Ponzoli Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I was just wondering. Hypotehtical scenario, I am sitting in a class, and throughout the class, i am constantly checking out this girl that sits across the room. At least part of the time, I believe she might be able to see me through with her peripheral vision. Also, there have been at least two times where she happened to turn in my direction while I was looking at her, and I broke eye contact right away both times. So, do women tend to pick up on this stuff or no?
jcster Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Most definitely. But it takes a while to calibrate the radar, so to speak.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 For the longest time I thought I always knew when a guy was checking me out. I've since discovered that my radar is off. Guys who I went to school with told me (after the fact) that they were into me but didn't approach me for various reasons (most of them b/c I had a bf). A guy could stare me down and I wouldn't notice...simply because I am oblivious to these things. However, if I catch him actually looking (like she did you), well then I'd know for sure. The times I do notice, it's usually a creepy guy who is so obvious it's sad. I attract the creepy types.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 Like I said, she caught me looking, but before I could break away eye contact (Neither one of us smiled or anything the split second we accidentally made eye contact) she darted her eyes away. I assume this is a bad sign that she is definitely not interested? That is what I took it as, but a week later, she sat in a desk right next to mine (she normally sits on the opposite side of the room from me), and turned to me and asked "So, how's your ankle feeling?" (I broke my ankle about 6 weeks ago). I was scared to death because A-I did not expect her to literally sit right next to me/in front of me, and B- I didn't expect her to speak to me. I gave her a short reply like "Its better. Thanks." We didn't talk for the rest of the class, and the next day she want back to sitting across the room in her usual seat while I continued to check her out. Thoughts now?
Ocean-Blue Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Like I said, she caught me looking, but before I could break away eye contact (Neither one of us smiled or anything the split second we accidentally made eye contact) she darted her eyes away. I assume this is a bad sign that she is definitely not interested? That is what I took it as, but a week later, she sat in a desk right next to mine (she normally sits on the opposite side of the room from me), and turned to me and asked "So, how's your ankle feeling?" (I broke my ankle about 6 weeks ago). I was scared to death because A-I did not expect her to literally sit right next to me/in front of me, and B- I didn't expect her to speak to me. I gave her a short reply like "Its better. Thanks." We didn't talk for the rest of the class, and the next day she want back to sitting across the room in her usual seat while I continued to check her out. Thoughts now? Sounds like she's interested! Next time you go sit near here and tell her some more about your ankle.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 I guess I just wanted to objective opinion on the issue. I am obviously very interested in her, and did not want to read too much into things just because I really want her to be interested in me. OceanBlue, you have been so much help, can I ask for your input/opinion on one more situation? I will paste it below. Do you think this girl was interested in me or not? I would really appreciate your response. Thanks. "I am walking down campus one day, and she this incredibly hot check sitting on the grass reading. I walk over to her and introduce myself. We exchange hellos and then I ask her, point blank, if she thought I was cute, average, ugly, etc. She was a little surprised by my question, but she said that she thought I was honestly cute. I then asked her to rate me on a scale of 1-10 and she said I was about a 7. She laughed at my questions, and told me that she does crazy stuff like that allthe time so she wasn't freaked out by asking her that type of questions. We then had a pretty laid back decent chat for about 5 minutes (her major, my major, home towns, what profession she wanted to go into, and why, etc.). She then asked me to rate her according to her looks, which kind of surprised me, but I played along since I had asked the question first, and I rated her honestly. After all that, I asked for her cell phone number. She wrote it down and handed it to me, but she said that between school and being on the UM swim team, she didn't have much time so she may or may not call me back if I called her. She said she just wanted to be honest with me. I thanked her for her honesty, and proceeded to walk away and throw her number in the trash." "Now about 3-4 weeks to a month later, I walk past her on campus, without noticing her at first. I then turned around and she was standing in a doorway making eye contact, looking straight at me for like 3-4 seconds. ANd she didn't look "happy". That's the best way I could put it. Maybe she was just trying to place my face if she recognized me, and I mistook her expression of bewilderment for anger, but she just kinda had on a "puss" IMO. Now this was like 5 years ago, so I am just asking to satiate my own curiosity. What do you guys make of this entire weird talke. Specifically: 1-What do you make of her giving me her number, but saying, "I am not going to lie, give me a call, but I can't guarantee I will call you back." 2-What do you make of her kind of giving me an unusual stare that day I walked past her 2-3 months later. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks"!
