Ponzoli Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Okay, here it goes, full disclosure. I am walking down campus one day, and she this incredibly hot check sitting on the grass reading. I walk over to her and introduce myself. We exchange hellos and then I ask her, point blank, if she thought I was cute, average, ugly, etc. She was a little surprised by my question, but she said that she thought I was honestly cute. I then asked her to rate me on a scale of 1-10 and she said I was about a 7. She laughed at my questions, and told me that she does crazy stuff like that allthe time so she wasn't freaked out by asking her that type of questions. We then had a pretty laid back decent chat for about 5 minutes (her major, my major, home towns, what profession she wanted to go into, and why, etc.). She then asked me to rate her according to her looks, which kind of surprised me, but I played along since I had asked the question first, and I rated her honestly. After all that, I asked for her cell phone number. She wrote it down and handed it to me, but she said that between school and being on the UM swim team, she didn't have much time so she may or may not call me back if I called her. She said she just wanted to be honest with me. I thanked her for her honesty, and proceeded to walk away and throw her number in the trash. Now about 3-4 weeks to a month later, I walk past her on campus, without noticing her at first. I then turned around and she was standing in a doorway making eye contact, looking straight at me for like 3-4 seconds. ANd she didn't look "happy". That's the best way I could put it. Maybe she was just trying to place my face if she recognized me, and I mistook her expression of bewilderment for anger, but she just kinda had on a "puss" IMO. Now this was like 5 years ago, so I am just asking to satiate my own curiosity. What do you guys make of this entire weird talke. Specifically: 1-What do you make of her giving me her number, but saying, "I am not going to lie, give me a call, but I can't guarantee I will call you back." 2-What do you make of her kind of giving me an unusual stare that day I walked past her 2-3 months later. Any input would be appreciated. Thanks!
shadowplay Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 My question is why would you ask the girl to rate you like that if you were trying to pick her up? That's such a display of insecurity. Did she see you throw her number in the trash? If she did she was probably really pissed off about that.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 I appreciate your reply, but could you maybe elaborate on it? I mean can you flesh it out a little bit for me? Do you think that going up to women point blank and asking if them if they think you are cute and to "rank me" is a turn off? Please let me know. Thanks.
jcster Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 You were supposed to call her anyway... She probably felt led on by the entire exchange. You weren't obligated to call her, but I can certainly see how she thought you were hitting on her when you approached her with your little "quiz."
Author Ponzoli Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 JC, thanks for the reply, I appreciate it. My only question to your response is this: If I was supposed to call her anyway, why did she tell me, as she was handing me her number that "She may or may not call me, she couldn't make any promises she would call me back." I still don't know what to make of that comment.
jcster Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 why did she tell me, as she was handing me her number that "She may or may not call me, she couldn't make any promises she would call me back." I still don't know what to make of that comment. Admittedly, it's a lame comment, but I think that she was trying not to be too eager. I also think that she may have had a situation in the past where she didn't return a guy's call and he got angry, hence the disclaimer.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 Thanks, I figured she might have been put off a little by my approach, and was just trying to buy some time so as to decide whether or not she was really interested or not. U Know? My only ray of hope was that she did actually say that to me. I mean, if she wasn't interested at all, she would have just given me a fake number, or she would have still given me her real number,and just said somethign like "sure no problem give me a call sometime" without ever having any intention of returning my call. AM I correct when I say this or am I reading to much into it?
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 JC, I really appreciate and value your input. Can you please respond to my post above? I would really be interested to hear what else you have to say. Please? Thanks.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 Thanks JC all. I just still cannot what to make out of that comment "Maybe I'll call, maybe I won't>" Just kind of took me by surprise is all.
wizer Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 Based on the information provided, the most likely scenario as I see it is this: You came across lacking confidence by asking her to "rate you". She thought you were a nice guy and were attractive, but she was put off by your off beat approach. So she wasn't sure how to handle it and wanted to think about it. She was being honest and telling you how she felt. Despite her misgivings, she gave you her number and fully expected you to call, at which point she most likely would have said yes. But you never called. So she was angry and hurt. That's why she gave you that "look" when you saw her at a later time. Throwing her number in the garbage was impulsive and stupid. You gained nothing by not calling and probably lost everything. And you are wasting time and effort by continuing to dwell over it. Next time make the call.
Author Ponzoli Posted October 14, 2007 Author Posted October 14, 2007 dude, I know you have said some pretty harsh things to me in some of these posts, and I just wanted to say :Thank you. Seriously, I have come to these posts to get honest opinions from folks on a number of these issues, and I always appreciate when someone takes the time to provide me with their uncensored opinion, even if it is not the answer I want to here. I feel that you and a number of others have done that, and I am truly appreciate of that fact. Thanks.
wizer Posted October 14, 2007 Posted October 14, 2007 I believe that advice and opinions should not be sugar coated. Most would disagree with you (and me) even if they say otherwise.
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