miracgirl Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Say you have been dating a girl for about a year, and one day you received a phone call from a girl you had a few dates with a year or so ago to say hello...and you know she'd like to see you again. .how would you handle it? what would you say to her... what would you say to her exactly..how far would you let the conversation go before you told her you had a girlfriend? now here's the really tricky part... suppose you were thinking of breaking up with your girlfriend anyway and this girl called you and you liked her..how would you handle it then? If you want, give the action that you think MOST GUYS WOULD TAKE, not necessarily yourself. thanks!
Pyro Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Say you have been dating a girl for about a year, and one day you received a phone call from a girl you had a few dates with a year or so ago to say hello...and you know she'd like to see you again. .how would you handle it? what would you say to her... what would you say to her exactly..how far would you let the conversation go before you told her you had a girlfriend? now here's the really tricky part... suppose you were thinking of breaking up with your girlfriend anyway and this girl called you and you liked her..how would you handle it then? If you want, give the action that you think MOST GUYS WOULD TAKE, not necessarily yourself. thanks! I can't speak for most guys, but I would be honest to her up front. You have been dating someone for a year. I'd imagine that some sort of feelings for this girl have developed, so why associate yourself with this other girl? But the fact that the thought of breaking up with her has crossed your mind, then you two must not be that serious.
wizer Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Tell the girl from the past that you want to see her, and arrange a date. Tell your current GF that you are having second thoughts about your relationship with her and you want to take some time to sort out your feelings..and want to be able to see other people. Of course you risk losing her altogether but you need to be honest with her. It's the right thing to do.
Pentula77 Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Think long and hard about why you want to break up with your girl...as for the girl who's coming back into your life tell her thanks but no thanks (it didn't work previously for a reason) end of story.
Ever Seeking Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 It would have everything to do with how I was feeling about my current relationship. And after a year, it's not "dating"... it's a relationship.
oppath Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Tell the girl from the past that you want to see her, and arrange a date. Tell your current GF that you are having second thoughts about your relationship with her and you want to take some time to sort out your feelings..and want to be able to see other people. Of course you risk losing her altogether but you need to be honest with her. It's the right thing to do. Almost there...tell your GF you are having doubts about the relationship, and that means that you two aren't the right people for each other, therefore you need to END the relationship because it wouldn't be fair to her to string her along when your feelings for her have changed, because you want her to heal and move on and find the relationship she deserves, because you are not that person. Then, you can meet this other girl. Personally, I wouldn't go 5 minutes without telling her I had a girlfriend. As soon as I am exclusive with someone, I insert that information as soon as there is an opening in the conversation. "What have you been up to lately?" "Work and training for a half marathon...and my GF and I just got back from a trip to Big Sur 3 weeks ago...it was incredible." If you are in a relationship, even one you are doubting, you have to TRY not to bring your gf/bf into conversation. It's a choice you make to exclude that information, not include it.
Fancee Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Why do you have to tell your left hand what your right is doing? Especially if nothing has happened and all you are doing is speculating/tripping? Never tell a woman about another woman. All this will do is come to haunt you. Make up your on mind without involving ppl about you need space and time. Once you come to your decision and you know then at that time - you sound and can speak like a mature individual who has taken responsibility in making up his own mind about what he want do. Without prematurely breaking your GF's heart. You might want to go out on few dates with the new girl and this maybe the only way to find out things about her. If you find out that you want your present GF after that cut the ties. Then you want have all those problems of you and your GF gaining trust and getting over something that didn't materialize. Its not like you are married. Just don't be dragging on 2 relationships for so long that you become confused. Everything will be alright.
peace_pipe Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Say you have been dating a girl for about a year, and one day you received a phone call from a girl you had a few dates with a year or so ago to say hello... Hello? Lol, if that's only ALL it was.... This is girl-speak for: "I dumped you for a guy I thought was better about a year ago, BUT he screwed me over. Now I am vulnerable and need physical attention to recover my ego." As for what most guys would do.... Most guys would at least go see this girl once. If she's hot, most guys would omit the girlfriend from conversation. If she has went south confess to her how deeply in love you are with your current girlfriend. Now back to if she's hot - Steps 1,2,3 Omit the girlfriend, wine and dine this other girl, get in her pants. Steps 4,5,6,7,8 Compare current girlfriend to new prospect. Keep the lesser of the two on the back burner - this way, when your current girl flakes out (and she will), you have another one lined up. This will actually compund itself in your favor. Now is the time to tell your current gf about the other girl. She will want you back sooo bad.... but you have options. Step 9: Repeat The above is what most guys would do. it's also what you would do if you are ONLY looking out for yourself. Someone has to look out for you. Girls love this crap!
lino Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Hello? Lol, if that's only ALL it was.... This is girl-speak for: "I dumped you for a guy I thought was better about a year ago, BUT he screwed me over. Now I am vulnerable and need physical attention to recover my ego." As for what most guys would do.... Most guys would at least go see this girl once. If she's hot, most guys would omit the girlfriend from conversation. If she has went south confess to her how deeply in love you are with your current girlfriend. Now back to if she's hot - Steps 1,2,3 Omit the girlfriend, wine and dine this other girl, get in her pants. Steps 4,5,6,7,8 Compare current girlfriend to new prospect. Keep the lesser of the two on the back burner - this way, when your current girl flakes out (and she will), you have another one lined up. This will actually compund itself in your favor. Now is the time to tell your current gf about the other girl. She will want you back sooo bad.... but you have options. Step 9: Repeat The above is what most guys would do. it's also what you would do if you are ONLY looking out for yourself. Someone has to look out for you. Girls love this crap! haha, I agree. The old me would have told the girl from the past that I have a gf but as I am now I wouldn't, I'd atleast go to meet up with her. I think alot of guys would do atleast that, definitely of my age (25)
jophil28 Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 haha, I agree. The old me would have told the girl from the past that I have a gf but as I am now I wouldn't, I'd atleast go to meet up with her. I think alot of guys would do atleast that, definitely of my age (25) I would tell both girls about the other. That sets YOU up as a prize -and if I know women, they will go all competitive.. Let 'em slug it out and then bang the winner ..
Author miracgirl Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Actually, I have a big surprise for you guys. Everyone assumes I am the guy with the girlfriend receiving the call. Wrong!! Actually, I am none other than the girl who wants to make the call!! There's a guy I dated a while ago that I can't get out of my head and I want to call him but I think he might have a girlfriend now, I'm not sure, and I'm so afraid of what he'll say if I call him. I don't want the conversation to be totally awkward. That's why I was asking how far into the conversation you would bring up the girlfriend. Also, and this is the really important part, I don't want to get into specifics, but there was an issue I had last year that I no longer have and I think that if he knew that he would want to date me again. (yes, he dumped me last year. Yes, I know this looks desperate.) Now, I don't plan on coming right out and saying it, but if he cuts me off right away by telling me he has a girlriend, I'll never be able to tell him! so i don't know whether I should do this ...or should i write an email?
woodsfield Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 i think this all depends on how much he wants to remain with his current. i guess you know the other girl and know that he is involved with her? i wouldn't bring her up. just lay it on the line with the guy. if someone made a move on me and i was unhappy with who i was with, i'd tell current to take a hike and hook up with the new/old, if it would be worth my time. and i figure you were a girl by your name...don't know about anyone else.
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