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 Thanks again. In case you haven't noticed, I often get thoroughly confused with woman's signals/intetions. etc.
sweetbutcheeky Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I never notice. I was just saying to a guy friend that some days it would be nice to be the girl that guys look at when she walks in the room cause I don't think I am ever notices. He said don't worry your noticed you just don't realize it.
Faith4u Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 i do ALWAYS it is not hard to tell. We have six senses! I was just wondering. Hypotehtical scenario, I am sitting in a class, and throughout the class, i am constantly checking out this girl that sits across the room. At least part of the time, I believe she might be able to see me through with her peripheral vision. Also, there have been at least two times where she happened to turn in my direction while I was looking at her, and I broke eye contact right away both times. So, do women tend to pick up on this stuff or no?
Ocean-Blue Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Ponzoli...most of us are pretty oblivious when it comes to "noticing". Like I said, I'm dumb as a brick when it comes to this stuff. So I'm no expert on these things...but I'll attempt to help you out anyway (give you a girl's perspective). She laughed at my questions, and told me that she does crazy stuff like that allthe time so she wasn't freaked out by asking her that type of questions. Lol...this is totally something I would do. I love asking people random questions (or being asked such questions). It's quirky but cute. I know if a guy were to ever be so bold, it would totally get my attention. Because you see, not many guys are like this. Sure they think things in their head, but they rarely put it into action. Some may not like your approach (they may wonder, "what are you insecure or something"...but then again the fact that you asked means you are able to handle whatever response - which shows ball$ IMHO). She then asked me to rate her according to her looks, which kind of surprised me, but I played along since I had asked the question first, and I rated her honestly. I really like this girl! For asking that question back (some would shy away...out of fear of the response). Good for you for answering honestly (instead of giving the obligatory, "but of course, you're an 11!") After all that, I asked for her cell phone number. She wrote it down and handed it to me, but she said that between school and being on the UM swim team, she didn't have much time so she may or may not call me back if I called her. She gave you her number! I would NEVER give my number out to someone I wasn't interested in. Simple as that. She could've giggled and been all elusive. But no, she wrote her number down. This MEANS she is interested. UNLESS she's one of those girls that can't say no and give their number out out of pity or something (but she doesn't sound like she's the type...). "Now about 3-4 weeks to a month later, I walk past her on campus, without noticing her at first. I then turned around and she was standing in a doorway making eye contact, looking straight at me for like 3-4 seconds. ANd she didn't look "happy". That's the best way I could put it. Maybe she was just trying to place my face if she recognized me, and I mistook her expression of bewilderment for anger, but she just kinda had on a "puss" IMO. Did you call her? B/c if you didn't, that could explain the "puss" face she made. She gave you her number and you didn't call! Duh. 1-What do you make of her giving me her number, but saying, "I am not going to lie, give me a call, but I can't guarantee I will call you back." She was either being honest (as in, please don't be offended if I do not call you back...we'll see) OR she gave you her # out of pity and doesn't want you to hold out hope (but then, like I said, she doesn't sound the type...if she's forward enough to tell you don't expect that I'll necessarily call you back, she would've turned you down in the first place). She was just being a girl and engaging in the "chase" if you will. Plus remember she said she was busy with stuff (her plate was full) - so it could've been that she knew she had a lot going on and was telling you that she may not be as available to see you. 2-What do you make of her kind of giving me an unusual stare that day I walked past her 2-3 months later. Because you didn't call! Hope this helps. Remember, this is all mere conjecture on my part. I could be waaay off. Or I could be spot on. Or sort of right. You won't know really unless you get the chance to talk to this girl again. This girl is still in your head after 5 years huh? She sure left an impression on you!
