baby-boo Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 (bf of 2 years broke up wif me a week ago, said he didnt love me anymre, have had NC since then) but last night he rang me... we stayed on the fone for about 3 hours. He said he missed me... but he didnt want to get back with me and he jst wasnt sure what he wanted. He cried down the phone about being confused with things. He told me he still needed more time and that he wasnt sure if things between us could work.. but then at the same time he said that he feels so alone and he needed to ring me cos im the only person he understands and trusts. I dont get it, its made it so much harder for me... i managed a whole week NC and when he rang last nite i thought we wer back together... but insted he jst told me he shouldnt of rang me and he's sorry and he needs more time what does all this mean? do we still have a chance?
The Collector Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I think someone's motives in these circumstances are more to do with checking you are still missing them, and making sure you don't hate them/are planning revenge. My advice would be the same to a man in your situation- **** him if he doesn't fancy you anymore, find someone who does. And if you really want to reignite their interest, that's the way also.
Author baby-boo Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 why? he has so much going on at the moment, hes doing a dgree at college, but his parents kicked him out so he ended up with no where to stay, his sister took him in, but treats him pretty much like crap. he has no money and is under alot of stress. Its hard for him, its only natural he wil have mixed emotions at the moment rite?
buckdawg Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 why? he has so much going on at the moment, hes doing a dgree at college, but his parents kicked him out so he ended up with no where to stay, his sister took him in, but treats him pretty much like crap. he has no money and is under alot of stress. Its hard for him, its only natural he wil have mixed emotions at the moment rite? the reason he called is either a.) he was lonely and you were his safety blanket or b.) he wants to make sure he still had some sort of control over you. both reasons are horribly selfish. second. obviously i don't know him or you or the situation but if the kids is working hard on his degree then wth would his parents kick him out? and as far as being stressed, it doesn't go away so if this is how he deals with it now, how will he deal with it in the future?
Author baby-boo Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 His parents have always been really horrible to him, never pushed him to succeed and never praised him for anything good. Theyve never given him discipline yet they made him do ALL the work around the house and didnt give him any thanks for the dozens of chores he had to do. The kicked him out because he was of age, as they did to his older sister wen she was old enough.
Bosiell Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I dont know Baby-Boo, break ups just blow simple as that. So much emotion and confusion on both parties (although im thinking my ex hasnt got a heart at all to be emotive about). He is obviously confused also and probably genuinely does miss you, its only natural. Whether thats reason enough to believe something could still happen between you? Well why the hell not! It could, simple as that! Head and heart stuff as ever, which is stronger today. I would do anything for my ex to cry down the phone at me regardless as to the reasons but just to show some damn feeling from that cold heart of hers! Im ranting, just feel that way out today Im afraid
Author baby-boo Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 boisiell, i felt the same, before this... i wanted him to ring... and i know the idea of ur ex ringin you for the smae reason min did would seem great... but its put me back at square one...
Bosiell Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I wouldnt be back to sqaure one. Like I said regardless of whether she was ringing coz she wanted me back or not. Just to know she still cared for me even a little still, would be comforting. She cut me from her life like you wouldnt believe. There are days when I feel I do not care whether she does get in touch, but today I am just feeling more down than usual.
Author baby-boo Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 im sorry... wish i cud say sumthn to help but im totally stuck myself with my own problems.. it makes it so hard knowing that he's missing me... but he's still ignoring his feeling, and wanting more time...
alwayshurt Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 baby, you need to ignore him. If you show weakness and fall for it at the first attempt he will always use you as backup option. You need to show strenght and that you are better off without him. Weakness is the killer of attraction, and that is true for both gender. The feeling that he may loose you (or has lost you) may push him to reconsider his decision. Don't be too gentle with him. It will only lower your chances to get him back. Be sympathetic but not there for him. He has to be the one to fight for you. Be strong you will see the result very soon.
Bosiell Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 im sorry... wish i cud say sumthn to help but im totally stuck myself with my own problems.. it makes it so hard knowing that he's missing me... but he's still ignoring his feeling, and wanting more time... Respect Baby, not much anyone can say at times. Just a had a big relapse day.. Head scrambled at mo. The drink has come out to, what the hell I deserve it, and all my fav old music to off You Tube n stuff Hes missing you, sure he will, that shouldnt be a hard to thing to handle, be worse if he wasnt believe me. I want to encourage you and tell you things will be ok, but they may not, you have to prepare for that. But no one can see whats the around the corner. Dont rely on hope, thats an evil which can only let you down. But try be calm and see what happens, cest la vie n all that...... /hugs
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