christiecat Posted April 28, 2003 Posted April 28, 2003 I'm 21 and the guy I'm speaking about is 22. We've been friends for over a year now and within the past couple of months we'd been flirting lightly. And then Last night he kissed me. And he asked to stay the night, but I said I didn't think it was a good idea. I don't want to move too fast because I'm looking for more than just a sexual relationship, but I don't want to move too slow either. I'm very atracted to him and want to sleep with him, but I don't want to ruin things or seem slutty. I just don't know how long I should wait. And another thing that worries me is the fact that he asked to stay the night after our first kiss. Does that mean he just wants sex? He seems like a really nice guy and he's been single for most of the time I've known him and I have not heard of him sleeping around. I guess I just don't know how to tell what he wants from me. And it's been so long since I've started a relationship...I'm just not sure how quickly things should move. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!
clia Posted April 28, 2003 Posted April 28, 2003 Hold off for three months. If he is still around after that, he isn't after you for sex. There is no reason to jump into sex quickly, I don't care how long you've known a guy. For most women, sex is a Big Deal. You don't want to go there until you know this guy is really into you and really cares about you.
brandi20 Posted April 28, 2003 Posted April 28, 2003 I think that you really need to wait to even see if the relationship is worth it and to see if he is willing to wait. If he is only out for sex you don't want it. A guy would take a girl that had some self respect over a girl with none. Think about it if you really want to be with him or not. When the feeling is right and the moment is it will happen but don't look easy.
Tony T Posted April 28, 2003 Posted April 28, 2003 Keeping your goal of not wanting to seem slutty in mind, go with your feelings about when to have sex with this guy and stop looking at your watch and calendar.
Kalipso Posted May 13, 2003 Posted May 13, 2003 If you enjoy sex for what it is and wouldn't mond him being with someone else a week later then sleep with him. If you are hoping for some sort of relationship then DONT sleep with him for quite some time. Simple.
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