Timberlane Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 The times I do notice, it's usually a creepy guy who is so obvious it's sad. I attract the creepy types. Yeah, every woman attracts the creepy ones. It's just that they are more obvious about the leering. The suave guys are sly, so you miss it. Annoying, isn't it?
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 Thanks for your expanded take on my hypothetical. I just wanted another girl's perspective because that was the first time I had ever been handed a number with a caveat like that "I may or may not call you back, just to be honest"0 I took 3 possible conclusions from that a- She wasn't "sure" about me, so she wanted to leave the possibility of seeing me "Open" for now to allow herself to make a final decision on me once I called b-She probably did at least give me the right number (unlike most girls who would be give out a fake number and just be like, "Sure give me a call, anytime!"). I mean, if she wasn't interested at all, i assume that this would have been the route she would of taken, or just told me that she had a bf. the fact that she went through the trouble of explaining, I am really busy, I may not call you back, etc." I took as a glimmer of hope she might actually be interested, since the other options available to her (giving me a fake number, tellilng me she already had a bf) would have been much easier for her to use. Am I correct, or I am just overanalyzing the issue?
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 Thanks all, i appreciate the replies. I am still trying to figure out exactly what happened. Any further advice from noobies would be appreciated. Like I said, I am still sometimes lost as to what goes on inside a woman's head.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 15, 2007 Author Posted October 15, 2007 Thanks for the response. Like I said, it was the first time I ever got a response from that from a girl "Maybe I'll call you back, maybe I won't." SO that kind of confused me more than anything. Thanks for helping me get straightened out on it.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Yeah, every woman attracts the creepy ones. It's just that they are more obvious about the leering. The suave guys are sly, so you miss it. Annoying, isn't it? They need to be more obvious then. If we were in high school...then sure... But seeing as how we are no longer adolescents...time to be a bit more upfront.
Ocean-Blue Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Thanks for your expanded take on my hypothetical. I just wanted another girl's perspective because that was the first time I had ever been handed a number with a caveat like that "I may or may not call you back, just to be honest"0 I took 3 possible conclusions from that a- She wasn't "sure" about me, so she wanted to leave the possibility of seeing me "Open" for now to allow herself to make a final decision on me once I called b-She probably did at least give me the right number (unlike most girls who would be give out a fake number and just be like, "Sure give me a call, anytime!"). I mean, if she wasn't interested at all, i assume that this would have been the route she would of taken, or just told me that she had a bf. the fact that she went through the trouble of explaining, I am really busy, I may not call you back, etc." I took as a glimmer of hope she might actually be interested, since the other options available to her (giving me a fake number, tellilng me she already had a bf) would have been much easier for her to use. Am I correct, or I am just overanalyzing the issue? Hypothetical? I thought this actually occurred...? You shouldn't have thrown the number away (I realized you did after reading your post again). By making presumptions (that she wasn't interested or had a bf, etc) you are now left wondering. Next time, take the proverbial bull by its horns and call the girl. Like I said before, most girls don't give out their numbers if they're not interested.
halfarock Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I was just wondering. Hypotehtical scenario, I am sitting in a class, and throughout the class, i am constantly checking out this girl that sits across the room. At least part of the time, I believe she might be able to see me through with her peripheral vision. Also, there have been at least two times where she happened to turn in my direction while I was looking at her, and I broke eye contact right away both times. So, do women tend to pick up on this stuff or no? My first relationship with a girl began this way. It was in 10th grade English class. We had a rather old teacher who insisted on assigned seating, with boys to the right, girls to the left. My seat was the last in the first row and hers was the last in the last row. We had a clear view of each other as all the other last seats were unfilled. Gradually we kept glancing over at each other until after about a month or so we were actively making eyes and faces with each other. Next thing I knew, I was seeing her in the halls with her giving me a simple “hi” with the biggest smile. A friend of hers told me that she was hoping that I would ask her to go to the upcoming Homecoming Dance. I did and we continued to date on and off for the next 4 years.
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