candyguy Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I met this girl through work a while ago. She is a very confident being. I am positive she was single when we first started working together. I didn't really show much interest in her first. After a few chat with her, I found that we have a lot in common. She was the one that initiated the first meeting. I didn't take much of what she said seriously at first. I treated her no more than just a friend complementing another friend. She would say I like /love your ___. As we begin to talk more often, she begin to show a lot of tell tale signs, looking right in my eyes with her body facing me, playing with her hair, very interested in my life, very happy to see me when we meet up and so on We can talk between 15 min to 2 hour at a time over the phone and in person. Everytime we talk in person, it is always as if she is wants touch me but hesitate. One day, we were talking over the phone, she said that I shouldn’t call her so late anymore because her bf doesn’t like it. But her tone did not change one bit from the person I know. She still sound excited to talk to me. I did not once said anything about I like her or we should spend more time together. I still go about as a normal friend or real good friend to say the least. So, what is this girl thinking? Thank you
peter333 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Hmm, this is very interesting; I take it that you would like to be more than just friends. From what I have read, I think that she really likes you but just as friends. I think she is looking for a really close relationship from you like a boyfriend but with none off the sexual desires. I would say one really big hint would be the fact that she mentioned, she has a boyfriend. From experience a girl only tells a guy she has a boyfriend to make sure that you do not get the wrong ideas (Polite way off telling you). I’m sorry but if you are looking for a more intimate relationship from this person, I doubt that she wants the same. Of course I have been wrong in the past; the best way to see where you stand would be to ask her directly. I hope this helps. Peter333
woodsfield Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 IOne day, we were talking over the phone, she said that I shouldn’t call her so late anymore because her bf doesn’t like it. But her tone did not change one bit from the person I know. have you ever asked if she is in a relationship?? i think she is playing you.
Author candyguy Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 She mentioned she was single 1/2 year ago to a few people. Thats why I said I was positive she was single when we first started working together. But things can change in a day let alone 1/2 year. Peter333: The way she is acting is confusing. I haven't shown any real interest to be more than just friend because I am still undecided on the fact that she is an older female (5-10). I just like having her around as company and talking to her for the time being. I don't think I have shown any interest, but body language can subconsciously play a role. I have not kino her at all. The only kino from her was giving me a small punch on the arm at the office while walking by recently and a bump from her elbow to my arm when we were walking down the street. woodfields: can you elaborate on what you mean by playing you? Do you mean she is just making me think that she likes me or are you saying that she is just testing my reaction?
Author candyguy Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Could she be waiting for me to respond to see if I have a real interest in her? There is just too many questions that raises out of this situation. I wouldn't mind getting some feedback from girls for this situation.
Pentula77 Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 You started out doing all the right things...then things changed. I'd say you had a chance in the beggining to get physical with her but the opportunity passed and you are now in her friends zone, probably for some time as well...unfortunately for a lot of guys they exist in this zone with false hope, sometimes for years. A lot of women are quite happy for you to be there because they continue to get attention. Good women will not keep you hanging like this. Your best option is to go out with available women who are interested in you sexually.
Author candyguy Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 I should have posted a brief time line. That was a fast friend zone switchover. It was only 3 days ago that I got punched on the arm and yesterday she said her bf isn't happy about people calling so late.
Pentula77 Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 She's got a boyfirend, don't be her attention buddy waiting in line...find an available women.
Magnatolia Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Could she be waiting for me to respond to see if I have a real interest in her? There is just too many questions that raises out of this situation. I wouldn't mind getting some feedback from girls for this situation. err no, she told you she has a bf so she definitely doesn't want to know if you have 'real interest' in her. Just because she didn't tell you about her bf for so long means nothing (I've worked with girls before who have mentioned their bf like a month or two later, and it's not always to me). Is normally that outgoing with other people? If you're not sure, then just see how she interacts with other people. But her thoughts aren't confusing. She likes you as a friend, probably a good friend. Her boyfriend is probably getting jealous of all the attention you're getting. Think about it this way. Imagine your girl is at work probably 7+ hours a day, then she gets home and spends an hour on the phone to you. That's an hour of his time with her spent on another guy.
Author candyguy Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 lets clear up one thing. I always treated her as a friend, a good friend, but only a friend. So I was not expecting anything from her. Why is she acting somewhat different to me than to the other people in the office and if there was any intent on her part? Why would she be giving more attention to me than to her boyfriend? Isn't it more important to spend time with bf than to talk to someone from the office about business and non business related topics? Unless it is to make him jealous, which she already did. She just said, better not call so late. Thats why the initial question was "what is this girl thinking" rather than does she like me? I didn't want her to developed an interest in me when I wasn't going to reciprocate any back. With all the tell tale signs mentioned, felt like she was heading in that direction. At first, I believed that the bigger picture of everything that went on alters the meaning of the one part (bf) of the picture. But if you guys say that she made it clear, than it is clear.
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