AlwaysLost Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Dating a guy for 6 weeks, he is not good about making plans in advance and decided I would text him today just saying hi and have a nice day. he didnt respond so I called him just now and he said "i was gonna call you sonner or later." then i said did you get my text he said "yes but was driving and didnt get a chance to respond." Then he says "so what are you doing later", i said nothing just the gym. And he says "well call me after, i dont think i am doing anything, actally I know i am not doing anything." I just kinda paused and didnt say anything and cut the conversation saying i had to get back to work. I am hurt b/c he doesnt make plans in advance and here it is friday afternoon, no call to make plans, and then acts like I am the last option since he has nothing else to do . . . how do i handle this?
WaterTiger Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 Call your girlfriends and go OUT! Ignore his calls all weekend, then let him know Monday what a FANTASTIC time you had without him. It might straighten him up, might not. This sounds like the much dreaded "he's just not that into you" situation.
buckdawg Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 yep. you're too good to be treated like that. flush him
latefragment Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 it sucks. and it hurts. ugh. i'm sorry you're going through this.
The Collector Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Run run run from this evil flakey man! Even though he hasn't flaked anything as far as I can see. Seriously, tell him you need more notice and feel a bit last minute. See what he says. He's not a mind-reader and may think you enjoy the spontaneity.
madgun68 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Run run run from this evil flakey man! Even though he hasn't flaked anything as far as I can see. Seriously, tell him you need more notice and feel a bit last minute. See what he says. He's not a mind-reader and may think you enjoy the spontaneity.If this is anyones idea of being spontaneous, they need to come up with a new game plan. Even I'm left with the impression that she was an after-thought; As if he's already called all his buddies and they're all busy. He might want to sit in front of the television all night smoking pot while watching a Star Trek marathon.. He just wants company. You want to be spontaneous with a woman? At least as far as I'm concerned, don't pull that "Hey.. I ain't doing nothin'.. wanna hang out" crap like you do with your guy friends. At least put some thought in to what you might do.. sell her on it. "Hey. I'd like to take you out to dinner tonight. Everyone's been talking about this new restaurant downtown. Can I pick you up around 7:30?" I'm sure that someone can come up with something better.. But for crying out loud, at least let her know that you're actually interested in being with her instead of making her feel like she's the last resort.
The Collector Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Well stop projecting what you imagine his attitude is and read the original post again. She phoned him, and he's supposed to have a fancy date all set up? I understand that ideally you girls would have the man thinking of you non-stop, with all sorts of expensive romantic ideas up his sleeve, but I'm addressing the other posts here that laughably tell her to drop this guy because his interest isn't high enough. She seeming;y turned down his offer after she phoned him up - talk about mixed signals! The other issue that some of you may be in denial about is that when men are too available, buy too many dinners and go over the top romantically, you girls see it as needy and get turned off (I understand why, just saying). You respond better to a challenge, which in some ways this guy is being, hence the OP wants more, not less.
birdie Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 sort of agree with the last post. not with the game-playing (about being available or not) but about the others going slightly over-board on this if you don't like his making plans last minute or you feel he is taking you for granted then talk to him and tell him you want him to plan ahead more. see what his response is before jumping the gun. if you feel you gave him a chance but he is mucking you around then show him the door. talk to him first though
Sean0775 Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I'd say talk to him about it. 6 weeks isn't exactly a short amount of time to invest and then just toss away. Most people have a lot going on during the work week, so it's not exactly convenient to be planning lavish dates ahead of time unless it's a special occasion. That and this IS the 21st century, you can call him and make plans too.
EYECANDY000 Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 I honestly dont think its a big deal.. Maybe he was just leaving the options open for you and if u wanted to do something then u would give him a call.. I dont think u should dump him. Just give him a call and see if hes up for doing something. Or just tell him that you would appreciate if he could include u in things.
Lunar Sonata Posted October 15, 2007 Posted October 15, 2007 Run run run from this evil flakey man! Even though he hasn't flaked anything as far as I can see. Seriously, tell him you need more notice and feel a bit last minute. See what he says. He's not a mind-reader and may think you enjoy the spontaneity. Agreed with this. Don't write him off just yet.
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