Gunny376 Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 THATS the one ~ in a nutshell ~ thass da kiddie :bunny: My sweetie split with his X wiff of 15 years ~ oohh ~ 6 year ago now ~~ and I ALWAYS remember one of his closest friends sayin to him when he got all bent and twisted bout the divorce (she left him for another dude) ~ "What the f*ck can HE do to her that you aint ALREADY done ??? ~ bar f*ck her in the ear hole ~ !! :laugh: I found that Hi- freakin-larious ~~ And SO true ~ !!! But for real! Once you're @SS has done a certain amount of living? What can "they" do to you? Make you join the Marine Corps? Shave your head? Send you to Parris Island? Send you to Vietnam? Send you to Iraq? Afghanstain? Make you marry someone you're not in love with? Don't won't to spend the rest of your life with? God! I'm so glad I'm on the "otherside" of all this BS! I'm so glad I caught the "bus to Mexico!"
Author ilmw Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 Ok... thanks everyone for your post! Lots of them... so I will do a blanked reply.. Ummmm... yes this does feel like being a teenager... giddy, excited... so friggen happy it actually hurts... and my face is hurting from all my smiling. But, in saying this.... I know what it is now to be alone. What it is to have lost my family... the life I loved... but did not truly appreciate. To have lost the one person in my life, I loved more than any other... I know these things. I understand now what it means to appreciate or count my blessings. Add to the above a healthy understanding (NOW) of relationships. How men and woman communicate differently.. (thanks femms on LS ) plus a smattering of books... God!... I feel like I have a degree in relationships now... Any many of you old timers on LS.. were my profs! As for us.. talking... Yes.. we are creating a healthy dialogue. Some boundaries have already been set. So far... we have been on the same page... and there surprisingly been no miss communication... as we are talking too each other... instead of at each other... I have also noticed... we are insuring we understand what the other is trying to say. Wow... it is kinda nice.. not thinking twice about something DW has said... because I took the time to ensure I got what she was saying... Who knew listening to a woman would actually work.........:laugh::laugh: I have listen to so much advise on LS... put much of it into practice... absorbed it... believed in it... and now am "doing it" I believe and that is the big thing... kinda like muscle memory... riding a bike.. etc. I envisioned how I wanted to be... now... I am getting to do it "for real" To be the man... I want to be... and show DW... I am not just the book cover.. but also the actual content inside. I am usually right about gut feelings... and my gut right now is telling me... this feels right. Plus add a how smattering of butterflies swarming around inside there... I learned to make myself happy... had to yah know... and right now... I am beyond happy... In closing.... we are going to take this slow... we have not run out and told everyone, only a small few even know we are "talking"... s6 does not know yet... we are going to ease him in... . Nice and slow. I'll keep you posted. ilmw!
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 s6 does not know yet Okay, I can't stand the curiosity anymore so I have to ask. How many children do you have?
Author ilmw Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 Okay, I can't stand the curiosity anymore so I have to ask. How many children do you have? s6...and s/son 13... he kinda knows... overheard his mom.. on the phone.. with her uncle (one of the trusted close circle of friends) and put 2 + 2 together. Kid is to bloody intuitive... But he is being good and not shooting his mouth of ...
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 s6...and s/son 13... he kinda knows... overheard his mom.. on the phone.. with her uncle (one of the trusted close circle of friends) and put 2 + 2 together. Kid is to bloody intuitive... But he is being good and not shooting his mouth of ... I thought the "6" defined the numbering system for your kids.
Author ilmw Posted October 12, 2007 Author Posted October 12, 2007 I thought the "6" defined the numbering system for your kids. Tbf....:lmao::lmao:... Damn... Im not that much of a rabbit!:laugh:
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 Tbf....:lmao::lmao:... Damn... Im not that much of a rabbit!:laugh: How's the old hutch...errr...home?
