scaredoflosing06 Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Im just curious to get some feed back on this one from everyone here. What if you was dating someone who was a really wonderful person great personalitly and everything, but they were horible in bed. Would you stay with them because of who they are or would you dump them because you was sexually fustrated? And the other way too what if the was great in bed but they had a bad personality would you stay with them for the good sex or not? Just curious to see everyones feed back on this one espeically the females feed back.
Phateless Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 My ex was like the first and it drove me crazy. Sometimes you can work that out... the second one you keep as a fwb. It doesn't sound to me like you'll be happy with either one of them. Date them both casually and keep looking.
Saxis Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Heh... if you're not willing to teach someone what you like in bed, then do you really have what it takes to work on the relationship when things get rough? Sex is something that can be learned with practice. I think bad personality is something that is already learned, and is much harder to change.
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Can someone explain to me the concept of bad sex with someone you're really nuts about? Something tells me you're not that taken with either girl. Don't settle and then try to change someone. Move on.
Phateless Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Can someone explain to me the concept of bad sex with someone you're really nuts about? Something tells me you're not that taken with either girl. Don't settle and then try to change someone. Move on. Just as there is such a thing as unrequited love, there can be bad sex with someone you care about because they... well either they suck in bed or they're too selfish to put any effort in, or something... I have theories as to why my ex was bad in bed, but I have the luxury of not having to care anymore.
oppath Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Can someone explain to me the concept of bad sex with someone you're really nuts about? I assume it is possible. I've known some girls who were dead fish in bed, just laying there. I wasn't nuts about them though, but I assume they were like that with all their bf's. Any girl I've been nuts about, the sex has always been AWESOME. Sure, I may have had better sex from a physical standpoint, but when I'm really into someone, the sex is really really good. I suspect I wouldn't be really really into someone where the sex wasn't good, because good sex often involves great foreplay, sometimes hours of flirting and anticipation, and that only comes from someone I'm KARAZY about.
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 I dunno guys. If anyone is really nuts about anyone, I can't imagine them laying like a lump.
oppath Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 I agree TBF, though I think there are girls who will. But for me, good sex requires good foreplay, including intelletual foreplay. The entire date BEFORE sex is foreplay if you are flirting, being affectionate, and having fun. I couldn't be REALLY into someone without those things, so I doubt I could be really into someone where the sex wasn't great, because it would be determined BEFORE I got really into them not from a sex standpoint, but from a foreplay standpoint.
Art_Critic Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Define Horrible in bed .... What is she doing or not doing that makes it horrible ?
oppath Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Define Horrible in bed .... What is she doing or not doing that makes it horrible ? Word, if you are in to felching and she finds is abhorrant, she will be horrible in bed to you.
Krytie TV Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 I dunno guys. If anyone is really nuts about anyone, I can't imagine them laying like a lump. For once I have to agree. Hot and passionate animal sex is something reserved for strangers in my mind. It's an ideal representative of a situation, but it hardly ever plays out that way. If you're not into the sex, then yeah, you probably aren't into the girl. There are many levels of sexual ability, but I never thought a girl was bad in bed. If she's having sex with me, God bless her and pass the potatoes
oppath Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 For once I have to agree. Hot and passionate animal sex is something reserved for strangers in my mind. It's an ideal representative of a situation, but it hardly ever plays out that way. If you're not into the sex, then yeah, you probably aren't into the girl. There are many levels of sexual ability, but I never thought a girl was bad in bed. If she's having sex with me, God bless her and pass the potatoes Agreed. There is the expectation that all sex should be porno-type sex. Where does that come from? Men who have sexual problems often feel that is their sexual expecatation, hence their problem: it is in their head! There is only one girl who has ever been BAD...she did just lay there...and after me she dated a friend and did the same with him.
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 For once I have to agree. Hot and passionate animal sex is something reserved for strangers in my mind. It's an ideal representative of a situation, but it hardly ever plays out that way. If you're not into the sex, then yeah, you probably aren't into the girl. There are many levels of sexual ability, but I never thought a girl was bad in bed. If she's having sex with me, God bless her and pass the potatoes KTV, have you never had the experience of hot and passionate interaction with someone you're madly in love with? When all emotional ports are wide-open on both sides, it's unbeatable, in my opinion. I can't imagine having sex with a stranger. I shut down.
Lostgurl Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Im just curious to get some feed back on this one from everyone here. What if you was dating someone who was a really wonderful person great personalitly and everything, but they were horible in bed. Would you stay with them because of who they are or would you dump them because you was sexually fustrated? And the other way too what if the was great in bed but they had a bad personality would you stay with them for the good sex or not? Just curious to see everyones feed back on this one espeically the females feed back. I would definitley stay with the sweetie who is bad in bed. That's not any reason to dump a person in my books. I'd show him a thing or two in bed.
Krytie TV Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 KTV, have you never had the experience of hot and passionate interaction with someone you're madly in love with? When all emotional ports are wide-open on both sides, it's unbeatable, in my opinion. I don't know if I can express this sensibly, but yes, I have had wild passionate sex with someone I was in love with. But I don't see the person as being "wild and passionate" in bed. It was a great encounter, but that doesn't mean that person falls into the category of wild. It was one encounter within many years of a relationship. Just because the rest weren't as great doesn't make her bad in bed. Did I get the gist across? The encounter does not make the person so much as the emotion creates the encounter. And I think that's the message I'm trying to convey to the OP.
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 I don't know if I can express this sensibly, but yes, I have had wild passionate sex with someone I was in love with. But I don't see the person as being "wild and passionate" in bed. It was a great encounter, but that doesn't mean that person falls into the category of wild. It was one encounter within many years of a relationship. Just because the rest weren't as great doesn't make her bad in bed. Did I get the gist across? The encounter does not make the person so much as the emotion creates the encounter. And I think that's the message I'm trying to convey to the OP. I do understand what you're saying and primarily agree.
Lizzie60 Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Im just curious to get some feed back on this one from everyone here. What if you was dating someone who was a really wonderful person great personalitly and everything, but they were horible in bed. Would you stay with them because of who they are or would you dump them because you was sexually fustrated? And the other way too what if the was great in bed but they had a bad personality would you stay with them for the good sex or not? Just curious to see everyones feed back on this one espeically the females feed back. bad personality and good lover ... no good personality and bad lover... no I WANT BOTH!!!!
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