Lucky77 Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I am a MW and am happy for the most part in my marriage. I married my best friend, a sweetheart, but with very little sexual chemistry. Last January I was introduced to my ideal man in many ways, who also happens to be a celebrity. This person is seemingly happily married, but is the one who started this email flirting thing that eventually turned into really naughty emails and picture exchanges over the last 10 months. I should also mention that this email stuff has not gotten incredibly personal in other ways, neither of us are pouring our hearts out to each other or anything, just typical sparks flying between 2 attractive people and mostly small talk, several times a week. Recently this person was in town and wanting to "hang out". The first few days I said no and made up excuses, and then I finally agreed to meet. One thing led to another and although we did not sleep together, we came very close. I guess my question would be in a high profile situation like this, is his only motive a good time? Because he could have a lot of women, very easily, although Im sure his position makes it harder to cheat. Should I kid myself that there is some sort of connection here, or just put it all out of my head and be done with it. I have gotten emails from him since, so I dont think it has ended just yet. I cant seem to put this out of my thoughts...
Ocean-Blue Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I am a MW and am happy for the most part in my marriage. I married my best friend, a sweetheart, but with very little sexual chemistry. Last January I was introduced to my ideal man in many ways, who also happens to be a celebrity. This person is seemingly happily married, but is the one who started this email flirting thing that eventually turned into really naughty emails and picture exchanges over the last 10 months. I should also mention that this email stuff has not gotten incredibly personal in other ways, neither of us are pouring our hearts out to each other or anything, just typical sparks flying between 2 attractive people and mostly small talk, several times a week. Recently this person was in town and wanting to "hang out". The first few days I said no and made up excuses, and then I finally agreed to meet. One thing led to another and although we did not sleep together, we came very close. I guess my question would be in a high profile situation like this, is his only motive a good time? Because he could have a lot of women, very easily, although Im sure his position makes it harder to cheat. Should I kid myself that there is some sort of connection here, or just put it all out of my head and be done with it. I have gotten emails from him since, so I dont think it has ended just yet. I cant seem to put this out of my thoughts... I think you already know the answer. You need to focus on fixing your marriage rather than pursuing something with this scoundrel. He is using you for a good time (no duh). Pigs will fly when he wants something substantial. The emails say it all, don't they? So get over him. And work on your marriage (if it even matters to you).
woodsfield Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 it sounds like you are enjoying the fact that he is a celeb who is coming after you while your marriage is in shambles (or most definetly soon-to-be). high profile?? would this guy happen to have the paparazzi hanging around? that would be a GREAT way for your H to find out.
Author Lucky77 Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 I would be lying if I said there wasnt something exciting about the attention part of it.... We did not encounter any paparazzi, but that was def. a concern, and yes that would totally suck for both of us. Maybe that's why Im reading so much into it, because he is willing to risk it all?
Ocean-Blue Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I would be lying if I said there wasnt something exciting about the attention part of it.... We did not encounter any paparazzi, but that was def. a concern, and yes that would totally suck for both of us. Maybe that's why Im reading so much into it, because he is willing to risk it all? Chances are he's done this (and IS doing this) with several other women. Why? Because he can. He's getting a kick out of screwing as many women as possible...living out his bachelor dreams. Do you really want to be one of his dirty little groupies? You say your H is your best friend but there isn't much chemistry. Maybe you should focus on THAT and see how you can fix it. This requires you talk to your husband rather than waste your time with Mr. Celebrity. Because once he's had his fun, he'll toss you aside like a rag doll. You'll be broken. You'll further resent your H for not giving you the passion you so ardently desire. And your M will suffer further. Do yourself a favour. Cut this guy off. Focus on your marriage. Try to fix it if you can. Ask yourself the hard questions. Now is the best time to do it. OR risk losing everything. Because this guy isn't going to leave his W for you. And your M isn't going to fix itself (and God forbid your H find out...). Do something NOW while you still can.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Its not unusual for celebs to cheat with regular people. Some would call it 'cheating down'. Look at what happened with Jude Law, for instance. I don't think it was that he was so overwhelmed with feeling for the OW that he would risk everything. I think it was more the 'celeb worship' factor, a narcissistic ego feed in which the philandering celeb gets to see himself through the eyes of an adoring and utterly smitten fan who would risk anything to be just one of the people he sleeps around with. A big time ego stroke. I wouldn't read too much into it. For every email you got from him, I'm sure he was sending similar ones to other potential OW. If you want to put your marriage at risk to be one of many OOW to this guy, then by all means go for it. Just protect your heart in all of this, and don't ever mistake it for something it isn't.
Author Lucky77 Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 I totally see your point. I have also, up until recently blown him off quite frequently, not responded to emails and told him I was too busy to see him when he wanted to see me. I was not acting like a "smitten fan" really...I guess up until the point where I agreed to meet up with him! Maybe he was getting a kick out of the chase too. And also I think there was a part of me that was kidding myself into thinking that there couldnt be lots more women, because he has to be so, so careful (his wife is even more in the spotlight)... i think I get it now. Im done with it for my own mental sake. Thanks!
