Being ok with yourself during break/break up Loss of "loved" one

[Msblueyes]

My bf (7 year LTR) still hasn't moved out but did pay his rent for Oct.

 

We have been civil with each other the past seven days. A close friend is now causing him stress (besides me, lol).

 

I went through sooo much emotion in the previous two weeks that I finally realized that I'm ok. Going out with my girlfriend has confirmed that I'm ok and not alone in the world without a man.

 

I realize that he does need to get his own place & have responsibilities that have nothing to do with me.

 

I'm getting better with that everyday.

 

I've decided to be strong & not worry about it because whatever is going to happen, I can't control....so I'm giving it up!

 

I do feel better!

[Bosiell]

Good for you MS, if you can be that strong and positive after just two weeks then you gonna just fine Be mindfull tho you are gonna get good days and not so good days, if its all good from now on then you are better than most, and not normal

[Msblueyes]

Good for you MS, if you can be that strong and positive after just two weeks then you gonna just fine Be mindfull tho you are gonna get good days and not so good days, if its all good from now on then you are better than most, and not normal

 

I am so not normal, but, I've gone through so much emotional drain, fights, drinking, you name it in the past almost month over a man that I've enabled for too long that I finally have realized, WTF?

 

I've been through his drugging, bankruptcy (caused by his drugging), loss of major cash (we're talking over $100K), and then the infidelities, that I've come to realize that , ok, what's past is past but today was yesterday's future. It's time to make each day mine!

 

I thought I was having a nervous breakdown the other day. I had gone out with a girlfriend, had a bit too much of everything & just kind of lost it. My girlfriend set me straight and has been amazing in respect to her feelings as an outsider, seeing the relationship for just what it is...two people who love each other but one needs to let the other breathe without any oxygen from the other.

 

He needs to miss me. He needs his own space. I already know what I'll miss (the irritations) but I know I will have peace & quiet unles it's me screaming.

 

He can date me from a distance. I need to not be so available. I need my own plans. It was much better, me on my own, when he was gone from May to August in rehab. I got along just fine on my own.

 

So, there you have it!:ofrom one of the most normal weirdos, who, actually knows that they're crazy!

[Bosiell]

Ok, erm lets just say you are unique then .

 

Seriously though I hear what ur saying, pretty heavy **** has gone down. Good luck with all from now on MS.

 

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