carolinaboy Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 If anyone has seen my previous posts then they know my dilemma. My ex and I of 2 1/2 years broke up 3 mos ago and she started dating our subletting roommate immediately during/after our breakup. She has called to maintain contact more than a few times and stopped by my work just this past weekend. This lack of space and the fact that I was basically dumped have crushed my self esteem and made me a little nuts. Here's the latest problem....my ex and I are well known in my town and in some neighboring towns. It was hard to have people I'd run into ask me about her, but yesterday I was flirting and asked a girl I loosely know for her number to hang out this weekend. She gave it to me, but then asked about my ex. I told her we broke up and she said she heard. She then went on to say she really thought my ex was cool. This really was weird and I could see it happening a little bit more. I still want to take this girl out, maybe if something cool happened down the road it would be make the transition to be friends with my ex easier, having someone new that liked my ex. I dunno what to make of it, but it was strange. My ex is not a bad person, just not good with relationships and inconsiderate of people's emotions. She's an impetuous person. The other thing Im thinking about is has anyone on here dated a twin? My ex was a twin and that aspect has always made me think our relationship was not a priority. In fact it wasnt. Any thoughts on dating a twin?
wizer Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 I still want to take this girl out, maybe if something cool happened down the road it would be make the transition to be friends with my ex easier, having someone new that liked my ex. The thought of being friends with your ex, and this new woman facilitating that shouldn't even be on your mind. Your ex is your ex for a reason. Forget about her and move on.
Author carolinaboy Posted October 10, 2007 Author Posted October 10, 2007 what i meant was I dont really want any new girls i'm dating make me reconnect with my ex, it's that i'm interested in a girl who thinks kindly of my ex. that's a bummer cos i don't want them to hang out or to talk much about my ex with the new girl. i was saying that the only good thing that could come out of it would be if I moved on and saw my ex and didnt have romantic feelings and could just be her friend. All said, I shouldnt be thinking about my ex you are right, but it was weird to hit on a girl and simultaneously talk about my ex. Ya know?
wizer Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 The other thing Im thinking about is has anyone on here dated a twin? My ex was a twin and that aspect has always made me think our relationship was not a priority. In fact it wasnt. Any thoughts on dating a twin? I think dating a twin would be cool. But only if you dated them both at the same time. Otherwise, there would be no benefit.
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