Lostgurl Posted October 12, 2007 Posted October 12, 2007 I thought the "6" defined the numbering system for your kids. Me too . ilmw, I don't know your story, so I think i have some reading to catch up on. But I just wanted to say that i'm very happy for you. Your post brang tears to my eyes. The good kind .
Author ilmw Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 Me too . ilmw, I don't know your story, so I think i have some reading to catch up on. But I just wanted to say that i'm very happy for you. Your post brang tears to my eyes. The good kind . Thanks Lostgurl! Well... things are looking really good. We have done lots of talking... mainly just talking about nothing... Relationship stuff does come up.. and we clarify things.... and move on. I have been over and had supper with DW and the boys.. and it went really well.. Both boys really seemed to like the fact I was there. S/s13's expression has changed this past week from.. a sort of hard stare off into space... into "soft eyes".. and there seems to be some peace behind them... considering his tormented teenage of 13... marked difference from the norm. All in all... this has been going fantastic... BUT... we still maintain we are going to take this slow.. one day at a time... and just enjoy each others company for now... This is good... and feels even better. Hope all is well with you all... Hang in there.... stay strong... and get busy living! ilmw
Woggle Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 Despite my cynicism about this I really do wish you well. Some women do eventually come to realize that a man is not always the cause of their unhappiness and maybe you are one of those cases.
Author ilmw Posted October 17, 2007 Author Posted October 17, 2007 Despite my cynicism about this I really do wish you well. Some women do eventually come to realize that a man is not always the cause of their unhappiness and maybe you are one of those cases. Thanks Woggle... in fact she said just that herself.
notspiritual Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 I admire your capacity to forgive her for the months of suffering your wife put you through. The separation has triggered a long period of self-improvement on your part. I am not sure your wife went through the same transformation. Isn’t it too easy for her to take you back whenever she feels like by feeding you with what you want to hear? I know you love your wife so you don’t care as long as she is back. So I am happy for you.
PWSX3 Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 I admire your capacity to forgive her for the months of suffering your wife put you through. The separation has triggered a long period of self-improvement on your part. I am not sure your wife went through the same transformation. Isn’t it too easy for her to take you back whenever she feels like by feeding you with what you want to hear? I know you love your wife so you don’t care as long as she is back. So I am happy for you. I don't know about ilmw but I think he has learned SO MUCH & maybe this is what it took for him to get to where he is & his DW coming back is his reward for all his hard work. It also sounds like she understands that she had her faults & that she is welling to work on them, but again I'm just shooting in the dark. (I have a better chance of hitting something that way:D:D:D) Isn't it a choice to take someone back? I'm pretty sure ilmw understands the situation & he is moving forward because it is what he wants. I wish you the best my friend, it sure makes it easier when both sides are striving for the same goal. Both take responsible for what happened & both take responsibility to make it better. On a side note tonight me & the W went out to eat & I asked the W; aren't you lucky? She said why? I said because you get to go out with a stud like me. She just laughed & said; yes I am!!!!!
