jaybeee4 Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Im leaving my girlfriend but its complicated. It was our anniversary of 3 years yesterday, and my birthday... Earlier this year she cheated on me in front of my face, I should have left her right then but I decided to try and forgive her . I have become so paranoid and everytime Im reminded of the incident I go crazy and say "Im leaving you!" and then a few hours later were back to normal... I cant help it. But today, I went out and when I came back I found she had been searching on the internet for "How to attract a pisces" "how to know when someone fancies you..." Ive had enough, she is obviously looking for someone else, I think she wants to be with me but also wants to cheat. When ever I try to leave her I feel so guilty I don;t. Im worried she will do something stupid and harm herself, the reason she is like this is because she has a low self esteem and lack of confidence... I am going, and leaving a letter.. but I have doubts.... please help with advice.
Sanslatete Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 You can't keep putting her first if that's not what she's doing for you jaybeee. I wore the 'acceptance' spectacles with my ex for a while, tried to convince myself it was a 'glitch'. But in the end I got harmed in a way that will take a long time to heal and will probably effect any other relationships I may have, in a negative way. I adored her, would have done or forgiven her anything. But it wasn't enough for that bitch and she ground me to dust. Take your own good advice and hit the road, it may be painful now, but not nearly as painful as it could get if you let the deceit go on, just to spare her feelings. Your feelings matter too, if not moreso.
norajane Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Im worried she will do something stupid and harm herself, the reason she is like this is because she has a low self esteem and lack of confidence... The best thing you could do for her is to leave her. If a cheater experiences no consequences from their cheating, then they never learn just how awful it is for the person they cheated on - and they do it again. Teach her that her actions have consequences - that's the best lesson for her to learn in the long run. Otherwise, she'll have failed relationship after failed relationship, and she'll feel like pond scum because she's using people and being used (by the guy that will screw her even though she has a bf just because they want some sex). That's going to make her self-esteem tank. And when she realizes that a guy who will screw her while she has a bf is a guy who just wants her for sex, that will make her feel even worse. Help her get off the cheating roller-coaster by breaking up with her and forcing her to face reality.
Author jaybeee4 Posted October 11, 2007 Author Posted October 11, 2007 I feel a bit weak but its good advice I need. Thanks, keep it coming guys, I always seem to give up on moving on, Im trying it for real this time but am gonna need support.
mental_traveller Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Just leave. Be a man and forget her. If she wants to slit her wrists then so be it - not your problem. 99% of suicidal threats in this situation are complete BS - just a pathetic attempt at manipulation. Ignore her if she says this. If she wants to improve the gene pool by topping herself then that's her prerogative.
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