overandout Posted October 10, 2007 Posted October 10, 2007 How many ex OW who are now married to the mm they had the affair with, would still be with him if he hadn't left home. OR is that impossible to answer since it is hypothetical and so you didn't have to address the situation. Same question applies to ex OM who married their mw. Please state if the married partner (now your husband/wife) had children and whether you think the relationship between your husband/wife and their children has suffered and if the children harbor resentment towards you. I know this question is extremely wide and general but not sure if it has been debated as a topic in itself before, although it has cropped up in various threads.
Meredith63 Posted October 16, 2007 Posted October 16, 2007 Have been married to my xMM for a good number of years now. I would not be with him had he not left (it was an agreement that we had from the start). My H's R with his children was and is just fine (however, they were young adults when he left). To the best of my knowledge, they harbor no resentment towards me. They are happy that their father is so happy. Not to mention, my H would have never tolerated any nonsense from them from the very beginning. It was his opinion that it is not up to children to judge their parents.
OWoman Posted October 17, 2007 Posted October 17, 2007 My father an his xOW recently celebrated their 20th wedding anniversary, much to my extreme annoyance! It should have been their 25th, or 30th, or whatever. My father and mother did that idiotic thing of "staying together for the children" which did nobody any favours, instead of leaving years before and marrying someone with whom he could be genuinely happy, instead of lingering around in abject misery, pretending everything was fine. I'm really glad they're still together, just wish they'd all had the balls to do it a lot sooner and save everyone the pain.
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