Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 What do you value the most on a day to day basis? The Sex you have with your W(perhap's it's 2x per week once per month?) or the Emoitonal comfort she provides for you? AP:)
Cobra_X30 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 What do you value the most on a day to day basis? The Sex you have with your W(perhap's it's 2x per week once per month?) or the Emoitonal comfort she provides for you? AP:) I'm not married, but as a guy... I don't think I can seperate the two! One is an integral part of the other!
Art_Critic Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 The emotional comfort.. but the sex is a close second.. The emotional comfort comes from all the things she does outside of sex for me.. It might be something like bringing me a sandwich without me asking while I'm down in the woodshop or just talking to me during the day while we are at work.. The sex is highly valued though.. but the sex isn't what it is all about.
Mr. Lucky Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 What do you value the most on a day to day basis? The Sex you have with your W(perhap's it's 2x per week once per month?) or the Emoitonal comfort she provides for you? AP:) For approximately 30 seconds 2 or 3 times per week, I value the sex the most. The other 23 hours, 59 minutes and 30 seconds of the day, it's her spirit and emotional comfort. Those ratios help me keep it all in perspective... Mr. Lucky
DazedandConfused66 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Emotional comfort. An orgasm, while fantastic, is over in mere minutes and a lovemaking session maybe a couple of hours. But emotional intimacy can last indefinitely, it is there even when you are miles apart, and it CAN last a lifetime. To be blunt, you can achieve an orgasm with any other human being or even solo...sex isn't that special when you consider it that way. But you aren't likely to gain sustained emotional intimacy with anyone other than your life partner.
confusedaboutmylove Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 a lovemaking session maybe a couple of hours. geez, how long have you guys been married? I can't remember a lovemaking session ever lasting over 30 minutes, and that was in the first part of the relationship... after 6 years of marriage, we've got it down to a good, oh, maybe 5 -10minutes.
DazedandConfused66 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 20 years. There was a time, about 12-15 years in, when sex was a 1-2X a week session for maybe 10-15 mins. Since my wife's health issues (she has cancer) it's 3-4X a week, 1-2 hours per. We banned television from our lives, I started coming home one hour earlier every night from work, we started eating dinner together for convo time with all of us, the kids are in bed by 9P sharp every night and we spend 9:00-11P making love....oh, but "making love" doesn't mean heavy sweating and thrusting. Foreplay and non-penetrative sex make up at least the first third of that. I've also ensured that we have at least one honest-to-god date night each week for the past couple of years. That tends to cover our detailed conversation times.
Bobby NoBrains Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 A strong first would be emotional comfort. Having your spouse there for you is one of the most important parts of any marriage. Sex comes a close second but it's the emotional bit that makes the sex intense and enjoyable anyway. Just my two bits .. Bobby
woodsfield Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 both are pretty damn close. i think it would depend on the type of day i had. sometimes i need someone to "hold" and other times i just need i good roll in the hay. but i think that to choose would be like picking your favorite child.
JackJack Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 They are both close. I would say the emotional comfort first, then the sex. Anyone can lay down and have sex, but it takes a good stong bond to be able to have that emotional connection. To me, a good emotional connection can make for great sex.
whichwayisup Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 20 years. There was a time, about 12-15 years in, when sex was a 1-2X a week session for maybe 10-15 mins. Since my wife's health issues (she has cancer) it's 3-4X a week, 1-2 hours per. We banned television from our lives, I started coming home one hour earlier every night from work, we started eating dinner together for convo time with all of us, the kids are in bed by 9P sharp every night and we spend 9:00-11P making love....oh, but "making love" doesn't mean heavy sweating and thrusting. Foreplay and non-penetrative sex make up at least the first third of that. I've also ensured that we have at least one honest-to-god date night each week for the past couple of years. That tends to cover our detailed conversation times. Wow, can we all clone you??? Your wife is one lucky lady!
RollMeAway Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 What do you value the most on a day to day basis? The Sex you have with your W(perhap's it's 2x per week once per month?) or the Emoitonal comfort she provides for you? AP:) I think it's a combination of the two that makes the relationship work. I don't think that you can have a healthy, growing relationship without both. As to what's more valuable, I would say the emotional comfort. Most people will have more than one sexual partner over the course of their lives, but I think there are only a few people on the planet that you will run across that will care about you, who you are and how you feel, and not just think of themselves. But again, I think you need both for it to work.
reboot Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 At this point in my life, sex is the lessor of the two. But I think that answer is different at various stages of a man's life. And I think a lot of women don't understand that men, more particularly younger men, need sex to spark the emotional connection. And now that I answered the question, I just have to say, 5-10 minutes for sex!? I would never, ever get any if that's all there was to it. If we don't have at least a couple of hours to devote to it, we don't bother. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to pretend to be some kind of stud. I'm not at all. But you don't have to be a porn star to learn how to take your time, and enjoy it for what it is, and do it right. Anticipation of an orgasm can be better than the orgasm itself. Ever heard of foreplay? That also counts as sex.
michaelk Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I don't think there's a point in trying to rate one as more important than the other. Both are necessary - in fact, they are intertwined. A sexual relationship without emotional closeness is unfulfilling, as would be an emotional relationship without physical intimacy. Having the two together is precisely what makes a union between a man and a woman so wonderful!
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