Ponzoli Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Okay, there is this girl in my German 103 class that is one of the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. She sits on the opposite side of the room from me, and I am always checking her out, even if it means craning my neck around 2 of her neighbors to get a view of her. Judging by where she sits vis a vis where I sit, I imagine she has seen me doing this via her peripheral vision several times. She has also caught me looking 2-3 times by turning around in my direction. When she did that, I automatically looked away , did not simile and avoided eye contact. . On one instance however, she beat me to it after we made accidental eye contact, and s he looked away right away before I could. Now, I thought that was the end of it right there, def. not interested, she broke eye contact and looked away without smiling, end of story. but... like 2 weeks later, I am sitting in the room, and she walks in, past her spot (where she always sits) and sits down in the chair right next to me. Now there were still a ton of seats available, so she was not choosing this seat just because it was the only one left. I was kinda surprised by this, as I had expected her to avoid me at all costs once she caught me checking her out all those times, and looked away from me. So I am sitting right next to her, minding my own business, and she turns around and faces me, and asks me "So how's your ankle doing?" (I had broken my ankle a few weeks before). I simply repiled "Better, thanks" and we didn't really talk again the rest of the class. Since then she has goine back to sitting on the opposite side of the class as usual. My only question is, what should I make if anything of her sitting right next to me that day, and asking about my ankle out of the blue? I mean, I figure that if a Girl kn ows I am interested in her, but she is def. not interested in me she would have stayed as far away from sitting by me as possible, and avoided iniating any unnecessary contact between us. Am I wrong about this? Please help. Your opinions would be appreciated. Thanks.
compassion42 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 She was definately interested but probably moved back to her regular seat because YOU didn't seem to be that interested. Next time she catches you checking her out SMILE and say hello.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 so you don't think that her sitting by me/asking me about my ankle was just a "fluke" or meaningless? I just wanted to make sure I wasn't reading too much into these two things, simply because I really want her to be interested in me so badly. I mean, I still think that when we made accidental eye contact that time, and she looked away right away, that that was a bad sign (ie that she wasn't interested) No? Please continue to help. Thanks.
compassion42 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Well you looked away too when she was looking at you and you are interested so perhaps the feeling is mutual? No, I don' t think it was just a fluke when she sat by you-it meant that she noticed you and that she cared enough to ask about your ankle.
crazy_grl Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Well you looked away too when she was looking at you and you are interested so perhaps the feeling is mutual? Exactly! She sat next to you and started talking to you, but you practically ignored her. You gave her a 2 word answer to her question and you didn't make any effort to continue the conversation. If I were her, I'd take that to mean you weren't interested. Do you expect her to throw herself at you or what? Next time you go to class, sit next to her and talk to her.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 So judging from your response, just judging my scenario on the facts I laid out above, you think that her sitting by me that one day asking about my ankle is enough to have confidence that she is interested in me? I just wanted to make sure I was not the one reading too much into it since I am basically in love with this girl. I wanted to make sure there was an objective outsider who could tell me what this girl was thinking.
crazy_grl Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Yes. She went out of her way to come talk to you. So she has at least some level of interest. All you have to do is not screw that up.
jophil28 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 LIsten Ponzereli, this chick wants you bad. You got to read the signals better dude. Go ask her how HER ankles are doing .Tell her you are studing to become an orthopedic surgeon and you need the practice - offer her a free examination, at YOUR place .-women have a poorly developed sense of humor, They laugh at any lame shyte . Get her giggling - it is golden Good hunting my young friend.
lino Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 LIsten Ponzereli This made me laugh so much I agree with others Ponzoli, she definitely showed interest when she came & sat next to you & asked about your ankle. Even her remembering about your ankle is an obvious sign! Unless she's more persistant than I expect, it's gonna have to be you doing all the work from now.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 I appreciate the continued input. I guess I am just so hesitant because A-she is in my class and B- I just could not fathom that a girl that beautiful would be interested in me. I should say, in the interestes of full disclosure, that that was the 2nd time she had asked me about my ankle. About 3-4 weeks before (after I got out of the orthopeadic Boot I had been wearing with a cane) she asked me "So no more Cane, huh." Now I don't know whether that adds to the fact that she is interested or to the chance that she just might have been being politekind in asking about my injury. Any thoughts on that?
crazy_grl Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 The best way to find out is to talk to her and either ask her out or ask for her number.
Sweetcheripie Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Hey Ponzoli - I just replied on your other thread! Yes! I definitely think she was interested.