Author ilmw Posted October 18, 2007 Author Posted October 18, 2007 I don't know about ilmw but I think he has learned SO MUCH & maybe this is what it took for him to get to where he is & his DW coming back is his reward for all his hard work. It also sounds like she understands that she had her faults & that she is welling to work on them, but again I'm just shooting in the dark. (I have a better chance of hitting something that way:D:D:D) Isn't it a choice to take someone back? I'm pretty sure ilmw understands the situation & he is moving forward because it is what he wants. I wish you the best my friend, it sure makes it easier when both sides are striving for the same goal. Both take responsible for what happened & both take responsibility to make it better. On a side note tonight me & the W went out to eat & I asked the W; aren't you lucky? She said why? I said because you get to go out with a stud like me. She just laughed & said; yes I am!!!!! Yes PW... you hit it on the head. and :lmao::lmao:... good one! Thanks ilmw
Author ilmw Posted October 18, 2007 Author Posted October 18, 2007 I admire your capacity to forgive her for the months of suffering your wife put you through. The separation has triggered a long period of self-improvement on your part. I am not sure your wife went through the same transformation. Isn’t it too easy for her to take you back whenever she feels like by feeding you with what you want to hear? I know you love your wife so you don’t care as long as she is back. So I am happy for you. Thanks notspiritual, I can understand what you are saying. I actually forgave my DW many months ago... not for her but for me. So, I could move on. That in it self... has caused me not to resent. Yes this separation did.. cause me to self-improve... once again... not for her... but for me. As for her feeding me what I want to hear... no my friend... you got it wrong there... I was ready to sign the divorce papers... not because I wanted to ... but I had excepted what I thought what she wanted. She came to me.. not the other way around... and she was willing to be told by me.... to go pound salt. I do understand we have all gone through similar emotional turmoil.... but she never went out of her way to twist the knife. Also during this separation... we have been nothing but civil... and kind to each other.... I also went into this with my eyes open... as I was not going to risk... any more hurt to myself... my family...her family... and mainly my boys. She had to say the right words.. for me to believe... she did say the right words and I do believe... I know this woman better than anyone. She would not put everyone else... through hell...again... unless she meant what she said. She has grown a great amount... and I have discovered in a short while... the subtle differences in her... We can actually talk now... and understand each other... I have no doubt that she is getting what I am saying ... and Vs vera... I know reconciliation ... is rare. Trust me... I am still in a happy state of shock.... but.. I am happy. Further to that... we are taking this slow.. and that is one of the reasons.. I whole heartily believe this is for real.... she is not rushing... nor am I. Where being a big boy and girl... finding our feet... Its all good ilmw
Author ilmw Posted October 18, 2007 Author Posted October 18, 2007 Thanks notspiritual, I can understand what you are saying. I actually forgave my DW many months ago... not for her but for me. So, I could move on. That in it self... has caused me not to resent. Yes this separation did.. cause me to self-improve... once again... not for her... but for me. As for her feeding me what I want to hear... no my friend... you got it wrong there... I was ready to sign the divorce papers... not because I wanted to ... but I had excepted what I thought what she wanted. She came to me.. not the other way around... and she was willing to be told by me.... to go pound salt. I do understand we have all gone through similar emotional turmoil.... but she never went out of her way to twist the knife. Also during this separation... we have been nothing but civil... and kind to each other.... I also went into this with my eyes open... as I was not going to risk... any more hurt to myself... my family...her family... and mainly my boys. She had to say the right words.. for me to believe... she did say the right words and I do believe... I know this woman better than anyone. She would not put everyone else... through hell...again... unless she meant what she said. She has grown a great amount... and I have discovered in a short while... the subtle differences in her... We can actually talk now... and understand each other... I have no doubt that she is getting what I am saying ... and Vs vera... I know reconciliation ... is rare. Trust me... I am still in a happy state of shock.... but.. I am happy. Further to that... we are taking this slow.. and that is one of the reasons.. I whole heartily believe this is for real.... she is not rushing... nor am I. Where being a big boy and girl... finding our feet... Its all good ilmw Ok... just got off night shift.. so sorry about some of the typos and grammar! :)
Gunny376 Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Well you've got to look at the Big Picture as well. Both of you are in law enforcement ~ not exactally what you call a "low-stress ~ no-stress" job? Then having a very young son, and a pre-adolescent son? Then just the day-to-day life of living in a the modern world. Bills, house-payments, car-payments ~ it all piles up quick and in a hurry like. Add in the "stressors" from the job? From friends and family? It doesn't take long for it to add up ~ and its natural for one to look around and to put the load & blame off on the nearest person around ~ the spouse. The solution? Keep life balanced and simple.
