jophil28 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 I've gotten plenty of young guys who pursue me. Oh and most of them don't like the women their age or younger. If you are being pursued by these younger guys why are you still trawling the personals. Why ? -because you can't crack a date with any of these guys. That is why you are still "on line" . You are probably an OK woman under all that airy-fairy fantasy about being "pursued " . However you have an 'edge' of irritation and contempt that is not exactly magnetic.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 If you are being pursued by these younger guys why are you still trawling the personals. First of all, I don't know what "trawling" is. Is this a Southern term or something? Sounds like it to me. And why am I still on the personals since younger guys have been pursuing me? Because I wasn't interested in most of them. Why ? -because you can't crack a date with any of these guys. That is why you are still "on line" . Ohhhhhh....so it can't be that THEY can't crack a date with ME, huh? Shall I show you the messages? You are probably an OK woman under all that airy-fairy fantasy about being "pursued " . This part doesn't even make sense. However you have an 'edge' of irritation and contempt that is not exactly magnetic. Have you read your posts? You're not exactly Mary Poppins yourself. Actually, you know what I was just thinking today? We need a "tongue-in-cheek" smiley on here. (we can replace it with the bunny smiley....since I don't usually feel like a bunny.....) A lot of what I say on here is tongue-in-cheek only you can't convey that in writing. IRL I don't come across as irritated and contemptuous.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 One word for that first guy UNIQUE: flaky! Exactly. And that's the part that bothers me about the personals is flakiness. And it's easy to be flaky on the personals because you have no accountability to the person....you don't have to face them. I have to admit that I've been flaky too but I'm always nice enough to explain my flakiness to the guy!
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 OK you have refuted all of the points that I made - you know better that me obviously (you are a female after all ) You have learned nothing from posting here and reading my reply. You asked questions and invited input - I gave you that from a male perspective and you just want to block and argue every point. I would dump you after the first coffee date sister. You need to get over your "know -it-all " attitude. It is unattractive.. Coffee date!??? You wouldn't even get a "drive-by" from me!
Krytie TV Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Does anyone ever even respond to a wink, really? Isn't a wink just what people do when they're too cowardly or lazy to write something? At least I got the impression that's what women thought when men wink at them. And also, isn't it something you can do when you're not even a member? I always blatantly ignored them.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Does anyone ever even respond to a wink, really? Isn't a wink just what people do when they're too cowardly or lazy to write something? At least I got the impression that's what women thought when men wink at them. And also, isn't it something you can do when you're not even a member? I always blatantly ignored them. No I don't take it that way at all. That's quite the negative outlook on it. It's feeling the person out. If the other person winks back, then they'll write. (except in the cases where someone winks, you wink back and then they never write....never could figure THAT one out.....) Let's say you're in a bar.....a guy looks over at a woman.....she looks back and smiles.......he senses interest and approaches...... On the personals...... The looks they gave to each other are the "winks" His approaching her is the "message"
jophil28 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Coffee date!??? You wouldn't even get a "drive-by" from me! Boo hoo . I gotta go the phone is ringing - it is probably Roxanne asking for a second date .
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Since there was commentary on the message I sent a guy, I thought I'd post and INITIAL message a guy just sent me (after we exchanged winks). I know some people like generic messages but if I'm interested, I don't bother with generics. The type of men that I like aren't generic either and they are always very intelligent. I've never known intelligent men to use generic responses. Heres the INITIAL message I just got from a guy: So... what other viewpoint (Politics do you have...) According to [the dating site]... for what that's worth... we apparently are missing just one of 25 things in common... that could be a good thing... or it just means we have 24 thing in common... None the same your profile is most appealing to me... the no BS and realism... nice... nice to see... oh and the fact the your very... attractive doesn't hurt. One can't help but wonder however... will my correspondence end up on the pages of [your city's] Sex in Suburbia Journals... Kidding of course. Anyway, I'll actually be in [your city] Wednesday, I get there a couple of time a month or so. More later, X My point is that the guys who exchange messages with me (who maintain my interest) have some meat to their dialogue.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Boo hoo . I gotta go the phone is ringing - it is probably Roxanne asking for a second date . Or maybe you wrote her a bad check...... (hey c'mon, it's a song.......)
jophil28 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Or maybe you wrote her a bad check...... (hey c'mon, it's a song.......) You are funny - for a chick !
lino Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Ok fair enough about the age thing & if you're happy to tell people about it straight up I don't see a problem. Personally for me it wouldn't turn me off to the point of not wanting to communicate anymore but I would find it strange to be told something like that initially, especially if I was genuinely interested. But the thing is he could have given a response. Like I said, once a dialogue is started, it's rude to just drop it. I agree, I think it's rude too. Alot of people don't think like that though unfortunately. I wouldn't use online dating but I'd imagine that type of thing could happen often on it.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 You are funny - for a chick ! ....:p:p.....
