mlchris2 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I recently meet a woman who is 15yrs older than I am. I'm 28 and she's 42. We've gone out a few times and talk all the time. I meet her while visiting my home town for the weekend, so our relationship is kinda long distance. When we talk, it is playful and flirty. We've had some serious conversations about kids, life, etc. I am totally attracted to older women for the obvious reasons... In the past, I would never date anyone older or younger than me by 4 years. I'm curious if the relationship could work? given if both of us are interested in each other and pursuing...
wizer Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I like older women too. My stbxw is 4.5 years older than me. They tend to be more emotionally stable and less "flighty"..however..there are exceptions, such as my stbxw. LOL. One thing to keep in mind. Say you marry an older woman, such as in this case. In 18 years you will be 46, she will be 60. She will be "farting dust" long before you will be.
uniqueone Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 One thing to keep in mind. Say you marry an older woman, such as in this case. In 18 years you will be 46, she will be 60. She will be "farting dust" long before you will be. Wow....that's like so romantic......
wizer Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Wow....that's like so romantic...... Relatonships aren't all love and kisses, you know.
uniqueone Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I am totally attracted to older women for the obvious reasons... In the past, I would never date anyone older or younger than me by 4 years. What are the obvious reasons? I'm uh....*cough* .....fortybvge4efasome4aggthing.....myself....and I've dated younger. Nothing that ever got serious though. I think there would be quite a few difficulties with it. Your group of friends are most likely your age and hers are most likely her age. How would you mix with them? How would she mix with yours? What if she says "Hey, remember that game 'Rock School' we used to play as kids.....? Oh....that's right.....you weren't born yet..." (and to all the younger folks here...yes, we made up games with rocks....we didn't have the techology....stop laughing.....think Flintsone age......) Or: "Hey...remember when gas was 69 cents?" Or: "Hey...remember when we used to actually respect our Presidents?" Or: "Hey...remember when the North Pole was frozen......?" You know....stuff like that..... And then there's looks. Can you deal with aging? And even THAT has its whole group of different topics. Case in point....I went out with a group that I used to hang out with back in my 20's, some that I hadn't seen in awhile. (We used to hang out at alternative music clubs in our 20's..and oh were we so cool........) First of all, some were now quite overweight and two of the three guys were balding. We were driving to the place we were going for the evening and two of the guys were getting over colds and one started fussing that he felt like he was coming down with one. One of the guys insisted we stop at a drug store for some cold medicine. The talk then turned into one about various aches and pains and medications. They were actually reading the ingredients out loud to the cold medicine in the car. We then talked about how late we thought we could make it staying out. Two thought they could make it until midnight. (this being a far cry from our nights out until 3 am in our 20's) We then talked about how several of us now listen to talk radio. Our talk from 20 years ago was who was coming in concert, our clothes, and how so and so got wasted last night. Ok...yet another example. There was a guy I knew several years ago that was quite a bit younger than me who was interested in me but it was long distance. We talked for several months. One day I was talking about a 401K plan and retirement planning. He said he never thinks about it. These are just some examples. These relationships can be fun but I think you're going to find more differences are there than you realize.
uniqueone Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Relatonships aren't all love and kisses, you know. I could get into how women live longer than men or how people can die at any age but that's not really the topic of the thread here.
wizer Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 And then there's looks. Can you deal with aging? Wow....that's like so romantic......
CanyonWall Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 When I was 24, I got involved with a woman who was 38. We lasted for about 8 years. Age difference was never a problem for us. However, do you want children?
Author mlchris2 Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 thanks everyone for your advice thus far. My opinion... Age is just a number. Yes there is the reality factor of her being 10 years older than I, I guess I'm out trying something different, as I've had 3 failed relationships with younger women that have all turned out the same. I dont need the teenage drama that comes with younger women. I've had kids from a previous marriage and dont want more (big factor for those younger women). Right now we both understand the age difference. We have alot in common and thus far its working... I've been getting alot of **** from family and friends. I value a good opinion from a friend. In the end it's my decision and hope they all respect it. I wanted to get an outsiders opinion... Like I said, I'm out trying something different, past choices in women and dating havent panned out so well.
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