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Many boundaries broken...so why oh why didn't I just leave?


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Here is another one of these stories.....sit back and get popcorn, this is a long one. Here goes.

 

 

We have been together many years and from the start there was many signs that I guess I just chose to look the other way. Many affairs and me cussing and yelling but not leaving then taking him back. Looking back why would he change I mean hell he was given a golden plate to do his dirt while I held the plate all with a smile.

 

So, I pose this questions and let the chips fall where it may. Why after many affairs do we stay and "try" to work things out? When you know the end result is the same only years later??????

 

 

I need help, I am still here mostly for financial reasons. We live together, work together so there is no time apart. Until house sells and business sells I am stuck here.

 

I don't love him, respect him, sleep with him (sex), talk to him unless about anything other than our marriage. So what gives? Why do we do these things to ourselves??

 

Why can't I just say forget it and just walk away??? What advice does anyone have? I mean I cannot even talk to anyone I am tired of hearing it so why complain if I don't follow thru when I know what I need to do???

 

I know I need to move on and just try and find happiness. But I am not sure what that looks like? Does anyone get scared of happiness like its something that escapes us all? Or is just for people in the movies??

 

 

 

PLEASE HELP ME!

abeliever.

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It sounds like you're in a bit of a rut and just going through the motions of 'having a life' abeliever? It doesn't help that you spend almost every hour of every day in his company, you know what they say about familiarity breeding contempt. I know it's hard to get out of these situations and I could give you advice 'til the cows came home. But you've got to get your head in the right place first, if you decide to call it a day and move on, nothing will stop you, nothing will be a problem that you can't solve. The main thing is to get away somewhere where you can get your thoughts together and think for yourself....about yourself. Money is a pain in the arse, but there's a solution for everything, it's just a case of priorities. If you don't mind roughing it for a while and eating sparsely....etc, you can get through the rough patch and get to the other side...and be free. It all depends on how desperate the situation is.

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fear of moving on...fear of letting someone new into your life....ur wasting time.

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