Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Wow. What a pisser of a day I had yesterday. First, I got in contact with a girl I had met recently and attempted to make plans with her and was, at least I think, blown off. Not a big deal, but makes me question how I interpreted our initial interactions. I was stood up on what I thought was going to be a second date with the first girl in a long time that I actually allowed myself to be excited about. Without a word she bailed on the date. And my FWB and I had a talk last night and decided that we needed to shift back to being friends only as she feels she was becoming too complacent in her dating life because of our situation. Soooo... while neither of these in isolation are reasons to rush to one of the many bridges around the city, when combined together into a 8-hour span, it leaves me feeling very rejected. No one likes to feel rejected, and I especially am not liking the feeling of these multiple rejections. I woke up this morning feeling very down about the day (and the weather doesn't help). I need something positive to come my way, and the sooner the better.
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Aww, Krytiekins, I'm sorry. It's just a stroke of bad timing/luck, and has nothing to do with you...your arrogant little heart knows that. Why did the second date girl cancel? And what about the first girl made you feel blown off?
peace_pipe Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I need something positive to come my way, and the sooner the better. Life is really just one tribulation after another. Someday eventually you'll die and you won't have to worry about it. Every beat of your heart is another tick closer to the end.
Author Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Life is really just one tribulation after another. Someday eventually you'll die and you won't have to worry about it. I'll choose to take that as words of encouragement???
Author Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Aww, Krytiekins, I'm sorry. It's just a stroke of bad timing/luck, and has nothing to do with you...your arrogant little heart knows that. Right you are sweetie. Though it's enough to make you stop and wonder, if only for a moment. It's like after the third bomb I had to stop and smell myself. Why did the second date girl cancel? You know Star, wondering will only drive me nuts. We had been in communication about two months and had really gotten to know each other. That's what bothers me most aboutthe way she bailed without a phone call or anything. I have this nasty hunch that I may be a little too "feminine" for her. Don't know why I think so, but just a hunch that she is more of a manly man kinda girl. And what about the first girl made you feel blown off? On Saturday we had discussed getting together for lunch this week. When I tried to make the plans, it became a matter of being busy all week and she made no attempt to make any counter offers.
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 You know Star, wondering will only drive me nuts. We had been in communication about two months and had really gotten to know each other. That's what bothers me most about the way she bailed without a phone call or anything. I have this nasty hunch that I may be a little too "feminine" for her. Don't know why I think so, but just a hunch that she is more of a manly man kinda girl. You mean she completely stood you up!?!? Although, you do cry like a girl. She might be better off with someone like...Woggle. On Saturday we had discussed getting together for lunch this week. When I tried to make the plans, it became a matter of being busy all week and she made no attempt to make any counter offers. While I usually do believe this is a good (eh, bad) sign that someone's not interested, it's not always the case. She might actually be monumentally busy (know that line?)...
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 It's like after the third bomb I had to stop and smell myself. There's the humour coming out! Sorry that yesterday sucked. Things will get better! It isn't you. The FWB couldn't handle the sex and friendship mixed, and the other one? Well, think of that as a sign. Maybe she has issues in her life you don't need right now...As excited as you were to see her again, think of it as a blessing. And, just know, that someone else better will come your way!
Author Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Sorry that yesterday sucked. Things will get better! It isn't you. The FWB couldn't handle the sex and friendship mixed, and the other one? Well, think of that as a sign. Maybe she has issues in her life you don't need right now...As excited as you were to see her again, think of it as a blessing. And, just know, that someone else better will come your way! What lame self-help book did you get this from??? Love ya WWIU, you know that... but come on...
Author Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 You mean she completely stood you up!?!? Yes, as in completely. Although, you do cry like a girl. Unfortunately, to this day, you haven't given me an opportunity to prove that to you. While I usually do believe this is a good (eh, bad) sign that someone's not interested, it's not always the case. She might actually be monumentally busy (know that line?)... I suppose we'll see. I chose to leave the ball in her court unless something happens to change that.
whichwayisup Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 What lame self-help book did you get this from??? Love ya WWIU, you know that... but come on... Okay, fine...That was nice version. The chicky-poo cancelled the date cuz she isn't interested. Don't take it personally. The FWB is probably falling inlove with you but knows you can't love her back right now and she can't deal with the sex and it not going anywhere. Better?
Author Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Bittersweet honesty... much better. I know I shouldn't, but I feel really drained today. I'm having a hard time getting focused.
peace_pipe Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I'll choose to take that as words of encouragement??? Sometimes it is comforting to know someone else has gone through the same crap as you, time and time again. That's all I can offer you, sorry. I am not going to say things will get better, because they may or may not. The best indicator of the future is the past. For me, I have gotten to the point where I feel numb. It's been so long since I have let myself care / love a woman I have forgotten how it even feels or why I even wanted it in the first place.
Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I had to dump my FWB for the same reason yours gave you though, honestly. He's hot, smart, funny, we have a great time together, so it really had nothing to do with him, he's awesome...BUT being with him when I needed to get some was, in fact, preventing me from getting out there and finding someone who I was truly compatible with. The same went for him. We're both now dating someone, and just friends. The girl who stood you up is either a ditzy moron who doesn't remember her commitments, or a complete twat. Blow-off girl...eh, who knows.
Author Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 I have this sense of impending doom. Like at any minute, something else is going to happen. I hate when I have these feelings, because they're usually right. Maybe if I hise in the corner of my office nothing can hurt me.
oppath Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Love your new avatar. No-one likes to feel rejected. It certainly blows the ego. I'd say the blowoff and the frustration over making plans are what really hurt, because not only do you feel rejected, you don't feel respected. When I'm rejected it hurts doubly when the person doesn't act with integrity. But think of it this way: these things go in waves. You'll have a week where 3 prospects flake or burn out, and you'll have weeks where you get 3 phone numbers. Don't let it get to you. These experiences are what people mean by "being single is fun, but dating kind of sucks after a couple months." Are you trying to date too much? I know from your posts you don't have much free time. Sometimes having a FWB and juggling 2-3 other girls at the same time...that is a recipe that will lead to disappointment. It all depends on what else is going on in your life (work, hobbies, etc). Juggling women casually has only been fun for me when other parts of my life have been going really well. If I'm worried about anything else, it just stresses me out and I take the rejection much more hard.
Author Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Thanks oppath I wouldn't say I'm juggling per se. I really haven't gone on more than 2 dates with anyone since the one I led on a while ago. Most of the people I ended up going out with became friends very soon after, by my choice. While prospects have come and gone, I really wouldn't say I've been dating much. But I know what you mean. I already experienced the high, so this was the inevitable low I suppose. And yes, I am just heartless and busy enough to be over all of this by Wednesday. I guess a let down on such a large scale just puts a stutter in your step.
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