Author ilmw Posted October 19, 2007 Author Posted October 19, 2007 Well you've got to look at the Big Picture as well. Both of you are in law enforcement ~ not exactally what you call a "low-stress ~ no-stress" job? Then having a very young son, and a pre-adolescent son? Then just the day-to-day life of living in a the modern world. Bills, house-payments, car-payments ~ it all piles up quick and in a hurry like. Add in the "stressors" from the job? From friends and family? It doesn't take long for it to add up ~ and its natural for one to look around and to put the load & blame off on the nearest person around ~ the spouse. The solution? Keep life balanced and simple. Exactly.. !! That is how I feel I am now... like a duck in water... the crap just roles off my back. I have found since I unloaded my chip on my shoulder... and recognised... my past demons.. and exercised them... I have found actual peace inside of my self.... so when... stressors... do appear, I am able to handle them with out a flicker of an eye lid. As for a simple life.... I have found that... I don't give a sh@t what the Jones's have... the rat race has passed me by.... and the big house... and all the toys... is not even on my wish list... I just want to have fun... and enjoy life. Taking it day by day.... this is not what I would have truly said.. a year and a half ago. I actually take the time to "smell the roses" instead of speeding by... thinking I will do it later. This all came to my realisation... during one of the most stressful periods of my personal... and professional life. and, it is true.. "Life is a funny old game" and I intend to keep playing it.... the best I can... It feels good to know.. I looked forward to the rest of my life with out DW... and now that she has entered it again... I feel relief... that I know that I don't need her... I told her this... and she was actually happy for it.... She said it was one of the changes she had seen in me.... apparently she has seen a few over the past several months. and to update you all... I have been seeing a lot of DW this past week... been over a couple of times for dinner with her and the boys... I noticed... and she commented later... how happy they seemed. Tomorrow night we are going out again to a reception for one of a joint friend.. we have both known for years... so... us seeing each other again... will become public knowledge... We are both cool with that. We had a good talk about it... to find out.. how we were doing.. and how each of us felt about this. I can't believe.. the difference in how we are communicating. Not once.. have we had one miscommunication... Holy Crap.... This is a first... for me. :eek: Quite refreshing... In a nutshell... this is going very well.... and a lot better than I could have imagined. We are still adamant.. that we are not going to rush this.... I am not moving back in... We are dating... and seeing each other... and this is how it will remain for now. We have so far.. kept each other... in the loop on where we are at... emotionally. So far... we have remained on the same page... another Holy Crap!... Anyhoooo.... gotta hit the sack.... been a long day... and did not get a lot of sleep this morning....(my night).. When I get a little time.. I will post on others.. threads.. ilmw
Gunny376 Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 You and the DW are well on your road to getting to where you need as a couple. Just one man ~ loving one woman! Just one woman ~ loving one man! The two of you have gone through a martial crisis ~ much as Lady Jane and her DH did years ago ~ and like they you are transistioning, evolving, and re-defining what you are as a couple?! Some make it? Most don't! I can't comment on the DW, but IMHO, you've got to the point to where you can say: "I want and need you, because I turly love you, not because "I love you because I need you!" That can be somewhat of a brain-twister for some folks? The fact of the matter is? You don't need your wife, and she doesn't need you. Day to day ~ both of you can and will get by without each other! But you both realize ~ you're not going to find in another ~ what you have together. Its special and unique ~ and very damn rare! And even harder to find! IMHO? You and her have transcended "sex" and preconcived gender roles. That's not to say your not a man and she's not a woman ~ but in this modern day society ~ things get blurred? I think with time and communication ~ that you can get beyond all of that. That's its just about doing whatever needs to be done. One man loving one woman, one woman loving one man ~ and trying to hold it together in the middle. You and she have the one single greatest thing going for you? DIALOG! An on-going conversation! Go slow! Keep sex out of the picture for now! You've got to want it, earn it ilmw~ work for it! Lay a foundation! Don't sell your love for her cheap! Nor her love for you! Work for it! And make her work for it! Slave for it! And your happy azz?! You do the same!