jophil28 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Since there was commentary on the message I sent a guy, I thought I'd post and INITIAL message a guy just sent me (after we exchanged winks). I know some people like generic messages but if I'm interested, I don't bother with generics. The type of men that I like aren't generic either and they are always very intelligent. I've never known intelligent men to use generic responses. Heres the INITIAL message I just got from a guy: So... what other viewpoint (Politics do you have...) According to [the dating site]... for what that's worth... we apparently are missing just one of 25 things in common... that could be a good thing... or it just means we have 24 thing in common... None the same your profile is most appealing to me... the no BS and realism... nice... nice to see... oh and the fact the your very... attractive doesn't hurt. One can't help but wonder however... will my correspondence end up on the pages of [your city's] Sex in Suburbia Journals... Kidding of course. Anyway, I'll actually be in [your city] Wednesday, I get there a couple of time a month or so. More later, X My point is that the guys who exchange messages with me (who maintain my interest) have some meat to their dialogue. Huh ? Where is the meat in that? You must be a vegetarian, honey. That guys sounds like an AFC - a gold medallist, world champion. Gee - Sorry, I must sound all jealous already -and we haven't even been to the drive-thru yet.. Quit playing games with me . Admit that you want me bad. I can feel the love. Dump that out-of-towner and come with me to the Bahamas .
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Ok fair enough about the age thing & if you're happy to tell people about it straight up I don't see a problem. Personally for me it wouldn't turn me off to the point of not wanting to communicate anymore but I would find it strange to be told something like that initially, especially if I was genuinely interested. Actually the guy's too young for me anyway. I was just figuring it'd be someone cool to talk to for a change.....someone intelligent.....not easy to find in my area....... But seriously, I doubt I'd see anything long term with someone that age.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Huh ? Where is the meat in that? You must be a vegetarian, honey. That guys sounds like an AFC - a gold medallist, world champion. Gee - Sorry, I must sound all jealous already -and we haven't even been to the drive-thru yet.. Quit playing games with me . Admit that you want me bad. I can feel the love. Dump that out-of-towner and come with me to the Bahamas . Dude....you're all soy patty....without the bun......
jophil28 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Actually the guy's too young for me anyway. I was just figuring it'd be someone cool to talk to for a change.....someone intelligent.....not easy to find in my area....... But seriously, I doubt I'd see anything long term with someone that age. Are you a retired schoolteacher who drives around in a Winnebago with a cat and a goldfish doing crossword puzzles in trailer parks??
jophil28 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Dude....you're all soy patty....without the bun...... You wanna see my buns when Roxanne is done with me ?
jophil28 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Dude....you're all soy patty....without the bun...... Two funnies in one day - from a woman... I wil alert the Guiness Book of Records.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Are you a retired schoolteacher who drives around in a Winnebago with a cat and a goldfish doing crossword puzzles in trailer parks?? Of course not! The Winnebago's a gas guzzler. Now I take the Volvo........ Al Gore stood in my driveway until I gave him my Winnebago keys....I didn't have much of a choice....didn't want to run over the big guy.....
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 You wanna see my buns when Roxanne is done with me ? Doesn't that cost extra?
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Ok, I admit it.....I just did it to someone myself..... Some (totally different) guy had written to me the other day and I wrote him back asking him to tell me more about himself (btw, it was one of those more generic types of responses that some here prefer...aren't you proud of me? ). He sent a message back today and asked me if I had specific questions for him (haha to the one who said I sounded like I was conducting a job interview to the other guy...... ) Anyway, I looked at his ad again just now and realized I wasn't that interested in him after all and so I really don't have anything to respond back to him with. I mean...what can I say? "Oh sorry....I changed my mind about you....." I guess this is a LITTLE bit different though because in both cases, the guy initiated things, so I still think that in the first guys case, he should have done more than just blown me off. Now with the guy I'm referring to in THIS post, I really don't see a way to get out of this tactfully. I could send him one of the canned responses that the site gives you I guess, that says "No thanks...." But that would look kind of weird seeing that I had just written to him. I guess there's not much you can do in a situation like this.
Author uniqueone Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 Oh yeah....and why does it bother me when guys have photos where they're standing in their kitchen in front of some cheap looking kitchen cabinets? And the kitchen looks like it belongs in a vacation rental condo. Or how about if they're picture is taken on their living room couch and the picture above the couch looks like it belongs in a waiting room? Or how about the faux pine particle-board entertainment center? Oh and if you happen to see a papasan chair in the picture.....run like hell....... Does anyone else notice these things besides me? Maybe it's just me...I can't deal with blandness.....I need someone with style.......
jcster Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Two funnies in one day - from a woman... I wil alert the Guiness Book of Records. Oh...Wil you?
Author uniqueone Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 Two funnies in one day - from a woman... I wil alert the Guiness Book of Records. Oh...Wil you? It'd be kinda difficult since there IS no Guiness Book of Records...........
Sean0775 Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Oh yeah....and why does it bother me when guys have photos where they're standing in their kitchen in front of some cheap looking kitchen cabinets? And the kitchen looks like it belongs in a vacation rental condo. Or how about if they're picture is taken on their living room couch and the picture above the couch looks like it belongs in a waiting room? Or how about the faux pine particle-board entertainment center? Oh and if you happen to see a papasan chair in the picture.....run like hell....... Does anyone else notice these things besides me? Maybe it's just me...I can't deal with blandness.....I need someone with style....... So my personals pic of me about a year ago at work (before my store went Supercenter) where I'm standing in front of Infants with the 22 year old signing in the background is probably a bad idea? At least it shows I have a job!
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