Lizzie60 Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I agree with Ocean... he is doing this with other women... I'm sure the 'rush' is amazing for you.. and the danger is that once that 'fling' will be over, you will 'crave' that rush again...but won't find it within your marriage, and your husband will be even more boring in your eyes... I have never been with a celeb... except for a film producer... met with him a few times... but nothing like what you experienced... LOL these people are interesting and we are 'curious' about them... but they only pass quickly in our lives...
norajane Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Maybe that's why Im reading so much into it, because he is willing to risk it all? Are you willing to risk it all? Because you are.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 I totally see your point. I have also, up until recently blown him off quite frequently, not responded to emails and told him I was too busy to see him when he wanted to see me. I was not acting like a "smitten fan" really...I guess up until the point where I agreed to meet up with him! Maybe he was getting a kick out of the chase too. And also I think there was a part of me that was kidding myself into thinking that there couldnt be lots more women, because he has to be so, so careful (his wife is even more in the spotlight)... i think I get it now. Im done with it for my own mental sake. Thanks! The overall point is that you have to begin working on your marriage! You almost traded in someone who really loves you, for someone that views you as a free prostitute. Thats kinda sick if you ask me! You kinda did the right thing... but you kinda didnt too. So maybe its time you really looked deep down and find what kind of person you are.
MrsHellnoFire Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 HAHA.If there is any credence to this thread, is it Lisa Rinna's hubby? They're not that famous to me and prob no worries of much paps.. lol.. but he always looked like a cheating douche to me.
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Lisa Rinna's husband is Harry Hamlin. Anyway, back on topic... If you love your husband and think he's your sweetheart, your bestfriend, you won't mess around and cheat on him. That isn't something you do to the one you're supposed to love. If you're not feeling it in the bedroom then watch some porn to get the juices flowing. Be creative and capture some passion. Or, go to marriage counselling together... He doesn't deserve the betrayal, especially they way he could find out - In the media! Please, don't make a fool of him and your family. Do you have children? If so, you MUST consider and respect their feelings. If you want to have an affair with a MM, famous or not, get a divorce first, then do whatever you please.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 My MM is a minor celebrity in the sporting world. But it just makes things worse than the usual IMO - people think they "know" your situation, think they "know" your MM. But they dont. I never think of his status, never attach it to him if I can although I'm proud of his achievements, and thankfully since his career has dwindled, I can think of it less and less. I wouldn't attach feelings to him because he's taking a risk by divulging information. Every MM takes that risk, and every MMs reputation is at stake if that information gets leaked - celebrity or not. I can imagine its very flattering to have his attention, especially because he probably has the chance to cheat with many. But don't ruin your marriage for something so whimsical. It sounds like an ego-boost. But if your marriage is as good as you think it is, is it worth risking it for an ego-boost?
Road Rage Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 These situations are tough but there is a way to deal with it. When Catherine Zeta Jones was hitting on me I would just remind her how Michael would feel if he found out. It really worked because nothing serious ever happened thanks to me.
Whispering Willow Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 If it is Jay Mohr trust me he does this with a lot of women. He tried to do that with me after a few emails back and forth. He's not that high profile either and he wouldn't have pap around him because he's just not that great of a celeb. If that's who you're talking about then you had best work on your marriage and not fool with this guy. He is a douche bag!
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 i think I get it now. Im done with it for my own mental sake. Thanks! Good. Sorry to sound harsh, but you really need to focus on your husband completely and stop chasing MM, let alone famous MM. Love your husband, he deserves better from you! Why not make some special plans and have a weekend get away with your husband, reconnect and focus that energy in a more positive way, rather than giving it to someone for an ego boost. Maybe that's why Im reading so much into it, because he is willing to risk it all? You were willing to risk it all as well.
Author Lucky77 Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 I agree with all of you. It is an ego boost for sure, and I have to say its pretty fun and a huge adrenaline rush. But afterwards I am bored with my ho-hum life and it takes days to get over it! Did I mention that I am a spitting image of his ex-wife?
directx Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Meatloaf? No, none of the above. Much cuter, and younger and there are 0 paps following that poor guy!! I agree with all of you. It is an ego boost for sure, and I have to say its pretty fun and a huge adrenaline rush. But afterwards I am bored with my ho-hum life and it takes days to get over it! Did I mention that I am a spitting image of his ex-wife? Why would he want his ex-wife again? It's like going to a restaurant and order what you had the whole week before.
whichwayisup Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Meatloaf? No, none of the above. Much cuter, and younger and there are 0 paps following that poor guy!! I agree with all of you. It is an ego boost for sure, and I have to say its pretty fun and a huge adrenaline rush. But afterwards I am bored with my ho-hum life and it takes days to get over it! Did I mention that I am a spitting image of his ex-wife? What about your husband? Do you have children? Look, if you wanna go play in the fire, divorce your husband and let him go be with a woman who will only have eyes for him. He doesn't deserve this from you! You say your ho-hum boring life with him, geez, if you truly feel that way, END YOUR MARRIAGE, please. You really don't have a clue what pain you'll soon be inflicting on your husband, do you? It's emotional murder.