Author ilmw Posted October 19, 2007 Author Posted October 19, 2007 You and the DW are well on your road to getting to where you need as a couple. Just one man ~ loving one woman! Just one woman ~ loving one man! The two of you have gone through a martial crisis ~ much as Lady Jane and her DH did years ago ~ and like they you are transistioning, evolving, and re-defining what you are as a couple?! Some make it? Most don't! I can't comment on the DW, but IMHO, you've got to the point to where you can say: "I want and need you, because I turly love you, not because "I love you because I need you!" That can be somewhat of a brain-twister for some folks? The fact of the matter is? You don't need your wife, and she doesn't need you. Day to day ~ both of you can and will get by without each other! But you both realize ~ you're not going to find in another ~ what you have together. Its special and unique ~ and very damn rare! And even harder to find! IMHO? You and her have transcended "sex" and preconcived gender roles. That's not to say your not a man and she's not a woman ~ but in this modern day society ~ things get blurred? I think with time and communication ~ that you can get beyond all of that. That's its just about doing whatever needs to be done. One man loving one woman, one woman loving one man ~ and trying to hold it together in the middle. You and she have the one single greatest thing going for you? DIALOG! An on-going conversation! Go slow! Keep sex out of the picture for now! You've got to want it, earn it ilmw~ work for it! Lay a foundation! Don't sell your love for her cheap! Nor her love for you! Work for it! And make her work for it! Slave for it! And your happy azz?! You do the same! "You got er" Yeah... Gunns I hear yah... This is also why I still come on LS..... It does help ground me... and I will continue to come on LS.... to remind myself... where I was... and how much I did not want to be there... Thanks again for helping keeping me on the "right" path... ilmw
Missy27 Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 ~ I think Gunz thing about on-going dialog couldnt be more adapt to you and the missus right now treacle ~ work at the foundations again ~ and let the simple life flow easy through your veins ~~ Like another poster said ~~ "you removed that chip off ur shoulder" ~~ takes a big man to do that when hes in law enforcement or the millitary ~~ some NEVER get there ~~
Gunny376 Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 ~ I think Gunz thing about on-going dialog couldnt be more adapt to you and the missus right now treacle ~ work at the foundations again ~ and let the simple life flow easy through your veins ~~ Like another poster said ~~ "you removed that chip off ur shoulder" ~~ takes a big man to do that when hes in law enforcement or the millitary ~~ some NEVER get there ~~ Me? I'm hard-headed! Its taken me a long, long, long time to come to understand ~ "That less is more!" Its taken me a long time to understand ~ to comprehend living a simple life ~ and un-complicated life! K.I.S.S ~ Keep it simple ~ Stupid! Its not about the money! Its not about the big house on the hill! Its not about your job, nor your carrer! Its not about what you own, the 52" plasma tv that cost you $5000, nor about the BMW, nor about whatever! Its about one man ~ loving ~ one woman! Just that plain! Just that simple!
Missy27 Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 Me? I'm hard-headed! Its taken me a long, long, long time to come to understand ~ "That less is more!" Its taken me a long time to understand ~ to comprehend living a simple life ~ and un-complicated life! K.I.S.S ~ Keep it simple ~ Stupid! Its not about the money! Its not about the big house on the hill! Its not about your job, nor your carrer! Its not about what you own, the 52" plasma tv that cost you $5000, nor about the BMW, nor about whatever! Its about one man ~ loving ~ one woman! Just that plain! Just that simple! EXACTLY ~ ! You know what ~ ?? I am at my absolute happiest ~ ~ when my honey has finished work for the week and we sit by the fire with a pizza and a bottle of wine ~ The kids are playing jenga or draughts or something like that ~ I feel contented ~ warm inside ~ right through my body ~ I dont NEED a BMW or a Mercedes or a 50" plasma or a super duper cyber fridge freezer to get that feeling ~ I dont HAVE or WANT those things ~ I drive round in a 12 year old Landrover Discovery with 200k miles on the clock ~ She's BEAT to fu*k (partly due to the fact that some idiot in a Mercedes drove into the side of me the other day ~ ~ you should have seen the state of his merc ) ~ but she starts EVERY time ~ !! We got a wood burner that heats the whole place ~ the woods free so the heats free ~ !! I like living by those means ~ I am not cooped up in some medeieval hovel or anything like that ~ but I HAVE to keep things simple ~ I've lived a life of career driven worry and stress and angst before and you know what ~ it REALLY didn't get me ANYWHERE. I get up ~ feed the chickens and the dogs ~ wake him up with a cuppa tea ~ (so british ~ !! ) ~ and we start TALKING ~ Free and easy ~ always is ~ always was ~ always will be ~ thats why I know what Gunz means about the on-going dialog ~ it makes ALL the difference ~ I treat him with RESPECT and he reciprocates accordingly ~ !! I call him on his BS SOMETIMES ~ and he does the same to me ~ he's strong ~ VERY strong and thats what I need ~ someone to lock horns with me occsionally ~ What I REALLY want is to keep that warm contented feeling locked up inside my body ~ forever ~ and when I look at him ~ it regenerates through me and makes me feel good ~ HE makes me feel good ~ THATS how I know its love ~ summer evenings ~ BBQ's ~ little glances ~ small touches ~ singing ~ TEAMWORK ~ THASS WOT I'M TALKING ABOUT ~ ! My point ~ ? ~ I think you ~ ILMW ~ have aquired the tools to achieve ALL of this AND more ~ YOU know where your at and you know where you want to be now ~ you've been given the gift of realisation and KNOWING that the simple way is always the best way ~ you've begun to REALLY find out what YOU ILMW are all about ~ WHO you are and what you have become ~ The wife ~ hopefully has started to do the same ~ sure sounds like she has anyway ~ Both your journey's have JUST begun and you've got a long and fulfilling travel ahead of you ~ I think you will ~ NO ~ I KNOW you will make it ~ together ~
Gunny376 Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 EXACTLY ~ ! You know what ~ ?? I am at my absolute happiest ~ ~ when my honey has finished work for the week and we sit by the fire with a pizza and a bottle of wine ~ The kids are playing jenga or draughts or something like that ~ I feel contented ~ warm inside ~ right through my body ~ I dont NEED a BMW or a Mercedes or a 50" plasma or a super duper cyber fridge freezer to get that feeling ~ I dont HAVE or WANT those things ~ I drive round in a 12 year old Landrover Discovery with 200k miles on the clock ~ She's BEAT to fu*k (partly due to the fact that some idiot in a Mercedes drove into the side of me the other day ~ ~ you should have seen the state of his merc ) ~ but she starts EVERY time ~ !! We got a wood burner that heats the whole place ~ the woods free so the heats free ~ !! I like living by those means ~ I am not cooped up in some medeieval hovel or anything like that ~ but I HAVE to keep things simple ~ I've lived a life of career driven worry and stress and angst before and you know what ~ it REALLY didn't get me ANYWHERE. I get up ~ feed the chickens and the dogs ~ wake him up with a cuppa tea ~ (so british ~ !! ) ~ and we start TALKING ~ Free and easy ~ always is ~ always was ~ always will be ~ thats why I know what Gunz means about the on-going dialog ~ it makes ALL the difference ~ I treat him with RESPECT and he reciprocates accordingly ~ !! I call him on his BS SOMETIMES ~ and he does the same to me ~ he's strong ~ VERY strong and thats what I need ~ someone to lock horns with me occsionally ~ What I REALLY want is to keep that warm contented feeling locked up inside my body ~ forever ~ and when I look at him ~ it regenerates through me and makes me feel good ~ HE makes me feel good ~ THATS how I know its love ~ summer evenings ~ BBQ's ~ little glances ~ small touches ~ singing ~ TEAMWORK ~ THASS WOT I'M TALKING ABOUT ~ ! My point ~ ? ~ I think you ~ ILMW ~ have aquired the tools to achieve ALL of this AND more ~ YOU know where your at and you know where you want to be now ~ you've been given the gift of realisation and KNOWING that the simple way is always the best way ~ you've begun to REALLY find out what YOU ILMW are all about ~ WHO you are and what you have become ~ The wife ~ hopefully has started to do the same ~ sure sounds like she has anyway ~ Both your journey's have JUST begun and you've got a long and fulfilling travel ahead of you ~ I think you will ~ NO ~ I KNOW you will make it ~ together ~ That's