proof158 Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Hi, this is my 1st time posting around here, i been reading around these threads alot lately and i can see thats this is the place where I can come for help with my problem. 1st i'm a 19 yr old guy who's ex is a 17 yr old girl, we wasn't together for long only 9 months, now 5 months into the relationship i got her pregnant, when we found out we was having a baby we was deciding if we going to keep it or not, now to say the truth around the 1st month i didn't want to keep it, so i was pushing for an abortion but she really wanted to keep. she then told her aunt about the baby and after a good talk with her aunt i was really getting happy about having a baby,we was talking about moving in together and all that but everything went down hill was her mother found out. the mother wouldn't let me speak with her, if i call the house they won't pick up, i buy her a cell phone the mom would take it away.. now her mom and I never gotton alone because one day i cought her talking about me and when i ask her about it, the next day she said its a lie and after that we argueded about it and exchanged some bad words at each other and so on.. she even told the police whats happenin since i'm over 18 and shes under, so i got arrested for 1 day, next court day is jan. 23, 08. now my ex would sneak out and see me, but little by little it became less and less frequent and so did the phone calls ... and this is where the problems begins on sunday I tried to call her and she finally picks up (YAY!!), but it wasn't long where she started talking about how this is not gonna work and she just needs some me time... what a lie this was.. I asked her if its cause she like another guy and she says that she would never disrespect me like cause shes having my child. on wendesday I get a call early in the mornin from my mechanic tell me that my car is ready to come pick it up, I tell him i'll be right there, when i come out of my building and turn the corner.. What do i see ... her holding hands with some other guy Now at this point I FLIP, and started speed walking over there and when she sees me she tries to cross the street, so i just follow and grab her and ask the guy, who is he and if he knew that she's pregnant with my child... he says yes, I drag her with me and he just stays there.. I start saying why you doing this and she just starts crying and after awhile I just walk away, now the same night she calls me, I pick up, she's acting like everything is cool and tells me that the baby moved ( she's 4 month now) i got happy for a bit and decided to ask her if she had any feelings for me and she says that she has 0 feelings for me and that she likes this new guy alot, apprently they had 3 days going out and they go to the same school... now after all this I still want her back, I wanna be the one that raises my child, i wanna be the one the gets to feel on her stomach when the baby starts to move , i wanna be there to hold her had when it hurts, i don't want my child to grow up with some other guy and say to me when he's older "you wasn't there" or "I love my step dad more then you" is there anyway that i can get my ex back? and be with her threw all this? EDIT: WOW this is long, sorry for the story of the lonely guy thing i did here..but i need some help
curiousnycgirl Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 You cannot make your ex come back to you. She has moved on. To tell the truth it does not sound like she is ready for a relationship - 17 is very young after all, and while some 17 year olds are ready - most are not. However I think it is admirable you want to be in our child's life, and only hope you say that because you truly mean it (not because you want your ex back). You are going to have to work out an arrangement so that you get to see your child as often as possible. You are also going to have to pay child support, etc. If your ex keeps the baby from you, you will have to go to court.
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