DarlingDoll Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Meatloaf? No, none of the above. Much cuter, and younger and there are 0 paps following that poor guy!! I agree with all of you. It is an ego boost for sure, and I have to say its pretty fun and a huge adrenaline rush. But afterwards I am bored with my ho-hum life and it takes days to get over it! Did I mention that I am a spitting image of his ex-wife? ok.. he's got an ex-wife.. um and is pretty young.. ok, im clueless here. well at least younger than meatloaf, however old that guy is. at least tell us what field he's in.. like sports.. music.. movies... tv..... if on tv, maybe you can narrow it down too like tell us if he's in a soap opera or lifetime movie channel movies ??
Tony Posted October 14, 2007 Senior Moderators Posted October 14, 2007 Initial posts dealt more directly with the OP and her situation. The last five or six have only tried to speculate on who this celebrity is. It's tragic that people who come here have to make a game out of a serious thread (please read the original post). People who come here to entertain themselves need to go into those particular forums and threads, not hijack serious threads. PLEASE KEEP THIS THREAD ON TOPIC out of respect for the original poster. Thanks!
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I use to work for a particular production company where the majority of our clients were celebrity status athletes. Won’t drop names because of all the legal technicalities, of course. But as assistant to the production manager, the most unpleasant part of my job was taking the phone numbers from these men as they were handed to me (a good many of them married) ... and relaying the message to the female voice on the other end that: “So-and-so has requested that I call and let you know he’s in town.” Yes, there was a different gal in every port. Usually some young, naive smitten groupie or fan. These same guys would also affectionately referred to these young women as “arena rats”. Similarly, my own father was somewhat of a local celebrity. A handsome, charismatic lead singer in one of the most popular bands around the night club circuit at the time. My mother (his wife) was a STUNNER, but a quiet, reserved and traditional farm girl. And he was crazy jealous of any man who would look at her (even admits it to this day) ... but it didn’t stop him from craving the ego strokes he got from his hero-worshipping female fans. You see, my mother knew the man, but in the eyes of his adoring fans he was “perfect.” And he liked the way his reflection looked in their eyes. And few times even succumbed to the occasional easy lay. When one or two of them imagined there was something more to the one-night-stand, and called the house trying to contact him again, he’d simply tell my mother it was just some obsessed groupie that somehow got hold of his number. And it’s an easy story to sell (for a while) when you’re a celebrity, because the occasional crazy fan DOES happen. And for the spouses married to a celebrity, it becomes difficult to separate the truth from the rumors and gossip that often surrounds these folks. I think you are more “special” to your husband than any man who has become so accustomed to female attention that it’s difficult to genuinely appreciate it anymore. I’m with the others ... chalk up the flattery as a feather in your cap, but not to the point where you become just another notch on someone’s belt and pay the hefty price of destroying your marriage. THAT’S what will set you apart from all the rest.
PoshPrincess Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I use to work for a particular production company where the majority of our clients were celebrity status athletes. Won’t drop names because of all the legal technicalities, of course. But as assistant to the production manager, the most unpleasant part of my job was taking the phone numbers from these men as they were handed to me (a good many of them married) ... and relaying the message to the female voice on the other end that: “So-and-so has requested that I call and let you know he’s in town.” Yes, there was a different gal in every port. Usually some young, naive smitten groupie or fan. These same guys would also affectionately referred to these young women as “arena rats”. Similarly, my own father was somewhat of a local celebrity. A handsome, charismatic lead singer in one of the most popular bands around the night club circuit at the time. My mother (his wife) was a STUNNER, but a quiet, reserved and traditional farm girl. And he was crazy jealous of any man who would look at her (even admits it to this day) ... but it didn’t stop him from craving the ego strokes he got from his hero-worshipping female fans. You see, my mother knew the man, but in the eyes of his adoring fans he was “perfect.” And he liked the way his reflection looked in their eyes. And few times even succumbed to the occasional easy lay. When one or two of them imagined there was something more to the one-night-stand, and called the house trying to contact him again, he’d simply tell my mother it was just some obsessed groupie that somehow got hold of his number. And it’s an easy story to sell (for a while) when you’re a celebrity, because the occasional crazy fan DOES happen. And for the spouses married to a celebrity, it becomes difficult to separate the truth from the rumors and gossip that often surrounds these folks. I think you are more “special” to your husband than any man who has become so accustomed to female attention that it’s difficult to genuinely appreciate it anymore. I’m with the others ... chalk up the flattery as a feather in your cap, but not to the point where you become just another notch on someone’s belt and pay the hefty price of destroying your marriage. THAT’S what will set you apart from all the rest. Good post, Enigma. Sorry Lucky, but I agree that you are most likely just an ego boost to this guy. These celebs tend to have so much that they are constantly searching for something that money can't buy (well, it DOES in a way, I guess but you know what I mean!) I know you say you haven't been acting like a groupie or anything but he will probably getting off on the fact that he has another man's W. I can understand that this must be very flattering for you (God, who wouldn't be?) but yes, if you're that unhappy, end your M! Lots of luck x
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