right thar' what I'm talking about! Most outstanding and excellent post Missy! I guess one way of putting what you and I are talking about would be? "I don't have everything I want ~ but I've got everything I need ~ most importantly of all peace of mnd, tranquility, free from "want" free from need, and free from worry ~ "freedom" ~ true freedom!" I see people all the time ~ my former step-brother for example? Slave to climbing up the food chain ~ to success, or at least his definition of it. Running to and fro, helter-skelter chasing after the all might buck. Making more money than ever ~ just as broke as ever? One paycheck away from a "refirdgerator" crisis (no food in the house) and one month away from foreclosure with a first and second mortgage on the house? Meanwhile I get up each morning and step out back on my back porch with my morning coffee, and sit in my porch swing and watch the deer graze ~ just chillin! I don't know that the "I" man are where you and I are at yet ~ but I think him and the DW are getting there quick, fast, and in a hurry like! Learning what to put in, what to take out? Learning to "work to live ~ not live to work!" All the "successful living" is a large part of what's breaking couples up! Trying to do too much, have too much ~ trying to impress people that could otherwise give a damn about your happy ass! Four car garage and still adding on? $60 to $80K cars? Shelling out half a million for little boxes of houses? WTF? There's a lot to be said for the "Mother-Earth ~ Hobbit ~ Jethro Tull ~ cottage lifestyle"! For getting out of the rat-race, and to quit trying to climb up the food chain. I personally know some rich people ~ millionaires even ~ and they're some of the most miserable SOB'S I've ever meet! Always working their azzes off to make more ~ scared to death of losing what they've got! I've only meet one that had enough sense to have his brother buy him out of the family business to the tune of $75 million at age 50, to concentrate on living life, take music lessons, and to concentrate on his wife, his family and children. Life's for living! Get busy living or get busy dying! At some point in time? We've all got to catch the bus to Mexico and just chill the f**k out! I like you? Don't live an exhorbant life, and I don't have everything I want ~ but I've got everything I need. I could pack it all up tomorrow and move to Florida and make it as a bartender in Margarettiville if I had to? The nut I've got crack each month is less than $400. It took me awhile after retiring from the Marine Corps for me to fully realize, understand, and comprehend that what I really had accomplished by doing my "20" in the Corps was to buy myself ~ my freedom! No more being a wage-slave! I use to work as a production supervisor at a millwork factory ~ until they PMO! I cussed out the plant manager, threatened to whop his azz and told him to take his job and shove it! (Priceless!!!) Went to work third shift in a convience store for a $6.50 an hour for ten months. That's when it dawned on me? FREEDOM! Freedom from want? Freedom from need! Freedom from being a wage-slave! Freedom from being "job-scared!" Freedom from layoffs, from being fired! The "I-Man" and DW are learning and are going to get there! They're learing what to put in ~ what to leave out! Keep it simple ~ keeping it real!
Author ilmw Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 Hey guys, Thought I would drop in and say hi! As for an update... things are going great. Nice and simple, nice and slow. Just a hole lot of NICE. Everyone is getting on great... the boys attitudes have improved to no end... both are calmer... and just all around seem much more content. My s/son the other day called me "a Nerd.... but a cool Nerd" due to some vague STAR WARS reference I made... We all went to Dw's parents place on the weekend for a family reunion .. and I was welcomed back with open arms... I was more than I could have expected... I found out how much Dw's family really liked me.... Nice So in a nut shell.... I am happier than a Pig in Sh#t... and have not felt this content.... in a very very long time... (and yes, I still remind myself more than once a day... to remember the little things....) also where I have been for the last year and a half.... I won't let me forget... I can't forget.... Well better jet.... gotta go and get across town to pick up s6 from school.. Byeeeeeeee!!! for now ilmw
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