peter333 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Hi, when I was younger I was quite a confident person when it came to girls, I then when to boarding school for 9nine years. For the most part it was really amazing, but there was one rumor that when around school that said I was gay, I’m really not gay in anyway but when people used to ask if I was or make fun of me because of that I felt really hurt, I think this in turn has affected all of my confidence. I’m at uni at the moment and I have loads of friends both girls and guys. I am a fairly attractive guy but for some reason when I go out I always end up in the friend zone. On more than one occasion girls have come up to me and said that they thought I was hot, at this moment I usually freeze and have no clue what to say. I know that it’s mostly to do with confidence but when I try to be confident I always come across arrogant. I’m not really a shy person because I feel fine going and talking to girls, what I have a problem with is making them see me more that friends. Has any got any idea on how I should approach this? Peter333
Sean0775 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Confidence is subjective. What comes across as confidence to one person is arrogance to the next, and what comes off as meekness to some is common courtesy to others. Aside from the self-loathers, everyone has confidence to a degree. Whether or not people appreciate that is totally up to them.
Author peter333 Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 hmm ok i can see there is a fine line, but hows dose one walk it but not cross.
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