Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I have finally made a decesion to Give MC a go with my H. After many month's of not wanting to face the truth about the state of my marriage, I am now ready to try and get back what my H and I have lost. I have realized that this will not be easy, but it's a must in order to keep my family together. So many of you have shared with me at different time's the fact that if my Marriage was in a good state then I would not have thought's of xmm. I find this to be so true. I want my life back with my H even if it takes some hard work! Just wanted to share. AP:)
RollMeAway Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Although I don't know your story, I'm happy to hear that you are attempting to communicate. Communication is always a good thing. Coincidentally, I just made the call to start my counseling, which I hope will eventually lead to full on MC with both of us. Best of luck to you and your relationship.
silktricks Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I have finally made a decesion to Give MC a go with my H. After many month's of not wanting to face the truth about the state of my marriage, I am now ready to try and get back what my H and I have lost. I have realized that this will not be easy, but it's a must in order to keep my family together. So many of you have shared with me at different time's the fact that if my Marriage was in a good state then I would not have thought's of xmm. I find this to be so true. I want my life back with my H even if it takes some hard work! Just wanted to share. AP:) Congratulations, AP. You've made a wise decision, I'm sure. Best of luck to you.
underpants Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Hey, That is hopeful news. I am glad to see you put that energy in a positive direction. I hope the MC and re-commitment to you M will prove (in time) to increase the bond and love within your family. Best wishes.
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 Thank's guy's for your positive support! I need to think positve that I will be able to re connect with my H we have been married for two many year's to give up the marriage without a fight! I have realized that I have a bunch of issues with myself that have directly affected my marriage. My H has his issues to but I really think we can come together here and work them out. Postive thought's all the way! AP:)
whichwayisup Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Is he willing to go to individual counselling as well, so he can work on his own issues? I'm glad you two are going to MC, atleast this way you both are working together, giving it your best. DO journal writing! My bestfriend recently was telling me that helped her alot, just getting various feelings and thoughts out on paper made the progression easier and also opened up the doors of communication between her and her H.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Thank's guy's for your positive support! I need to think positve that I will be able to re connect with my H we have been married for two many year's to give up the marriage without a fight! I have realized that I have a bunch of issues with myself that have directly affected my marriage. My H has his issues to but I really think we can come together here and work them out. Postive thought's all the way! AP:) Hi AP, I just wanted to say that a few months ago... I didnt think you were headed down the right path. Remember getting upset with James? It sounds like I was wrong about you! I'm super glad too. I usually hate bieng wrong, but with you I'm not upset. You are a good person and you deserve happiness! Best Wishes!
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 Hi AP, I just wanted to say that a few months ago... I didnt think you were headed down the right path. Remember getting upset with James? It sounds like I was wrong about you! I'm super glad too. I usually hate bieng wrong, but with you I'm not upset. You are a good person and you deserve happiness! Best Wishes! Cobra, Thank you! I know I'm a good person, not I just have to believe it, that's part of the problem here! BTW- James and I are on good term's again and I am thankful for that! AP:)
Cobra_X30 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Cobra, Thank you! I know I'm a good person, not I just have to believe it, that's part of the problem here! BTW- James and I are on good term's again and I am thankful for that! AP:) Here is my test. Good people do good things, and bad people do bad things. Its that simple! Take a look at all the things that you do during the day... I'd bet you do more for others than you do for yourself! I knew you and James would work that out! Just a misunderstand about intent!
Integra Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Right on AP!!!! I'm very happy to read this today!!!! Facing our own issues and failings is scarier than hell.. But you can do it.. This isn't going to be easy for you or H, you guys will probably dig up lots of untouched issues on both parts (individual and joint)... But it's so worth it if you make it through!! I wish you all the best not only of luck, but of strength...
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 Here is my test. Good people do good things, and bad people do bad things. Its that simple! Take a look at all the things that you do during the day... I'd bet you do more for others than you do for yourself! I knew you and James would work that out! Just a misunderstand about intent! Thank's for that piece Cobra I appreciate it very much! Guess I am a good Egg! What can I say I just couldn't not have James as a Friend, he's a GREAT guy! AP:)
Author Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 Right on AP!!!! I'm very happy to read this today!!!! Facing our own issues and failings is scarier than hell.. But you can do it.. This isn't going to be easy for you or H, you guys will probably dig up lots of untouched issues on both parts (individual and joint)... But it's so worth it if you make it through!! I wish you all the best not only of luck, but of strength... Thank's Integra! Now keep me on the straight and narrow would ya? AP:)
Integra Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Thank's Integra! Now keep me on the straight and narrow would ya? AP:) I'm here for ya!!! That's the whole reason I joined up, so to speak.. Share what I know, and help others to grow:D.. And me too:laugh:
buckdawg Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Cobra, Thank you! I know I'm a good person, not I just have to believe it, that's part of the problem here! BTW- James and I are on good term's again and I am thankful for that! AP:) this is such a great story i really hope all goes well!! and knowing you're a good person gets easier and easier the more you tell yourself. embrace who you are, don't run away from it! GOOD LUCK!!
JamesM Posted October 13, 2007 Posted October 13, 2007 This is good news for a great person, AP! This may be the beginning of a better life for you. And I am happy for you. Thanks for the compliments....they mean a lot. And I value your friendship as well. I hope that any advice I try to give you will be helpful and not hurtful.
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