No_face Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Yup, I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years yesturday. It really hurt me bad, not just because of the time..but he found someone new, and finds her better off than me. He says that it was for the best (due to our long distance apart) that i find someone that could be there for me, be with me, have a "normal" relationship with. I feel like that girl stole my boyfriend away from me, and it kills me inside. I want to be happy for him, but i don't know how to be. What do you think about this, im new here, and im very very hurt and seeking someone's advice. I want to remain friends, but I don't know about right now, it just scares me he'll be saying the same to this new girl, and she's further away from him that me! please help me out.
Sanslatete Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I would just let him be to work out his head himself. If you're 'there' too much for him you could end up hurting more than you are now (if that's possible). He found someone else and that kills....I know, so just concentrate on yourself now and don't put your heart out to be broken any more than it has been. If this other woman is involved with him, it's for her to support him now and if she gets hurt, that's just too bad. I wouldn't worry myself with people who didn't consider you in the first place, let them get on with it, you heal yourself, and whether they sink or swim is in the hands of karma. We're with you in your pain and we're here to help.
MattyTee Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I'm sorry to hear of your break-up. There are some lovely people with very good advice here who I'm sure will post and point you in the right direction. There isn't really much I can say. From my personal experience you will need some time to heal and rebuild your self-esteem before you can try and be friends again. In the early stages after my own break-up I just had to tell myself that I would get through the next 10 minutes and if I could do that then I would get through the 10 minutes after that and so on. I had to go on auto-pilot and force myself to do the normal things: have a shower, brush my teeth, etc Things that may help: go for some walks (fresh air helps and exercise is good), talk to friends, cry, pray (if you believe in that) and start focusing on yourself. I know that there is no way hearing this will make it better but you have to try and not think about the new girl or whatever is happening there. Most people will probably suggest dropping contact (you'll see this as NC - no contact). This will give you time to heal and move on. Over time things will get better but make sure you don't bottle anything up - really feel what you feel. The time will come later when you are able to be happy in yourself and then be happy for him. Sorry I can't be of much help
Bosiell Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Hey there.. Sorry to hear re your sitiuation.. It blows, no diguising that. Heartbreak hurts like hell. You gonna have to be strong, very strong. You are gonna find hard enough just to breath at times. The only thing that will eventually will heal is time. Cry and cry some more, scream and scream some more, dont hold it in. Talk openly to friends and family. Check as many posts as you can here. There is alot of great advice to be found. And as importantly you will see that you are not alone with this. take care, keep posting ps. luv ur Avatar.. Spirited Away I believe??
Author No_face Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 ps. luv ur Avatar.. Spirited Away I believe?? very much so ^__^ Thank you everyone for giving me advice..im trying very hard to just cruise through stuff...and gliding while driving helps alot : )
sedgwick Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 The first two days after my ex broke up with me (2.5 mos ago), I cried until I puked, then cried some more, then puked some more. The third day I started screaming and I just couldn't stop. I literally ripped all the bedding off my bed and threw it around (because it was something I could "destroy" without really destroying it or hurting myself in the process) and just screamed and screamed. It was the first time in my life I ever felt like I just couldn't scream loud enough. My neighbor heard it and came downstairs because she thought I was being attacked. It's embarrassing now to think about it, but it helped. I recommend it (but you might want to make sure the neighbors aren't home first.) I highly, highly recommend NC. You will feel SO much better about yourself if you stop talking to him right away. I promise you will. Don't let yourself check his or her myspace or blog or whatever -- I know it's hard not to, but it will absolutely crush you if you do. Just tell yourself you aren't going to do anything that will hurt you more or make the situation worse, and keep telling yourself that over and over again, as many times a day as necessary...
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