CuriousClaire Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 So I met this guy a couple of weeks ago while I was walking to work and we've been having lunch "dates" every so often. He never calls me, only texts and during work hrs to see how i am or to see if i want to grab lunch. When we meet up, he's really affectionate and at the end he usually tries to lean in for a kiss. I know interest is there but I don't get why he's not making the effort to see me outside of work hrs or to even call to make things more personal. He tells me he's pretty busy and I can understand as he's (slowly) trying to start up a business outside of his regular job. The last time i saw him, he leaned in for a kiss, I turned around and said I wanted a proper date and he chuckled..said he read me loud and clear. We haven't met up since, only texted but the tone hasn't changed. The last time we've met up was monday. So, is he even interested in me...am I only filler to past the lunch hr with? I don't think the guy's shy at all. He's really personable, good looking...just smooth. I'm new to dating and am not looking to jump into anything but w/the weather getting like this I miss being snuggly with someone...lol.. I wary of investing too much into someone...but do u guys think i shouldnt even bother w/this one?? we've been out to lunch 4 times. He always pays..my friends tells me i should just look at it as free lunch..lol..but im uncomfortable w/the thought of being filler, or worse someone's lunch "hoe"...lol
Kerewin Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 There's no way of gauging his interest as things are--you could try a "cute" line next time he goes for a kiss like "I never kiss on the lips before 6 p.m."--that's a hint that you want him to ask you out, but he's still gets to be "manly" (good Lord, I hate this double standard) and do the asking.
Author CuriousClaire Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 hehe..letting him stay manly but i already spelled it out for him..i said i wanted a proper date and he responded with i read you loud and clear. We only texted once since and i initiated. The tone of our convo hasn't changed and right off the bat he said he needed r an r this weekend. Sometimes i wonder if he's only interested in sex, but honestly i don't see how that could happened through a couple of lunch dates..lol.. i also asked if he has a gf..he said no...
Kerewin Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Oh dear. Well, I think your only option is not to do lunch anymore. If he asks about lunch, tell him you've started working through lunch because you're bucking for a promotion or because you want to leave early so you can make it to the gym before the crowds get there--anything other than I'm going to take lunch, but not with you. Let him see that your time is PRECIOUS and he might value it as much as you do--wish like hell I'd done that in my last relationship. LOL.
compassion42 Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Maybe he is just being slow and cautious. He obviously enjoys your company. Wait and see what happens. Don't text him or anything just go about business as usual.
latefragment Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 be careful he's not joined at the hip with someone else... or maybe he really is telling the truth about the start up taking a lot of time after work, i can see that too. just be careful...
Author CuriousClaire Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 thanks guys..the situation always felt "off" to me. I'm not looking to jump into anything and at first assumed he felt the same and wanted to take things really slowly but it's been 3 weeks i think. That's pretty slow I just hate the weather now....makes me want someone around...lol.. I def will keep on going like business as usual
prettydarncute Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 So he hasn't tried to contact you to hang out outside of your working environment's before? I can see a guy being busy trying to start up a new job and all but if he enjoys your company for lunch dates you would think he would want to try and make time to see you outside of work too.
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