as pumped about planning/when we'll see each other next. Before it used to be like, I can't wait to see you.. can you come this weekend.. now its me saying.. baby when next can we do a visit. And just generally me trying harder to communicate, make plans... It could be that he's comfortable now and theres no uncertainty about where feelings lie, but I was wondering if maybe I'm just putting in too much.. and he just figures.. she'll take care of it? Is there anyway to rekindle his interest in me, in taking initiative and craving that time with me.. and making it exciting/different for us... or is it just time to get into our routine?
Lauriebell82 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Unfortunately I think the honeymoon period is winding down for you two. Now it's time to build a foundation for your relationship. Maybe you could say, "Hey I can't wait to see you baby, I miss you." But honestly, you can't really get back the initial fire and excitement of a new relationship. In it's place though comes a deep, loving, committed relationship that you can build. That's the most exciting part of all!
Author gonetildecember Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 I am quite excited about that. I don't see this i a problem.. I just wanted to try to,you know, keep things fresh and passionate between us. I think especially since we only see each other every other weekend, I wanted to try to keep that craving/desire/excitement about talking and meeting each other up there.
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