amber1 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I just started talking to a new guy. He pursued me and asked for my number. He calls a couple of days later and we have a great conversation. He tells me before he gets off the phone that he will call me the next day. He calls me earlier in the day and left a voicemail. I was busy when he called but was going to call him back later. He calls me again before I had a chance to, and I wasn't by my phone. I then call him back almost immediately and we talk for awhile. Before we got off the phone though, neither of us made plans about when we will talk again. He hasn't called me since, but it hasn't been that long. So should I call him since he called me so much at first or should I wait to see if he calls me again? I don't want to chase him but I don't want to let him slip by if he does in fact like me.
CanyonWall Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 You should probably call him. He called you twice in a row, which is showing real interest. He doesn't want to call 3 times in a row, he might be scared of looking desperate. Go by the "2 calls" rule. You can call 2 times in a row, try not to make it 3 times. Also, guys like it when there is a rough equality of calling times by each person. We hate it when women don't call often, it shows a lack of interest even if there is some.
shadowplay Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Wait a few days and if you don't hear from him call him up. You have nothing to lose.
ItIs Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 How long has it been? I concur with shadowplay. Wait a couple days, and call him if you don't hear from him. It would be false to assume he's not interested if you don't hear from him for a bit. When I get really busy with things, I can go over a week without calling someone, even if I am very interested... but I'd welcome their call if they do call.
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I would let him drive. If he calls, great, if not, that's okay too. Don't be so eager to settle.
shadowplay Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I would let him drive. If he calls, great, if not, that's okay too. Don't be so eager to settle. But what if he doesn't call because he thinks she's not interested? This has happened to me before...
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 But what if he doesn't call because he thinks she's not interested? This has happened to me before... I like men who know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it.
Trimmer Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I had such experiences before [link redacted], and had a good result. This link goes to a hit counter that credits a member's account on this dating site. Casualbaby - if you are for real, this is considered very uncool around here...
peace_pipe Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I like men who know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it. Wow, would be nice if there were more women who had this attitude. A woman that knows what she wants.... an urban legend
Saxis Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Wow, would be nice if there were more women who had this attitude. A woman that knows what she wants.... an urban legend Don't get too excited! It's her prerogative to change her mind at any time!
Author amber1 Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 The last we talked was the night before last. I guess I just don't want to "kill the momentum". Does all of this make a difference if he doesn't live close by? Do the "rules" change?
Saxis Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Reading over this again, and seeing that he called twice with no pick-up, he might think you were trying to avoid him, and lost a bit of confidence. You should probably just call him. You don't have much to lose at this point...
Author amber1 Posted October 13, 2007 Author Posted October 13, 2007 He called me tonight. We talked for a little while and then I told him that I would give him a call tomorrow. So things are going pretty good so far. Thanks for your replies!
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