bobrobenobtob Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Ok so here it goes. I recently made friends with two people and we have been real close and having lots of fun together. I think my problem though is that I am jealous of them hanging out together without me. My stomach gets all knotted up when I think of it for some reason and this is not a normal feeling. I should be happy with the time I get to spend with them right? How can I cope with these feelings or possibly get rid of them? Is there anyone else that gets the same way I do or is this something that I should go to counseling for?
peter333 Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Hi, just a quick question. Do you have any romantic feelings towards any off the two friends?
Author bobrobenobtob Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 No romantic feelings involved.
EYECANDY000 Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 have you asked them why they do activities without including you? Is it that they know you may not be interested in the activity and so they dont ask? Do u always have to invite yourself when it comes to hanging out with them?
peter333 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Ok, in that case I would say that you are in away feeling upset that they didn’t consider asking if you would like to join them, therefore your mind is jumping to a conclusion that they may no longer like you. If you see them as really close friends and deep down you are have second thoughts about if they see you the same way, the feeling you are have are coursed by that fact that you may feel that you are slowly losing them as friends, these feelings are completely natural. From what you have said I gather they also enjoy spending time with you. I don’t think that they are consciously not including you. As you have said that they are new friends I think that the more you go out with them the more they will remember to ask you ‘if you would like to join us’. I don’t think you have anything to worry about, just give it time and I’m sure that they will begin to include you more. Hope this helps Peter333
Author bobrobenobtob Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 Well said Pete. I think that it is what it will take, time! After reading your post I see that I am looking to deep into this and know that they aren't doing these things consciously like you said. We have become close and I know they are not trying not to include me, I like hanging out with them and they like hanging out with me. I guess it is just during those times when I am not available to chill I get upset because I can't be with them to have fun.
Magnatolia Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 You're jealous that they will lose interest in you. Why do they not invite you? Maybe it's an activity they know you don't like.
GirlZilla Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Try not to let it bother you so much...make other friends.
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