Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I've been seeing this amazing guy for a few weeks now. I've stayed over at his place twice now, and each time I cannot sleep. Not even for five minutes. I just lay there with my eyes closed, hoping to drift off to slumberland, but it never happens. He's the most comfortable person to sleep next to (doesn't snore, etc.), has the most amazing, comfortable bed I've ever been in, the temperature in the room is just perfect, but still...no ZZZ's!!! I'm getting so frustrated because I end up at work - like I am now - e x h a u s t e d. I came home this morning to get ready for work, and took an hour power nap with no problem. What's going on, and how do I fix this?
oppath Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I am ALWAYS this way with a girl I really like. It takes me 6 sleepovers or so before I'm comfortable. Of course, I do have a history of anxiety, so that's likely my reason, but all I can suggest is to stay the course and see if it disappears in a couple more weeks.
Sweetcheripie Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Has he stayed at your place? If so, did you sleep ok with him at your place? Any sleep problems when he is not around?
Author Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 I stayed at his place twice, he has not stayed at mine yet. I have been having some problems sleeping off-and-on due to work-related thoughts running through my head, I'm just concerned that I haven't been able to sleep AT ALL while at his place. Even when I have difficulty on my own I still manage a total of 5 hours or so...
Art_Critic Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 What's going on, and how do I fix this? He needs to try harder to pound you to sleep I'm guessing here but I think you are just uneasy because you are a new couple.. it should clear up and you will get more comfortable. It might help if you had him over your house until you got used to him.
Author Star Gazer Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 He needs to try harder to pound you to sleep He hasn't pounded yet... Perhaps that's the problem!
serial muse Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I agree with Art and oppath - when I first start sleeping over with a guy I really like, I can only sleep fitfully, if at all. Dunno why, guess my anxiety is just heightened and it keeps me up. You might find it easier to sleep together at your place, where you're already more comfy...and that said, I wonder if there's some air quality, or sound quality, or light quality in his apt that is maybe keeping you up?
Sweetcheripie Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I'm sorry - that would be frustrating (not getting the sleep that is). But I bet it is just because of the excitement etc. PLUS once I start worrying about not going to sleep then I absolutely CAN't go to sleep. I definitely think he should stay at your place and see if that helps. I'm sure it will be fine. My friends swear by Melatonin, really helps them to get to sleep and it is natural. Have you ever taken a Tylenol PM? If you haven't had any bad reactions maybe try taking one next time you sleep over there - just so it doesn't become a mind over matter thing. Congrats on the new relationship!
TheRock Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 My current girl does the same thing. After sex, sometimes it's easier for her to go to another room or just go home. She tosses and turns next to me. Try switching sides of the bed u sleep on. If you're accustomed to sleeping on one side of the bed at home and he sleeps there when u r together, it could be a psychological thing that's as easy as switching sides. Good Luck
IpAncA Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 That's odd. I've never had that problem. I can crash anywhere.
Fancee Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Just have him spend at your house from now on. So when he is ready to sleep you don't feel so compelled to do so and you are not ready. Just tuck him in and watch tv or something until you get sleepy.
Author Star Gazer Posted October 20, 2007 Author Posted October 20, 2007 We reached an improvement last night - I was able to sleep for two whole hours! WOO HOO! Next time we're switching sides of the bed and I'm hittin' the Tylenol PM. This is seriously getting ridiculous. I'm in Berkeley for a conference today and tomorrow, and I'm drrrraaaagggggiiiinnnnggg. I'm embarrassed to be yawning in front of ex-California Supreme Court justices, but I can't help myself.
johan Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 I'd say he's clearly not able to completely exhaust you before it's time to sleep. Not a good sign.
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