Archduke Chocula Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Hi all, I've been pulling my hair out waiting for this girl to call back. Some background: I'm 25, and met this great girl at a bookstore a few weeks ago - we hit it off pretty well. We've been on two dates since and they were both great - she was very receptive to conversation and I know she had fun. Last Saturday we ended it with a peck on the lips (she actually initiated that), hug, etc. I told her I would call her. Monday I leave a message for her to see if she wants to hang out again. She has not called back ... I know it's "only" been two days since (now it's Wednesday) but I am stressed over this, more so because I haven't met a girl that's left such an impression on me in a long time. I was very sure she would want to see me again and I am almost positive she isn't the type of person to simply leave someone hanging. I know I will try one more time, but I don't know how long to wait. How long before I try again? And what reason could she have for waiting so long to get back to me?
betterthandead Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 If I was looking for a job and then I got an interview with that person. It looked promising and the benefits were good. However they never contacted me back. Do I stick around and hope they contact me? No. I would never focus just on one job, I would resumes out to 10-20 jobs and one or two of them will want to check me out. Usually when those one or two companies do check me out they usually turn out to be crappy so I keep moving on till I find one that meets most of what I look for.
birdie Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 while I'm sure the comparison is meant to be helpful, it isn't really, people are not machines and there are emotions involved in dating - unlike in a job search. so my advice to the OP is that over the weekend I would maybe send a text and if I never got a reply I would leave it at that. it's ok in my book to give a person another chance - at least you won't beat yourself up over that and keep wondering. people disappear for all sorts of reasons in the beginning. maybe she has some personal stuff going on that she can't share with you, maybe something else. I know it's difficult but there is no way of knowing. my sympathies too because I'm the same, I don't tend to meet guys I like that often either.
jophil28 Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Hi all, I've been pulling my hair out waiting for this girl to call back. You are 25 years old and you already have a severe dose of "oneitis". You should NEVER get this emotionally invested in one woman UNTIL she has qualified herself as worthy of your time, affection and your exclusive attention. You have had two dates with her ONLY. Has she passed inspection ? I do not care how "great" she is or how HOT, how is her character ? You do not know yet because character flaws reveal themselves slowly over time. You should be dating other "options" and not waiting for the phone to ring.
stillafool Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 Well you kind of already know about her character. She says she's in love with her BF and then makes out with you. I think she is a player. You say she's gorgeous? Well you may not be the only one she's testing the waters with. It just sounds like her BF is her main man and probably who she wants to eventually marry. I say move on from her because if she was interested in you or someone else she certainly wouldn't talk about how in love she is with her BF on Myspace.
Phateless Posted October 11, 2007 Posted October 11, 2007 You are 25 years old and you already have a severe dose of "oneitis". You should NEVER get this emotionally invested in one woman UNTIL she has qualified herself as worthy of your time, affection and your exclusive attention. You have had two dates with her ONLY. Has she passed inspection ? I do not care how "great" she is or how HOT, how is her character ? You do not know yet because character flaws reveal themselves slowly over time. You should be dating other "options" and not waiting for the phone to ring. Strong MM... he's right tho. you can't allow yourself to get that wrapped up that quickly. i do the same thing to myself from time to time (only when i really like her) and it kills me. you just have to stay distracted with other women so that you don't drive yourself insane over this one. that way, if it doesn't work out, at least you're not dead in the water. There's no way to know what's up with her. You will probably never know, and that's the infuriating part of dating. Maybe she was miffed that you waited a couple of days to call? Maybe she's trying to make you sweat and playing hard to get? Maybe she met someone else, got back with her ex, lost her voice... You'll drive yourself insane wondering. Don't worry about it, and if she calls, she calls...
jcster Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 You should be dating other "options" and not waiting for the phone to ring. How's that working for you? Oh well, maybe next year......
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