CanyonWall Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I was reading an article today in yahoo.com's webpage, and it said something about being too picky. Anyway, I thought it might be interesting to see what other people's "I won't date someone who..." lists are. Also, please explain why these are important to you. Me: I won't date smokers (find it unpleasant and irritates my eyes/nose) Women who have children or want them (I'm childless by choice and want someone who is the same) Women who have dogs (I have a fear of them), I've dated one woman with dogs and didn't enjoy that part. PS, there was a book on this very subject, someone just went around asking people they met what their criteria were. Many of the issues were totally random ie "I won't date someone who wears velvet pants" etc. Thanks!
Sean0775 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I won't date... Women who have kids. Women who don't have a job. Women who have too much baggage.
ItIs Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 One towers above all others: insufficient chemistry.
someone2 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I won't date... Women with kids Dumb women Ugly women (4 and below!) Fat women (190 and above!) Attention whores Drama queens Geez. I AM picky!
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Me: I won't date smokers (find it unpleasant and irritates my eyes/nose) Women who have children or want them (I'm childless by choice and want someone who is the same) Women who have dogs (I have a fear of them), I've dated one woman with dogs and didn't enjoy that part. You have eliminated most women from your dating pool.. that is what the article was hitting on about being too picky.. Because of this you have cut your available women to almost nothing.. now throw chance into that as well as her list of won't dates and you are dateless.. I won't date... Women who have kids. Women who don't have a job. Women who have too much baggage. Same here.. but worse.. Remember that women apply their own don't date list as well.. half of the women you might date they won't date you.. I won't date... Women with kids Dumb women Ugly women (4 and below!) Fat women (190 and above!) Attention whores Drama queens Geez. I AM picky! Picky.. no you are single and for a very long time..
Author CanyonWall Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 You have eliminated most women from your dating pool.. that is what the article was hitting on about being too picky.. Because of this you have cut your available women to almost nothing.. now throw chance into that as well as her list of won't dates and you are dateless.. --- end quote Not really, I'm currently dating someone who fits all three criteria.
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 You have eliminated most women from your dating pool.. that is what the article was hitting on about being too picky.. Because of this you have cut your available women to almost nothing.. now throw chance into that as well as her list of won't dates and you are dateless.. --- end quote Not really, I'm currently dating someone who fits all three criteria. What happens when you marry the girl you are dating, You pop out a kid and she wants to buy a dog ? What are you going to do ?.. see why the list is really kinda silly ?
roxy_1980 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I won't date... Women who have kids. Women who don't have a job. Women who have too much baggage. "Too much baggage" is very subjective. Are sure that you are not just using that as a catch all to de-classify some decent women? MY list is simple: - Utterly stupid (if I can't have a conversation with the guy, I don't see it going anywhere.) - No flakes - No abusive behaviours (towards me or anyone) - Men who refuse to take an STD test
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I can't make a "don't" or a "won't" list. I can only say that I'm unbelievably selective when it comes to dating.
Author CanyonWall Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 What happens when you marry the girl you are dating, You pop out a kid and she wants to buy a dog ? What are you going to do ?.. see why the list is really kinda silly ? That's why vasectomies are useful. I've had one. As for dogs, well she knows my dislike of them. However, should we break up, I know that I'll use this list again. I can compromise on some issues but not these.
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I can't make a "don't" or a "won't" list. I can only say that I'm unbelievably selective when it comes to dating. See.. you can afford to be though.. Almost 100% of the available guys would date you so the pool is enormous
Citizen Erased Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I don't have a list. I prefer to think about the positive aspects of a person rather then an impossible standard I could set.
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 See.. you can afford to be though.. Almost 100% of the available guys would date you so the pool is enormous I don't think that's true. There are enough men out there who have their own standards of acceptable.
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I don't think that's true. There are enough men out there who have their own standards of acceptable. Okay.. I was setting the bar higher than reality.. but only to make a point.. Your pool is much larger because of your good looks.. Therefore you can afford to be somewhat pickier... For a while anyhow.. till age catches up to you on the curve then the dating pool increases for the men and decreases for women... I am drawing a conclusion here.. but only from my experience as I've aged..
allina Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 There are few on my list that I suppose I could be flexible about, I don't believe anything is set in stone, but here is my list 1. A man with children- I find children really annoying and I don't enjoy being around them. I also feel like once you're a parent your kid needs to be #1 so I don't see why a parent would date me since I don't like kids. 2. Religious people- I think church and religion are a total joke so that wouldn't mesh with believers. 3. Someone with a criminal record- Don't feel like dealing with a criminal or drama no matter how much you've "changed" 4. Drug user, especially serious stuff like meth, I don't mind weed on occasion but no pot heads 5. Someone who dislikes cats- I have two and I love them dearly 6. Someone who is uneducated and or dumb- These are two separate things, I'm not attracted to either one. I need my man to have at least a BA and a brain. 7. Someone who has never traveled outside of the US- This isn't a huge deal but it matters to me, someone who has seen the world is much more interesting and aware than someone who has not. I also won't date someone who is boring, racist, homophobic, rude, abusive and such but those are obvious traits to avoid so I didn't feel the need to explain them.
