BrianG Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 There is nothing like working all day, knowing your girlfriend or should I say ex girfriend (still trying to get used to saying that because i dont want to say it) is moving out of the apartment you got together at the same time and trying to focus on getting work done and doing nothing but thinking about her. I know no contact is the best way to go but i am fighting every urge in my body to hop in my car and go see her and parents and apologize to them and ask/beg her to work it out. Nothing like coming home to find all of her stuff gone. What a horrible feeling! She says that she loves me but how can you say that and not want to work things out? I know i screwed up (never cheated, but abused her trust, see my other post if interested) but was it all that bad to end a 5 year relationship, when we both love each other very much? I have to see her this weekend to transfer the bills in my name and part of me doesnt want to go. Granted, a huge part wants to go to just to see her again, even though it pains me because it will be the last time we see each other unless we happen to run into each other (which i doubt because we like to go to different places). She keeps texting me saying that the dishes in the dishwasher are clean and various things related to the apartment and its killing me not writing anything back. I hate giving up on this and us, we had something so special at one point and i am sitting here doing nothing in this mainly empty apartment except crying that shes gone. This site has helped me a lot in reading other peoples situations and helping me cope with this. Granted some other people have much worse situations than mine, but I just feel like the biggest idiot in the world for losing her. Just having a really, really bad day and writing my emotions here has helped a lot. You only live once and I think i did everything that I could to let her know that i do love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her, but is there anything that i didn't do? Just feeling helpless, frustrated and depressed
carolinaboy Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 When my ex came by I was just slumped down in a corner of the house, crying. It was hard. She took all of my roommates with her (she had started seeing our roommate during/immediately after we broke up), so I felt really alone. I tried to hug her and talk to her like old times and she just wasnt having it. It was harsh man. I know what you're going through. Just allow yourself to feel however you feel. If you think its the love of your life, call her. If you think it's the end of something you had with someone that you will heal from one day, go NC. I know NC is the best for me, its tough, it hurts, but it is getting better. Good luck.
niceguy27 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Man I feel for ya too. It is the worst feeling in the world. That feeling of emptiness. They shared a part of you for so long then BAM, when they up and go its like everything comes crashing down. All you can do is go through piece by piece and start to put things back together. Just hang in there man. Hang in there.
Pentula77 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 how long were you together before you moved in with each other ?
Author BrianG Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 how long were you together before you moved in with each other ? 4.5 years. I tried begging, pleading asking for another chance, asking to work it out, asking if we could go to couples therapy, anything. You only live once right and whats the point if you dont have the love of your life. I left her and her parents a card today (i know many people on here are against letters or cards) saying how sorry i am and how much i love her and her daughter as they were packing her stuff while I was at work. But then i started to realize i started to lose my self-respect and dignity. Dont get me wrong i would do anything for her, but you can only do some much if the person does not want to work it out. You cannot force someone to do something they dont want to do. It just sucks because she was my best friend as well and now both are gone. This is sure going to take some getting used too.
Pentula77 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 no i meant how long were you seeing each other before you decided to move in together ? was it 6 months, 2 months ? 4.5 years is a long time to be with someone. will take time to get over it...
Author BrianG Posted October 19, 2007 Author Posted October 19, 2007 no i meant how long were you seeing each other before you decided to move in together ? was it 6 months, 2 months ? 4.5 years is a long time to be with someone. will take time to get over it... We had been together for 5 years, we just moved in together six months ago. yeah tell me about it, its going to take quite some time especially since i dont want to give up but eventually have to accept it.
niceguy27 Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 That sucks man. Really does. My ex and I finally are wrapping up loose ends with her things in my house. Its been dragged out for a while now and I just couldnt seem to let go until it was all gone. She is coming over to do some "walkthrough" of the house to get any little things that I missed; cups, dinnerware, games, etc. I don't know why she feels the need to do that but whatever. It's a hard hard reality to come to grips with. Esp. since you guys were together for so long. Big adjustment. Just hang in there and after some time you will start to get back to being just you and yourself.
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