Krying Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 After 2 weeks of NC with my ex, I sent a long email today. Whether I hear back (100% guarantee you guys I won't), or not isn't why I sent it. Since I never got to speak with my ex, or even find out why she wanted to end things, I had to do it for my sake. I never pleaded or begged her to come back. I did say I had feelings for her, but that was about it. I did convey my desire to just get to know one another on her terms. Even though I have like 0% of hearing back from her, I still feel better after sending it.
Sanslatete Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 At least you may get some closure Krying, don't wait for the reply or expect one, you're just setting yourself up for more pain. Try to convince yourself that you've done all you can and been decent and kept your dignity. I sent my last e-mail a couple of weeks ago and it did me no good. I just kept re-running it through my head for days afterwards, hoping it would stir something in her when she read it. But I just got one back, weeks later, slagging me off and telling me she 'couldn't deal with the emotional stuff and reminders of the past', like it was ****ing years ago. It was only May of this year when she was still telling me she loved me and now I'm less than dirt. I can't figure it out, I don't expect I ever will, so I'm just trying to get through it. Good luck with yours.
Author Krying Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Was at my church function this evening and my ex was there. She was doing all the things to avoid me, turning her back, standing behind other people so as not to be in my eyesight. I wasn't even looking at her. I felt better than a week before. I'll put that down to some glimmer of hope still in me after sending that email yesterday. I know she's not going to respond, but somehow I felt a little better in saying what I had to say.
funkybassplayer Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 It was the right thing to do, shes doing what she feels she must and so have you. Its the way you act to the lack of responce, and not what she is doing that will make a difference. If you did it out of love, and not a need for a responce, it can only be right, whatever the outcome.
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