Author CanyonWall Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 I don't think that's true. There are enough men out there who have their own standards of acceptable. True, but women are pickier than men. Some women may disagree but I can't see it any other way.
Woggle Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Who I won't date if I were single. Manhaters Women who cheated on exes with no remorse Hard drug users though an occasional joint is okay Women who won't take responsibility for their actions Dumb women They have to have at least decent taste in music
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Okay.. I was setting the bar higher than reality.. but only to make a point.. Your pool is much larger because of your good looks.. Therefore you can afford to be somewhat pickier... For a while anyhow.. till age catches up to you on the curve then the dating pool increases for the men and decreases for women... I am drawing a conclusion here.. but only from my experience as I've aged.. I won't disagree with you that time will eventually erode on looks which is why it's so important to me that someone values the balance of what I have to offer. I honestly don't believe that my looks are my greatest asset. Maybe I'm delusional but I believe that my mind is far more important. I'm no dummy so this is what I need to be valued for, beyond the ability to care deeply for those who are close to me. Hope that makes sense.
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 True, but women are pickier than men. Some women may disagree but I can't see it any other way. There are both men and women who are pickier. I don't see it as being completely gender-related. The part that is gender-related is our value systems.
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Maybe I'm delusional but I believe that my mind is far more important. No.. your mind is your best asset.. Nothing worse than talking to the hottest woman ever and she doesn't get anything you have said.. nothing clicking upstairs.. Of course there is nothing better to be talking to the hottest women ever and she gets it.. and laughs at your jokes.. Don't forget to laugh at his jokes.. Guys rate that higher than most woman realize.. it is all about acceptance sometimes..
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 No.. your mind is your best asset.. Nothing worse than talking to the hottest woman ever and she doesn't get anything you have said.. nothing clicking upstairs.. Of course there is nothing better to be talking to the hottest women ever and she gets it.. and laughs at your jokes.. Don't forget to laugh at his jokes.. Guys rate that higher than most woman realize.. it is all about acceptance sometimes.. No worries about laughing at jokes. There's nothing sexier than a guy with a sense of humour.
oppath Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Can't have cats or dogs because I am allergic. This significantly diminishes my dating pool. I could cope short term, but long term, the pets would have to go. To me, that choice is easy, I'd choose a girl. I would never risk compromising a person's health for a pet. But I know people disagree.Needs to have a degree.Needs to have moved away from their parents/nest/home town, even if it was just for collegeSmaller than meDoesn't **** talk with contempt, only when someone does something stupid or embarrassingCan handle hanging out with people different that them Smoking...I'm allergic to that too. This is a tough one. SO MANY women smoke. It's honestly hard to meet an attractive girl who doesn't, who is single, who doesn't have dogs, etc. I don't like it, but I'll give a girl 6 months. Then I'll pressure her to quit. But if she leaves me at the dinner table while I'm waiting for the check to go smoke...she's cut.
shadowplay Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 No.. your mind is your best asset.. Nothing worse than talking to the hottest woman ever and she doesn't get anything you have said.. nothing clicking upstairs.. Of course there is nothing better to be talking to the hottest women ever and she gets it.. and laughs at your jokes.. Don't forget to laugh at his jokes.. Guys rate that higher than most woman realize.. it is all about acceptance sometimes.. I always wonder if when guys say they look for women with a "sense of humor" they really mean women who laugh at their jokes. I agree, though, you need to stroke their egos sometimes. I only date guys who are genuinely funny in part for that reason...I'm really bad at faking it.
allina Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 [*]Can't have cats or dogs because I am allergic. This significantly diminishes my dating pool. I could cope short term, but long term, the pets would have to go. To me, that choice is easy, I'd choose a girl. I would never risk compromising a person's health for a pet. But I know people disagree. Hah, you're on my list
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I always wonder if when guys say they look for women with a "sense of humor" they really mean women who laugh at their jokes. I agree, though, you need to stroke their egos sometimes. I only date guys who are genuinely funny in part for that reason...I'm really bad at faking it. Yeah.. that is what they mean.. You laughing at our jokes is like us answering the question of if you look fat in this dress..or if we think you have gained any weight It is all about acceptance.. The moment you don't laugh we don't feel connected or accepted anymore.. Same effect if we don't answer the dress question properly or fast enough.. you don't feel accepted. A girl that doesn't laugh at my jokes is the only Do Not on my list..
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