The Collector Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 If you don't believe you deserve a beautiful girlfriend you'll never have a beautiful girlfriend.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 Thanks for responding CheriePie.. THe only reason why I thought she might be interested is that I was operating under the assumption that A-she knew I was interested in her by catching me checking her out B-she knew she was not interested in me, as evidenced by her looking away when we made eye contact C-girls who are not interested in guys who they know are interested in them will go out of there way to avoid those guys, seeing them, talking to them etc. So the very fact that she sat next to me that day and iniated a convo with me,k seemed to go against these rules, and that is why they confused me so. What do yout hink>?
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 It is just that I have no self confidence man, you are right, I hear what you are saying. I was curious, do you have any opinion as to whether or not this girl was interested in me or not?
Sweetcheripie Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 You sure have posted a LOT of posts about this. Do you think you might be a little obsessivie? Who cares what all of us think - most everyone agrees she was/is interested so take the advice that you need to just forget about the rejection and take a leap and start talking to her. But seriously, Ponz... I think you are in need of some therapy. A therapist could really help with the fear of rejection and find out the root of your seemingly deep need for approval. You have reached out for help here and that's great but I think you might find a therapist super helpful.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 I would really appreciate your no nonsesnse reply to my hypothetical above. Was she interested in your opinion or not necessarily so? Please advise. Thanks.
lino Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Mate, she was interested for sure. She even took the initiative to you but you didn't notice it. No big deal it's just you that must start a conversation with her now. If by chance she comes & sits next to you and talks to you again then you gotta keep talking to her & eventually ask her out. Why don't you go sit next to her for the next class?
The Collector Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 It is just that I have no self confidence man, you are right, I hear what you are saying. I was curious, do you have any opinion as to whether or not this girl was interested in me or not? To be honest, yes it seems she showed interest - but you kinda blew it by not seizing the opportunity she gave you. Grab your balls and talk to her. She's a girl. She likes boys. Sounds like she likes you. It's better to regret something you have done than something you haven't. And most importantly, always assume the sale. Picture yourself talking to her, and she's receptive and laughing and you're having a great time. Don't focus on the negative outcomes, that's what losers do. And enjoy it, it's fun.
Krytie TV Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 OP, I've come to develop the stance of if you have enough reason to wonder, then always assume the answer is yes. It has been a good thing for me and has encouraged to make moves I might not have before... and many with positive outcomes. If you wonder... go for it. What's the harm in trying?
Author Ponzoli Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 I appreciate your input and your concern for my well being. It is just that I don't handle rejection well and I figured I would come on there to seek the advice of as many objective people as possible to gauge whether or not I was reading what I wanted to read into the simple fact that she sat down by me once, and asked about my ankle. I really do appreciate the responses. It is just that I am infatuated with this girl. Who cares what all of us think - most everyone agrees she was/is interested so take the advice that you need to just forget about the rejection and take a leap and start talking to her. But seriously, Ponz... I think you are in need of some therapy. A therapist could really help with the fear of rejection and find out the root of your seemingly deep need for approval. You have reached out for help here and that's great but I think you might find a therapist super helpful.
crazy_grl Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I appreciate your input and your concern for my well being. It is just that I don't handle rejection well and I figured I would come on there to seek the advice of as many objective people as possible to gauge whether or not I was reading what I wanted to read into the simple fact that she sat down by me once, and asked about my ankle. I really do appreciate the responses. It is just that I am infatuated with this girl. When you see a girl you like, don't take so long to talk to her. Then you won't get as infatuated, and if you get rejected, you won't feel as bad. If you worry so much about being rejected that you don't make move, you just end up making things worse for yourself. Realistically, you don't even know this girl. You've built her up in your head. That's why you're infatuated. The real her might not be as great as you've made her out to be. When you talk to her, don't think of her as some gorgeous girl you're infatuated with. Think of her just as someone you want to get to know.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 16, 2007 Author Posted October 16, 2007 I completely understand what you are saying about building her up too much in my head. It is just really hard for me to approach women is all. Is it fair to say, that judging by your other posts, you are of the opinion that she is interested in me, or are you of the opinion that she may/or may not be? I just wanted to clarify your opinion regarding the facts I laid out on my OP. Like I said, I still didn't know what to make of the fact that she looked away from me without smiling when we made eye contact. Thanks!
crazy_grl Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Yes, I think she's interested. But I also think you'll never know unless you TALK TO HER. Maybe she didn't smile because she was surprised and caught of guard when SHE was checking YOU out. Even pretty, bubbly and seemingly outgoing girls can have shy and embarrassed moments. What is it going to take for you to just talk to her? Or are you just going to keep posting on the internet about it until you can get enough people tell you she's not interested so that you can feel justified in not talking to her?
Not_Kosher Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 At this point it doesn't really matter if she is or isn't interested in you, it is in your best interest to work on your confidence and approaching readiness because you're already rejecting yourself. Once you start doing that, make your self known to her regardless of her feelings of you, it would be a good lesson in following through with what you'd normally be apprehensive to do:)
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