starlite Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 So, I was ok for the most part this weekend. Then yesterday (Sunday) hit and I knew I had to see him to get his cell phone line transferred under his own name. I was just so sad. He came by last night at 7, we took care of it, he got the very last of his stuff (I think) and that was it. He kept saying how sad it all was and all I said was "yeah" cause we didnt need to discuss it more. We would just either fight, or more likely I would cry or he would and we have gone over it all before. I love him so much! I keep thinking maybe we can make it work, maybe it wasnt so bad...but I stop myself from calling or asking because I know I wont trust him. Not like he cheated or anything, but the little lies added up. I really need some support today as I am starting to doubt myself and getting more sad as the days go by! It has only been a week since we officially broke up. I'm at work and cant focus and am on the verge of crying!!!
Spinderella Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Dont contact him. This is one of the stages you must go through. Contacting him now will only hinder moving through this stage. In the early stages it is difficult to know what the best thing to do is. Thats why you need to have time away from him. Wait until you can see, the relationship, you, and him in a more objective light. You wont do that unless you first pass through this phase. Other than that, hard as it is, just allow yourself to go with it.
BrianG Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 she is moving the rest of her stuff today and we are meeting up this weekend to transfer the bills in my name for the apartment. its tough, really tough, i am at work right now trying to hold it together, while she is at our apartment moving the rest of her stuff out so your not alone, stay strong and you can get through it, only then when your thoughts and emotions are clearer and you will have the time to think about what you want to do.
woodsfield Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 sl: i'm sorry to hear this. it pains me to hear people having to go thru this. just think about what you said: "...we didnt need to discuss it more. We would just either fight, or more likely I would cry or he would and we have gone over it all before. I love him so much!" it is obvious that you still care for the guy (i think you can love someone and not be with them), but it is also obvious that it will NEVER work out between you two. this statement tells me that it is OVER for good (along with the return of things and phone deal)... i know it is difficult as you are early in this process, but try to focus on work. you will have a long day if you don't. you are going to have a long day and week, regardless, but trying to occupy your mind with something else would be the best for you right now, IMO, and hopefully it will help let it pass a little quicker and easier. i'm sorry for your breakup...wish you all the best!
Author starlite Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Thank you for your replies! I really appreciate it and take it to heart! Brian- I am sorry you are going through the same. It is such an awful feeling knowing that all of a sudden...we're alone again! I have to imagine though that it is all for the best. As much as two people can love...it is not alway enough to make something work. Spin- I wont contact him, we are over...there is just no point in it now. Woods- I will definately try and focus on work, and me and everything else. I am 25. This is my first long term relationship so a huge break up for me, I was used to 6 month things! This is so different. I went on myspace yesterday and saw my brothers beautiful ex gf. She is a California girl and just such a great person. Well, the broke up when she was like 27 i think. I am sure she thought she would be getting married very soon but my brother broke her heart. She seems very happy, but here she is ....32 and single. Life threw her quite a curveball...i guess we all go through this!
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